Second miscarriage in 4 months

[Figtree11]

Feeling heartbroken. Going through what I think is my second miscarriage in 4 months. TTC my first baby. I am 7 or 8 weeks.

I had a MMC in November which started off with brown spotting/bleeding. This lasted for 3 days before the red blood starting, and in that time it was diagnosed as a MMC (was 10 weeks but measuring 10)

Today I went to the toilet & when I wiped there was some pinky blood. I wiped again & it was brown.
3 hours later there is now more brown bleeding.
This is exactly how my last MC started.

I’m devastated. I can’t believe this is happening again.

@nearly8 wow that’s a lot of hours! Bet you can’t wait to get into bed.
I will do ❤️ x

@Figtree11 how are you lovely? Did you have your booking in appt? Any news? 😘💐

@nearly8 im doing good thanks ☺️ had my booking appt this week so just waiting for my scan letter to come through. Presume the appt will be in the next 3 weeks or so. I am sure I will be a nervous wreck for it.
How are you? I hope you are doing ok x

@Figtree11 awww I'm so happy and excited for you 🤗😍 I'm ok. Still working!! And actually really shocked as my tsunami period only lasted 4 days which is the shortest period I have ever had in my whole life!! I'm usually 7-10 days so that made me happy 🤣🤣 oooh do please update me when your scan date comes through ☺️ take care sweet 💐💐

Gosh I do feel for you having to usually endure periods for 7-10 days! Mine are usually around 4 days and that’s enough to deal with! Hopefully this is your new normal 🤞🏻and will make TTC speed up a bit!
Aw thanks you’re too kind - still feeling a bag of nerves that I’ll get to the scan & it will no longer have a heartbeat, but I’m trying to stay positive & live in the moment & feel grateful that I am in this position

@Figtree11 hey sweet. Have you had the date for your scan yet? Hope you've been good and enjoying the sunshine. Look after yourself 💐 💐

Hi @nearly8 yes I have it’s next Thursday. I’m feeling positive but know as soon as I get there I will be a ball of nerves. How have you been? Not working so hard still I hope!

@Figtree11 oooh that's great news. Totally know what you mean but I'm sure it will be absolutely fine sweet. And unfortunately yes I am still working like a mad woman 🤣 in myself I'm ok. Still a bit up and down but just trying to focus on the positives and be grateful for all the good things in my life. Take care Hun and keep me updated 💐 💐

Hi @nearly8 i got the date wrong, I had my scan today.
Unfortunately another MMC. I’m so devastated

I’m so sorry x

Oh @Figtree11 , I really feel for you. Huge hugs.

Thank you ❤️

Oh my darling I'm so sorry. Oh hunny I've been there and I know exactly how you are feeling. Oh how I wish I could hug you right now. Please look after yourself sweet, me and the others are all here for you 🤗🤗💐💐

Thank you @nearly8 xxx

@Figtree11 read on the other thread about them messing you around in the hospital. I hope you feel slightly better now you're home. Thinking of you my darling, always here for a chat and a hand hold. Be kind to yourself and take your time 🤗🤗💐💐

@Figtree11 I just wanted to send my thoughts and give a little handhold - it's so devastating I totally get it.

Before my first DC I had 3 mc - I honestly thought we'd never be parents. Please don't lose hope. I totally get the hopeless feeling.
We're hoping for another DC (currently 8 weeks pg) but we've already suffered 2 more mc's.

Some parents make out it is so easy to have DC....

Thank you @nearly8 i got home around 5pm yesterday, and already today I feel so much better physically. I’m not really in any pain, so I’m hoping I’ll bounce back quicker than when I did medical last time. Trying to stay busy pottering about tidying my house to try & distract myself from sinking into a hole. Thank you for your kind words x

@SareBear87 that gives me hope, thank you. I am so worried I won’t become a mum. I so want to get pregnant again but I’m petrified of another MC. I really appreciate you messaging. I have everything crossed for you that this is a successful pregnancy. Navigating pregnancy after loss is just something I can’t describe. I never imagined the journey would be so tough. When I was waiting in the clinic for the 12wk scan, there were so many people walking around holding their scan photos. It just feels so unfair

I totally get it, by the time I went for the scan for my DC I was so convinced we were going to have bad news I didn't even pay for any photos (our hospital charges) and didn't go with a full bladder.

I've had more surgeries than I care to think about - but honestly don't lose faith. You can get pregnant, don't dismiss how massive that hill alone is! Some of my friends have spent thousands just to get negative pg tests.

Me and DH have different ways of coping with each loss. You need to find what works for you and embrace it.

Getting pg and carrying to term was way harder than any night feed, poo explosion or toddler tantrum!

Thank you @SareBear87 I really appreciate it. I keep trying to remind myself that I was able to get pregnant, and just hope it was bad luck they didn’t work out. And hope that I’m able to conceive relatively quickly again, but who knows. I have a phone call with my GP in a couple of weeks to hopefully see if I can get any answers which might help.

Did you do anything differently when you got your successful pregnancy, like any supplements or medications?

Nope we did nothing different. We were told by our consultant (as we are fortunate enough to be able to pay for private consultations) that we are just that exceptionally unlucky 1%.
It's almost worse in a way, because there's no "fix". It's not like there was ever a reason why a pg failed, it just did.
We take comfort in knowing we can get pg, but do take time to recover. Pregnancy and surgery after loss is pretty traumatic so do take care of yourself. As hard as it is mentally, I wanted to be physically as healthy as possible so we took time between each loss.
You'll get there, and when you're handed your little one literally nothing will matter and this will seem like a distant nightmare.

Oh no 😣 so sorry. Having been through it many times too I know those feelings of devastation and will I ever be a mum.
I now have 2 children, as do so many of us who experience multiple miscarriages. For me I found agnus castus helpful. And I also am a little overweight so losing a few kg also helped. Good luck and don't give up hope! X

That last sentence has made me well up (in a good way) I am really holding onto that hope that one day I will be handed my baby & that it will be the best feeling in the world. Thank you.
I got obsessive last time with wanting to get pregnant right away, but you’re right it’s good to have time to recover. Physically & mentally. It’s been 5/6 months of either being pregnant, going through a loss, and then the cycle again so think I need to take stock & have a breather to feel like me again.
Its really helped to hear that you managed to have your baby after loss. I wish you all the luck with this current pregnancy

Thank you. I really appreciate hearing stories of people going on to have healthy pregnancies after multiple losses.
I’m trying to keep positive & think that one day I will get there, no matter how long it takes x

All the luck in the world @Figtree11 - it's super hard when we understand so much about science and our bodies but not quite enough to have all of the answers. I've only had one miscarriage and that was bad enough. Take care of yourself

Thank you. I’m sorry you have experienced loss too