New York Times article

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I don't agree with everything she has to say, but there's some interesting thoughts in here I thought I'd share.

www.nytimes.com/2008/10/21/health/views/21case.html?_r=3&ref=health&oref=slogin&oref=slogin&oref=slo gin

I think it's pretty much spot on.

The "oh it's like a period" line is such utter claptrap. I miscarried at around 5 weeks and it was nothing like a period.
On Day One, blood soaked through my jeans and I could barely walk home to sort myself out (luckily was just round the corner).
On Day Two I fainted into my partner's arms as soon as I stepped through the door.
On Day Three I almost screamed out loud when I "passed" the "matter" as the docs call it- the nastiest physical process I've known, and one which took a good couple of minutes.
Every morning until Day Four I woke up in pools of blood, however huge a pad I used and whether I changed it in the night or not.
On Day Five I was still scared to go to the loo for fear of what would drop into the bowl.
On Day Six I added up the number of hours I'd spent in the hospital and it totalled more than 12. Most of this time was spent in a waiting room with glowing mums-to-be. When I did get to see a doc, I was told that I was still pregnant; that I wasn't; that I was; that I might have an ectopic pregnancy. I was poked and prodded and found myself apologising for bleeding all over the examination table more than once.

Meanwhile I struggled with guilt, confusion, feelings of isolation, not to mention total physical exhaustion.

If periods were like this I'd wish I wasn't a woman.And mine was "just" an early miscarriage. I'm well aware that thousands of women have it much worse than I.

It might "happen to so many women"- everybody's favourite platitude. But what difference does that make when nobody bloody talks about it?

Sorry. I'm a little bitter.

Thanks for posting with the link LBOT. Have just read it twice and am in tears .

My close freind pushes me on by saying, she wants to take a photo of me cuddling my baby... I have started thinking it will never happen

Oh that is beautiful

Let this be me - just need to find the optimism ..

""I want people to know that I have been through something, that I am tired but optimistic, that I?ve been knocked down but don?t help me up because I can get up myself. ""