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I think I had a miscarriage.. Please help

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MotherFunk · 19/11/2007 20:19

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Charlee · 20/11/2007 12:24

When i had a m/c i left it and got a bad infection that could have led to infertility so please if you have no luck with nhs direct go to a&e.

Santasmissyontheside · 20/11/2007 14:45

motherfunk if you goto a&e they will prob either send for gynae, test you and scan you there or transfer you to epu.

how are you? did you call nhs direct?

lucykate · 20/11/2007 19:27

any news from mf?

goingfor3 · 20/11/2007 19:31

MF if you haven't had a period since August and have taken the pill everyday since it is not unusual that you would pass more blood than usual and clots once you stopped taking it. It doesn't explain what you saw in the clot though.

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MotherFunk · 20/11/2007 19:37

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Santasmissyontheside · 20/11/2007 20:43

I can't help much more but i imagine they will check hormone level to see what they show, scan to see whether there is a viable pg and if not if you are in danger of infection? How do you feel mentally? X

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MotherFunk · 20/11/2007 21:18

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lucykate · 20/11/2007 21:28

tbh, given that you didn't know you were pg, nor do you want to be pg either, you are most likely to be suffering from shock. what happened and what you saw can't have been pleasant for you to have gone through

i would imagine the blood test will show the pg hormone levels to be quite low, which would probably confirm a m/c. they may want to either re-test in a couple of days to see if it goes up or down or scan to check everything has gone.

i've had 2 m/c's, it can take up to a month for all the hormone to be out of your system, have you asked anyone what you should do about taking the pill, carry on as normal or give your body a rest maybe for a month or so?

Orinoco · 20/11/2007 21:29

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MotherFunk · 20/11/2007 21:33

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goingfor3 · 20/11/2007 21:39

You don't need to tell them why, say it's personal.

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MotherFunk · 20/11/2007 21:43

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whomovedmychocolate · 20/11/2007 21:44

You don't HAVE to return for further treatment if you don't want to. It's a good idea if you can just make sure there are no 'retained products of conception' (you'll hear this phrase a lot. ) using an ultrasound scan. You also need to check there isn't a surviving twin in there (it does happen - very rarely I might add).

Don't worry about how you feel right now. I didn't feel very bad at the time I had my last miscarriage because I was sort of relieved because I know something was up and as I said at the time, I'd rather it have happened at six weeks than sixteen weeks if it was going to happen.

BTW, you don't need to tell your work anything. Say it was 'routine' and leave it at that. It's none of their darn business. If they want confirmation, tell them to request it from your GP and give your GP permission to tell them you were referred to hospital that's all.

Santasmissyontheside · 20/11/2007 21:44

Personal reasons they don't need to know. Are you sure you should go into work just don't know if your body should recover a bit? With regards to going to hospital on different days etc you can only but try. I imagine they will do things by the book as its quite a serious thing. Whats has other half (?) Said?

Santasmissyontheside · 20/11/2007 21:48

Just seen that they are your close friends. Tough one. Either say the truth or say abnormal cells on smear and had further check but all ok? Just an idea

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MotherFunk · 20/11/2007 21:53

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Santasmissyontheside · 20/11/2007 21:58

Sorry about break up. let me think of another excuse...

whomovedmychocolate · 20/11/2007 22:00

Get a smear - lecture over.

Why don't you just tell them you have found a lump (be vague) and it needs to be scanned. Vague is good.

StarlightMcKenzie · 20/11/2007 22:00

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Santasmissyontheside · 20/11/2007 22:04

God only things i can think of are more serious things that you would not want to lie about. . Could you be getting bunions looked at? I know thats incredibly lame but some people have to have them operated on. I can hear what your thinking lol. I'll think harder!

Santasmissyontheside · 20/11/2007 22:06

I've never had a smear either

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MotherFunk · 20/11/2007 22:09

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Santasmissyontheside · 20/11/2007 22:16

Lol. Was a long shot. Go with the lump in a very hidden place that you wouldn't show or could you say visiting a relative? I'm running out of things. I have a tiny lump on my leg which is just fatty tissue but do you have anything like that, that you could say your getting checked. Vague is definately good like WMMC said. Sorry i'm not much help

mears · 20/11/2007 22:22

Why is it so wrong to say that you have had a miscarriage? The pill is not 100% effective. Following my own miscarriage I was very tearful and hormonal. Surely your friends would be happy to support you through this? You might end up feeling pretty depressed if you can't talk to anyone.

Santasmissyontheside · 20/11/2007 22:27

Agree with mears on having some support. I take it the friend you have told you are close and don't work together?