How long to safely wait before Ttc and time off work

[award2812]

Hey guys. I miscarried last friday and not sure if i'm normal or not but i want to Ttc when my body feels better asap. Is this normal? Nurse said wait til next af but i'd rather start in a week or 2. Some say this is fine but others have said it's dangerous and baby could have neural defects etc. Any advice? I've heard you're more fertile after mc and feel like once cramps have stopped it would help me to Ttc. I've self-certified from work this week but am already fretting i won't be ready to go back on monday. I was off for ten weeks two years ago after some other life trauma so i get paranoid about what they think. I was only 6weeks so they might think i'm wierd needing this length of time! What should i do? X

Hi, I suffered 2 miscarriages at 13 weeks. The first was in October 98 and the second in March 99 so you can see that I conceived quickly after my first loss. I think you are right to say that your fertility may be heightened soon after miscarriage (or birth) but this benefit will last a few more weeks so give your body a little more time to heal. Also if you wait until you have had a period you will be able to tell that things are " in working order" and work out most fertile dates etc. As you are planning to try again soon, keep taking the folic acid and avoid the uncooked eggs, pate, unpasteurised cheeses etc. I don't believe that my 2nd mis' so close to my first was due to getting pregnant again quickly, I just think it was one of those things. Having said that, we did wait a while before trying again and I am now the proud if haggard mum of 3 (ages 8, 6 and 2).
Good luck....