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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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Started to miscarry on Friday. Am so sad.

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luckywinner · 04/05/2009 12:14

I posted this on the pregnancy board but I have a couple of questions. Does anyone do temperature charting and if so did you start your chart from the day you miscarried?

I just feel so sad and fed up and hoping it will get better soon.

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Thandeka · 05/05/2009 09:07

Hello,
Didn't want to leave this unanswered. So sorry about what you are going through, it is completely horrible and am still in the sad phase myself. I do temperature charting and I had my MMC 2 weeks ago (bleeding stopped about 5 days ago and I have just started testing negative on HPT's) I didn't think it was worth temping until the bleeding stopped (even when I had my period I didnt until about day 7 or 10- but I ovulate late anyhow). I have been using persona and my monitor is asking for tests at about the right time and am now "day 17" of cycle and I think things are starting to kick back to normal so I am hoping to ovulate in the next week or so. I plan to start temping from tommorrow (but meant to before but forgot).

Anyhow very best of luck to you.
xxx

detoxdiva · 05/05/2009 09:11

Sorry to hear your news - it will take time, but you will feel better soon.

I had a mmc last october and started temping again after my first period which came about 3 weeks later.

Best of luck for the future. Take time to rest and look after yourself.

cupcakefairy · 05/05/2009 09:44

Hi, so sorry for your loss. I temperature chart too and I started as soon as the bleeding had stopped after my mmc. My cycle has started to go back to normal but seems to be about a week behind (which would make sense as the bleeding lasted 2 weeks, a week longer than normal af)

hoops997 · 13/05/2009 21:36

luckywinner, how are you getting on? I am in the same situation and feel bloody terrible, I hope you are feeling ok......

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luckywinner · 13/05/2009 21:41

Hi hoops, I am feeling a lot better. How about you? I am really sorry you are in the same situation. It is so crap isn't it?

I have been on this thread for a bit now, come and join us.

How pregnant were you when miscarried?
for you.

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hoops997 · 13/05/2009 21:46

I was 8 weeks today but baby died at 6.5, I feel so terrible and helpless, am going for ERPC tomorrow and dreading it, it's so final, I keep thinking that it's a horrible dream and that I'm going to wake up......thing is that I had no symptoms just a feeling that something was wrong

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luckywinner · 13/05/2009 21:57

You poor love. That is exactly what happened to me when I had my first miscarriage. It is so cruel.

I had an ERPC too and it was fine. It was all over very quickly but please be kind to yourself afterwards as miscarriage is a big deal emotionally and physically.

I will be thinking of you tomorrow and please come onto the other thread. But I will keep checking this one though.

I have gone on to have 2 dc. Have you got any dc?

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hoops997 · 13/05/2009 22:03

No, I don't have any other DC's a few years ago the doctors told me I couldn't get pg at all cos I wasn't ovulating, so this was a surprise but I am so used to the idea of having a kid that it has broken my heart, I'm 30 now so know I have a few years left, but it's not the same I haven't been able to get hold of the dad either so that makes it a bit worse........

YanknCock · 13/05/2009 22:17

hoops, it is surprising how fast you get used to the idea of having a child. In just three weeks from finding out I was pregnant, I'd researched everything from reusable nappies to local nurseries and bought a changing table and baby hammock on ebay, when I miscarried my first pregnancy at 7 weeks.

I have PCOS so did not ovulate every cycle, and couldn't predict what day it would be on if I did. I did get pregnant again within three months, which was quite surprising to me.

I charted for about three years, and yes I did chart straight after miscarriage. My MC was natural and happened pretty quickly. I had some cramps and a tiny bit of brown blood the day before, and the following day it seemed ok until the afternoon, then cramping got worse and we called EPU. By the time we got there (an hour later) I was bleeding red and heavily, and almost everything passed within a few hours. Started the chart on that day.

Very sorry for all the losses here. I think time does make it better. I just passed what should have been my due date, and you don't forget, but it gets a bit easier.

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luckywinner · 14/05/2009 20:51

Hi hoops, how did it go today?

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hoops997 · 14/05/2009 20:57

it went really well, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off me........is that wrong but I actullay feel 100 times better than yesterday, I aslo picked up the little casket and could look at it without crying......how are you? and thanks for thinking of me today, I'm glad I found MN cos I don't think I would have got through last night managed to sob myself to sleep......

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luckywinner · 14/05/2009 21:02

I am really glad you are feeling so much better. I don't think it is wrong to feel like that at all. I think its understandable after all you've been through.

Now go and treat yourself. God knows you deserve it. x

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hoops997 · 14/05/2009 21:08

yes I am sitting on the sofa eating a huge bar of chocolate....ha ha.....I feel like it's gone and over and am able to move forward, have broke up with my partner as well cos found out instead of phoning me to see how I was, he went out with his mates and couldn't care less about what I went through today!! I don't think he really wanted it after all he said!! His loss....

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