How did you deal with miscarriage and buriel?

[Noleeen]

Hi, i'm just looking for a bit of advice from others who have been in a similar situation.

I suffered from a missed miscarriage at 12wks this day last year and i am feeling very emotional about it. I would be guessing this is normal to feel like this and do others feel the same?

Also i decided against a private buriel (the catholic religion see this as being a living baby the minute there is a heartbeat detected) as i thought because i wasn't that far on there didn't seem to be much point so i just let the hospital do the buriel, however this is also something i deeply regret. However, i went to visit the wee grave again yesterday and found that others had left plagues etc on the wee grave with for example 'baby smith' and then a wee poem on it. I'm wondering would it be strange to do something like that because it was so early on or have you/would you do this?

I had suffered 3 m/c in total last year but m/c 1 and m/c 3 were at around 5wks and natural m/c, blighted ovumn. With the 2nd i had early scans and the heartbeat was detected at 7wks

I hope this makes sense and many thanks in advance for any answers i receive x

i would do whatever makes you feel better - the timing etc doesn't matter its about you feeling you've done what you needed to do.

Not strange at all Noleeen. It doesn't matter how long after your baby died, you can ask the priest to do a funeral mass for him/her. You can out a note on the grave or organise your own little memorial for your baby as well.

Our baby died at 17 weeks and we had a service, have made a little scrapbook etc. Our baby was cremated and we haven't buried the ashes yet. I haven't yet had the anniversary of the MC but felt very sad on the due date and will probably feel the same on the anniversary. Have a think about contacting the miscarriage association or similar organisation to see how other women have gon about marking the occasion or remembering their babies.