Second miscarriage in 4 months

[Figtree11]

Feeling heartbroken. Going through what I think is my second miscarriage in 4 months. TTC my first baby. I am 7 or 8 weeks.

I had a MMC in November which started off with brown spotting/bleeding. This lasted for 3 days before the red blood starting, and in that time it was diagnosed as a MMC (was 10 weeks but measuring 10)

Today I went to the toilet & when I wiped there was some pinky blood. I wiped again & it was brown.
3 hours later there is now more brown bleeding.
This is exactly how my last MC started.

I’m devastated. I can’t believe this is happening again.

Oh this is so hard. Nothing we can say to make it better, or easier. But you're not alone.

Thank you @Avopopcorn it’s truly horrendous. Doesn’t help with having an EPU that I have to go through my GP to access and it being a bank holiday.

My DP has really withdrawn into himself now so I’m worried about him too

I'm so sorry this is happening to you again. I've had multiple miscarriage and it is heartbreaking. Massive hugs to you. It is so so unfair. Look after yourself atm and try not to worry too much about your partner xx

Sod's Law to happen on a bank holiday weekend 🤦 just be kind to yourself and each other

I am so very sorry. It’s so unfair and I know nothing I say can help, but just wanted to extend my best wishes and say that you are not alone.

@Figtree11 I'm so sorry, I had two MMC within 4 months. I really hope it doesn't end up being another miscarriage but if it does, you're not alone and I hope that brings you some small comfort x

Thinking about you both OP.

Thank you everyone for your kind words. Have hardly slept. The bleeding eased off in the night due to gravity I’m guessing. But it’s started up again now.

I never thought this would happen to me. I’m so worried I will never become a mum or make my DP a dad.

Sending hugs. Hope you're able to get some rest and that you have the support of loved ones.

I had three in a row in quick succession many years ago. I had a successful pregnancy in the end, with the aid of progesterone pessaries.

I’m so sorry for your losses. It’s such a hard thing to go through. I’ve been where you are with two losses in quick succession — and it really knocked my husband and I for six. I found therapy so useful in sorting out my feelings. My husband had shut down a bit because he couldn’t bear to see me so sad and didn’t know how to help. We reconnected in time. Wishing you all the best 💐

@Figtree11 awww hunny I'm so sorry to hear this. It's so shitty. How are things ATM. I know it's a long shot but not all bleeding in pregnancy is bad. You already know my history so you know that I really do know exactly how you feel. The best thing you can do with your DP is let him know that you still love him just as much. Don't discuss any feelings of guilt just yet about not making him a dad, get some nice food in, find a nice feel good film, snuggle down on the sofa and try to remember why youre both together in the first place. TTC can take over sometimes and it can be so draining. I know this has helped me since my MC in January and we've been together 20 years. Enjoy just being together and remind each other that no matter what you're in this together. Seriously sending you the biggest hug and hand hold sweet 💐💐🤗

I'm so sorry. It's an absolutely miserable experience, and worse when it happens after another loss.

I hope it helps to know that I had two m/cs before a very healthy baby boy, and then another m/c- at which point I got a place at St Mary's Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic and had surgery, which then led to another pregnancy and my daughter. It was a long, hard road but I have two lovely children now, and there's every reason to think that you'll get to a happy ending.

Thank you all so much for the kind words.
I feel a little silly now, but I finally got an appointment at the EPU yesterday, fully expecting it to be formality & to discuss options on how to manage the MC. But to my absolute amazement the baby was still there & had a heartbeat.
I’ve been put on progesterone pessaries due to previous loss & this bleeding. So time will tell if this works out well.

Thanks again. And thank you @nearly8 you were such a comfort to me on the miscarriage support thread. I hope you are doing ok x

@Figtree11 that is such amazing news sweet I am so so happy for you. I told you it wasn't always bad news!! Aahhhh Hun that has literally made my whole day. I'm smiling like a nutter right now at work getting crazy stares 😂😂😂 please keep me posted where you can sweet. Ahhhh I wish I could hug you right now 😘

I feel your relief x the same happened to me this time last year xx I have a beautiful little girl now xx she's nearly 5 months xx

Congratulations 🥳

Don’t feel silly! This is the best possible news — congratulations! What a fabulous update!

Aw thanks so much @nearly8 you are so kind. You honestly have been so supportive. And yes you were right! Actually can’t believe it, I’ve never had a positive scan before so was a surreal experience. Trying to hold onto positivity. How are you doing?

That’s amazing @Poppalina37 i hope I will be thinking the same this time next year too

Thanks so much @ReetPetity

@Figtree11 awww sweet that's the best thing ever. Do you have a due date yet or is it too early? 💐💐

@nearly8 based on how they measured me I’d be due around mid November. Still 4 weeks to go until a 12wk scan, so just crossing my fingers I get to that point with a good result. I have been given progesterone to help support due to previous loss & the bleeding so I hope that helps.
Sending love to you, I hope you are doing ok. Spring is almost here & I always think the sunshine helps in even just a small way x

@Figtree11 awww that's so exciting. Well my bday is 27/10 so if you can make it that day it would be amazing. Slightly early but still a Scorpio 😁

Yes you're right the sunshine helps massively and the longer evenings. I love spring .. the sign of birth and new life. What date is your next scan sweet? I am actually very nervously excited for you 🤗🤗🤗🤗

And thanks for the love - I'll always be ok in the end. 💐💐💐

@nearly8 very close to your birthday!
I love spring too, just wish it would stop raining! I always feel happier in spring.
I’m not sure in the scan date yet, I have my booking appt next week, and the midwife then sends off for my scan so hopefully should know in the next 2 weeks.
Sending you lots of love ❤️ xx

@Figtree11 thank you 🤗 oooh sweet please do keep me updated. Have you got any plans for the weekend? Take care, love to you too ❤️❤️💐💐

@Figtree11 hope you are having a great weekend 💐

Sorry @nearly8 i missed your last message! I’ve had a quiet weekend after the drama of last weekend! Thank you for asking. Hope you have had a nice weekend?

@Figtree11 no worries sweet, glad you've had a nice quiet one. Friday through to today I have done 43 hours at work 😩 got 90 mins left til home time. Been here since 6am I can't wait to get home!! Take care hun keep me posted ❤️💐