Stillbirth 24+0 💔

[Elephantscantjump]

Our beautiful, tiny rainbow girl was born sleeping at bang on 24+0 on Sunday. She had been diagnosed with severe iugr after the 20w scan and we had been told she wouldn't reach viability but reaching 24 weeks really makes such a difference for me.

We lost our first pregnancy at 17+3 in February and to lose our rainbow baby is just heartbreaking.

We so desperately want to be parents to a baby we get to bring home.

I'm so glad I have been able to hold her, feel her tiny weight in my arms, to say a proper goodbye. The prospect of going back on birthcontrol for a short while is so so sad but ultimately the right choice.

No questions but if anyone has any stories of hope I would dearly love to hear them 💖

I’m so so sorry.

She knew nothing but your safety, love and warmth. You will always be her mum, and you will always love her.

This is a bit odd but it helped me - fragments of your baby’s dna will have been carried into your blood, and will remain there for the rest of your life. She will literally always be a part of you.

Take care x

I’m so sorry. No stories from me, just love.

I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful girl. It is truly one of the worst things a parent can face and I’m really sorry this is your reality. What is her name?💕

I also had a stillborn at the same gestation, my son Arthur.

We tried again when we were ready and after 3 miscarriages and feeling like it was never going to happen for us; we were blessed with our daughter.

you are currently in some of the darkest days you will ever experience and it will feel like it will always be this way. I promise one day the dark cloud starts to lift. You will smile again, you will laugh again, you will have days where it isn’t all consuming again, it just takes time.

We never forget our babies, and it’s important you allow yourself this time to grieve.

please message me if you want to chat x

Her name is Molly Imogen 💖 . I'm so sorry for the loss of Arthur and I'm so pleased to hear you got your rainbow baby 💖 .

Thank you so much, I'm so sad xx

I'm so sorry @Elephantscantjump - I'm glad you got to hold her, wishing you all the best in your time of grieving and for happier times down the line.

So sorry. To say this sucks is an understatement but I wish you well in the future.

@Elephantscantjumpwhat a beautiful name for a beautiful girl 💕 I’m so pleased you got to spend some time with her, those are such precious memories that you’ll treasure forever 💕

I know you are, it’s such a relentless and overwhelming sadness and the best thing you can do right now is allow yourself to feel it and not bottle it up (which is what I did then ended up having a breakdown). If you think it could help, see a bereavement specialist therapist to talk too.

do whatever you need to do in order to get through this; whether that’s stay in bed and cry, go out for a walk, go to the gym, literally whatever you can manage and whatever helps.

Molly Imogen has only ever known the love and warmth of her mummy’s tummy and what a comforting thing to know🥰 be kind to yourself xx

I am so very sorry for your devastating loss. All your beautiful child would have known is your complete love.

I am so sorry - what a terrible time you’ve had. Sending lots of good wishes and unmumsnetty hugs (are they still a thing, I wonder) out to you. I hope there are happier times ahead.