My friend is having a bad time

[WinkyWinkola]

She had a miscarriage at 8 weeks in December 2007.

Then she had to terminate her pgy at 20 weeks in August 2008.

Then she had a positive pgy test in November 2008 but started her period five days later.

Today she texted me to tell me she's just losing her 7 week pregnancy.

It's just terrible. Why is this happening to her?

Will she ever be able to have a baby or is there something going on? I would like to be able to help her.

I havn't got much advice but would just like to say that this must be awful for her (and you) and I hope she gets the love and support she will need at this terrible time, I also hope someone on here may have a few more answers for her.

You seem like a very good friend and am sure you are feeling this too

Sounds as though she needs a referral to a recurrent miscarriage clinic.

Were any tests carried out on the embryos/foetuses she lost?

What was the reason for her termination at 20 weeks?

Poor thing. There seems to be a pattern here, doesn't there?

The baby had a heart problem that meant it wouldn't live outside of the womb. One side of the heart hadn't developed at all. The left side, I believe.

She's just bewildered as to why she keeps having miscarriages.

How awful for her
I had 2 mc last year but am now 25 wks pg.

I agree that she should be seeing the recurrent mc clinic. They will be able to do some tests which may help.

She will be v grateful to have a friend like you. Some days she will want to curl up in a ball and ignore the world, other days she will need a shoulder and someone to cry with and some days she'll just want to pretend everything is 'normal'.

I haven't been through nearly as much as she has but I found a few close friends and MN helped.