Struggling to conceive after MMC

[CoastalSea]

Hi everyone,

I suffered a missed miscarriage in March last year. I had medical management which wasn’t pleasant and took me a few weeks if not a few months to recover. Since, we have struggled to get pregnant (in August I had a chemical pregnancy but bled soon after). We took a break for a few months but unfortunately since trying again at the end of last year, still no luck.

We were very fortunate the first time as we got pregnant incredibly quickly. I’m just frustrated and confused why this time round it’s taking much longer.

I took an ovulation test this month and I did have a high/peak result which is reassuring. Since the MMC, I do get spotting about a week before my period, and I don’t know whether this may be an indication that something isn’t right.

I’m hoping anyone can relate and can give me any guidance? Especially with potential fertility issues since a MMC. Will be going to the doctor in a few weeks hoping for some hormone tests if I am unsuccessful but hopefully that will not be the case 🙏🏻

Sending love to anyone in the same position as I know the pain you’re feeling ❤️

I think it was about a year for me from MMC to getting pregnant again, what with the odd break and a few months of trying. Similarly, I got pregnant much more quickly first time round. I think it's still pretty early if you started trying again towards the end of last year. Best of luck

No advice but just wanted to offer support. I had an MMC in January and am hoping to be able to try again soon x

@Mwnci123 That’s given me hope! Many people get pregnant quickly after suffering a miscarriage so this gives me reassurance I’m not the only one. I was wondering if my hormones were still all over the place. Who knows what these next few months will bring. Thank you so much for sharing 🥰

@SureLook I’m so sorry to hear this and I know exactly how you feel. There’s no pain like it. I found out at my 12 week scan 💔 The nurses told me I could start trying right away after getting a negative pregnancy test so fingers crossed for you. Remember you’re not alone and it’s so comforting hearing people share their stories too and being able to relate. Time is a healer be kind to yourself ❤️

@CoastalSea thanks for your kind words. I'm very sorry for your loss too and your ongoing struggles. It really is just so unfair. I've definitely found a lot of support on MN. Lots of lovely women on here x

@SureLook So many lovely women - I wish I stumbled across MN last year when I was at my lowest. Especially when it first happened with trying to navigate through grief and trying to understand what on earth was going on! It’s hard for my husband to relate so it’s nice having women to relate too.

I hope your recovery is going ok xx

@CoastalSea I was onto MN the day after I found out. I just needed to read other people's accounts of their stories and how they felt. Unless you've had one yourself, you just don't understand.

My recovery has been good, thanks. I had my D&C just over two weeks ago now but I passed some myself a few days before the procedure. Minimal bleeding and pain afterwards.

When I thought of a miscarriage before I only thought of the loss and the anxiety of being pregnant again. I never thought of the in between stage like waiting to test negative, to ovulate, to get your period and then to gear yourself up for trying again. It's an absolute midfield!

@CoastalSea @SureLook sorry for your losses 💐

It took a while for me to start ovulating after mine, then even when I did my cycles were more irregular than preMMC. I ended up being prescribed clomid then conceived DC1 on second month of that.

Sending luck xx

@SureLook So true! I’m sure MN really helped you. It never really hit my husband, I think the thought of pregnancy was still so abstract to him whereas us ladies deal with all the physical and emotional symptoms and suffering.

So glad that went well - in hindsight I think a D&C would have been better although there are some risks. Medical management seems to take so much longer to recover which I definitely think has been the cause of difficulties since, such as hormone imbalances.

You’re so right I was so naive a year ago and now I feel so much more experienced if my MMC has taught me anything! Thought getting pregnant was just having unprotected sex but there’s so much more to it 😂 such a minefield so much to test and wait for. Fingers crossed you’ll have a positive story to share soon please keep us updated 🥰

@Pomegranatemum Thank you so much for sharing ❤️ I didn’t even think about ovulation tests last year after MMC, only started this month so fingers crossed it helps me. I feel like my cycles are shorter since MMC so maybe something that needs investigating. So glad you conceived this gives me hope xx

@CoastalSea there is definitely hope. I even went on to conceive DC2 totally naturally ie no clomid that time either.

Great to hear a successful story @Pomegranatemum x

@CoastalSea ah the men don't have a clue really. It floored my partner. We've a two year old who we conceived on our first month of trying and had a completely healthy pregnancy and straightforward delivery. Conceived on our first month of trying again which resulted in the MMC. He fully expected it to go the same way even though I tried to warn him!

I did a bit of research and the medical management seemed quite difficult for some people. But then of course every surgery has its risks too. You just have to go with what you feel is right for you.

It's good that you're going to your GP for investigations. You can make a plan then and move forward with it. Same to you, keep this thread updated x

I also took a while to conceive after a MMC, but have a delightful toddler now.

Ultimately, your body has been pregnant twice in the last 12 months, even if they didn't progress. That has a pretty huge hormonal impact. After my MMC I didn't have a period for 4 or 5 months, and even after that, ovulation tests suggested I was only releasing an egg every 6 to 8 weeks. Still managed to conceive again in the end, but it involved a lot of activity in bed.

So, I think you're doing pretty well. I know it's frustrating. The emotional ups and downs of trying, tests, and losses are awful. But there's nothing to suggest it won't happen for you from what you've said...

@Trallia What a lovely message this has really made me smile! Thank you so much for your kind words and positivity it’s given me a boost and it’s great to hear you have a toddler after what you’ve been through before as well 🥰

I always look at questions and answers on mums net and always appreciate the kindness that others show and find it all very helpful but have never actually written anything. I have a little boy who is 3 and wanted siblings for him I was pregnant but had a miscarriage in January I have been ttc since with no luck and wonder if being age 33 may make it harder but obviously we are all different. I have very regular periods and can usually tell roughly when I ovulate because Of Ewcm but I have had no luck and I’m still very sad about the miscarriage but also longing to be pregnant. It’s comforting to know that there are others who feel the same as me. My partner doesn’t seem to be as heartbroken as me but maybe that’s a man’s way of dealing with it. I hope we all get what we want some day soon thanks for your help even if you don’t know you did help ❤️

@Starsintheskyabove sorry to hear of your loss in January. Wanting to be pregnant again is all consuming! The men definitely bottle it up and bury it down.
I managed to conceive again in May after my MMC in January. Sadly it was a blighted ovum and I chose the medication route this time. I'm TTCing again and currently in my TWW.
I never thought I'd have one loss, let alone two in a row. I've been referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic in Ireland. They've advised if I fall pregnant again in the meantime they'll scan me at 6/7 weeks and start me on progesterone so at least I have that.
Sending baby dust to all ❤️

I feel EXACTLY the same! I’m still trying to conceive after a MMC early last year after getting pregnant first time and now it seems impossible 😅 I’ve been having fertility acupuncture and it seems to have really helped - after having the medical management and my body being under a lot of stress last year it seems my body has had restricted blood flow and I’ve had a lot built up which is now beginning to flow much better without giving too much information 🤣 underestimated the toll it took on my body last year and finally decided to get some help. Never ever give up hope I’m so glad you take comfort in reading the threads I certainly do too ❤️

@SureLook stay hopeful and positive you’re so super super strong! ✨

@CoastalSea thanks for your kind words. I'm sorry to hear you're struggling too. I fell pregnant first time on my DD and had no complications. And now this!

It’s hard to not feel bitter about how good it was. As awful as it is for both of us having someone to relate to makes it not all seem so lonely and confusing ❤️ fingers crossed for the both of us xx

@CoastalSea hopefully we'll both be back with good news soon 🤞🏻❤️

Sending lots of love to everyone who is in the same boat and hopefully our time will come soon 🥰

I’m the same I’m afraid 😔 I have a 2.5 year old now - I had a MMC in July and Nov last year. Just horrendous! No signs of anything wrong whatsoever during the pregnancies only to find out at scans 😣

I had to take a while off after MMC2 - I was a mess. I’m cycle 4 of TTC now after my break and it’s not happening as I’d hoped.

i went down the private route to do full testing and they can’t find anything wrong 🙈 so who knows. But I am 39 now so time isn’t on my side at all.

im semi getting to the point of thinking maybe a second just isn’t for me and trying to make the most of what I have (which is precious) but I have this habit of looking at every child my DCs age and I see the inevitable baby or pregnant bump close by and part of me just 😭

lets hope for us all ❤️

@peepsypops I'm so sorry to hear of your losses. I read a statistic recently that said that over 50% of recurrent miscarriages are unexplained which is so hard to hear. You almost want there to be something wrong so they can treat it.
A lady I was speaking to on here who has gone through similar said it's probably just bad luck. We're older now so at higher risk of having faulty eggs. Same with the partners sperm.
We've also chatted about possibly only having one which I'm very grateful for. But my DD recently held a friends baby and it broke my heart. I cried after they left.
All we can do is keep trying ❤️