Miscarried 5 weeks, anyone in the same boat?

[Helensss]

I finally got pregnant with my first baby after 1.5 years of trying and have just miscarried at 5 weeks, anyone else been in the same boat and had any success stories? I’m so worried it’ll happen again xx

@Helensss I'm so sorry to hear this. I unfortunately miscarried on sunday at 5 weeks too! It's really sh*t isn't it? This is my 3rd miscarriage now. Unfortunately I don't have any advice but chin up. The sadness does ease. x

Thank you kittycat01 so sorry to hear about yours too! ❤️ It’s so mean, have you had any successful pregnancies? Xx there’s no reason for it is there xx

@Helensss no I haven't had any successful pregnancies yet. I came off the pill in April 2017 and it took me over a year for my period to go back to 'normal'. I then got pregnant in September but then had a miscarriage a few days later, then got pregnant in October and thought everything was ok but found out at the 12 week scan in December that I'd had a missed miscarriage. I then got pregnant again last week and miscarried on Sunday. I have contacted my GP and she has referred me to the early miscarriage unit so I'm just waiting for an appointment now. x

Kittycat01 ohhh I really feel for you! I think it can be one of those freakily unfair things. Fingers crossed for next time! I feel guilty as I had an abortion at 18 with a psycho boyfriend and I was about 9 weeks, now married to the love of my life and it isn’t easy. Isn’t the pill awful! Let me know how you get on xxxx

I'm sorry that this happened @Helensss. I found out 2 weeks ago at 6+6 that my pregnancy wasn't progressing normally. I have to go back on Friday to confirm and see what the next steps are as I haven't miscarried naturally . This was our 16th cycle of ttc our first, we'd actually just been referred to a fertility clinic. Absolutely heartbroken.

Sending love x

@venusStarr so sorry to hear! You poor things. I’ve been told it’s really common and that next time might be ok, fingers crossed for us all! I’m hoping to get on with it again as I’ve heard you’re more fertile after miscarriage? Nice to know we work I guess. I’m 31 now and so ready to start my family xxx

I've heard that too @Helensss, fingers crossed. Are you trying again straight away?

I might need a d and c or at least the medical management and my scan showed lots of fibroids so I've got a gyne appointment in April. I suspect we might need to wait a while before we can try again. I'm 35 and dh is 37 so time is not on our side. I feel exactly the same, definitely ready to start our family now xx

@venusStarr I will wait a while till bleeding stops, feels just like a period at the mo but I think we will try again soon. If it’s any consolation my best friends sister was 36 had a mc and has gone on to have 2 healthy babies xxx

Hope the bleeding stops soon @Helensss and that you can try again soon, when you feel ready.

It does help to have hope that this isn't the end and we will have another chance which hopefully works. I think being on here and hearing other people's experiences helps give me hope, I struggle to hold it for long for myself xx

Hi ladies, so sorry for your losses. I miscarried this week at 5+3. Bleeding only lasted a few days and cramps were fairly mild. Hope you got through yours ok? Really unpleasant experience xx

@venusStarr it does really help, thank you all. @HungryForSnacks so sorry for your loss too, was this your first one too? X

I had my first MC in 2017. Started bleeding/cramping at 10.5 weeks and learnt the baby stopped growing at about 6.5 weeks. Really traumatic finding out 4 weeks later and feeling like my body had deceived me!

I had a successful pregnancy last year and had a beautiful little boy so this MC feels very different to the first one. I totally know how you feel when you worry that you'll just have a string of MCs!! I remember worrying about the exact same thing. It's a scary thought but I'm sure you'll get there. It's so common for first pregnancies to end in MC xx

It is a horrible worry but hoping it doesn’t happen again, I had been worrying we had fertility issues so good to know we can get pregnant,
Hopefully next one sticks, nice to hear your story as well, good luck xxx

Sorry to read all of these.
We've been ttc for 19 months and finally got first BFP. Sadly we lost it last week at 6.5 weeks ☹️ beyond gutted. We were just about to start on ovulation stimulants at the fertility clinic. Not too sure where this leaves us.
When do you think you'll start trying again?
Such a crappy situation ☹️☹️☹️
Sorry to see you here @VenusStarr recognise your name from another thread 💔

I'm sorry @squirrelnutkins1, I recognise you too. It's such a cruel sad time ❤️
Our first fertility clinic appointment is in May, I'm still going but prepared for them to discharge us. Its horrible being so out of control.
Got my follow up scan tomorrow, I really need to get some closure on this. Hope you're OK x

Such a crap situation. I'm so sorry you're going through it.
I was waiting to start on Letrazole but fell pregnant naturally so I'm too waiting to hear where we stand with the fertility clinic ☹️ I imagine the same, that we'll be discharged.
I was meant to have a scan today but the hospital cancelled. I said exactly the same to OH, I wanted it for closure. Instead I've got to have my HCG checked again on Thursday.
Here's hoping we both fall pregnant naturally again soon. I want to try again straight away, don't feel like we have time on our side to wait. Had laparoscopy in Jan and the surgeon said 4-6 months following lap is your best chance to conceive naturally or with the help of iui or ivf.
Let me know how you get on at your scan xxx
@VenusStarr

What reason did they give for cancelling your scan @squirrelnutkins1?

Part of me wants to try again but then I'm petrified about miscarrying again. Plus I feel like I need a break as been ttc for a long time, then had this uncertainty hanging over me, but like you say I'm also worried about time running out. I have heard that following a loss you're more fertile so there is a possibility of conceiving again soon.

I have fibroids and at my first scan they suggested the miscarriage may be related to them so I have a gyne appt on Thursday. So I think I'll need the all clear from them about whether it's safe to try again. Have you had time off work? I'm due back on Thursday, no idea how that will go but I need some structure to my days again.

I'll let you know how tomorrow goes xxx

Sorry to hear that @squirrelnutkins1 we had been trying for 16 months but my body took so long to get back to normal after the pill. I’ve just ovulated again so am now hoping but also worrying, I never thought it would be like this! @venusstarr I hope you get some answers, good luck and hope work is ok ❤️❤️ I’m so impatient hard to keep calm 😂

The GP booked it to check for ectopic I think he said (I was obv very upset during that phone call) then the next day I had pain down one side and shoulder pain which can be signs of ectopic so spoke to 111 who sent me to the walk in centre who sent me to a&e and FIVE hours later I got to see gynae docs. They checked me with a speculum and hands  and said didn't think ectopic. Said they'd repeat bloods and get back to me the next day. 3 days later they get back in touch to say need more bloods and scan cancelled. So who knows!

I said the same to OH, you dream of pregnancy being such an exciting time but I think it'll just be totally terrifying if it happens again. Oh I've not heard that about being extra fertile after!?

Hope you can get some answers ❤️

Yeah gp signed me off. One minute I'm fine the next I'm in floods of tears. I've been binge watching Friends!

@VenusStarr

@Helensss yeah... not the magical journey we hoped for!

I don't think I was ovulating all this time, but last month when I did I got sooooo many spots on the left of my face which was so weird. So gonna look out for bad skin again as a sign of ovulation!

Gp said to wait until I have a period so I know where I am in my cycle. I don't want to wait really but I know it's the sensible thing to do.

Everywhere I go or everything I watch is just baby baby baby. My friend gave birth to her 'accident' a few days ago urgh and on a roundabout near my house, one side has a nurture fertility advert, the other side is about fostering. Even binge watching friends -Pheobes just had the triplets arrrggghh it's everywhere!

Hi,
Sorry for your loss totally sucks. I miscarried at 6weeks - we’d been trying for 4months, I know that’s not super long but it was starting to get us worried as I’m 37 and was aware it might not be easy. Started trying again as soon as I stopped bleeding and now 35weeks preg. Miscarriages are crap but it does confirm that you can get pregnant and in some ways I wonder whether the miscarriage ‘boosted’ my fertility as fell pregnant quickly after. Good luck!

@pipanchew2 sorry for your loss and congrats on your pregnancy!!
Can I ask how long you bled for?
I don't know what to expect and googling gives different answers, ie each woman is different but I bled lightly from Thurs lunch to Sunday mid afternoon, then heavily Sunday mid afternoon til Tuesday, then lightly until the Friday, so only 8 days really.

Sorry to hear about your losses ladies.

I had a series of miscarriages while ttc my first child. Got there eventually after 3 years and had my gorgeous little lad. I was 39.

Been ttc no2 for nearly a year with one loss at 5 weeks so far and nothing else. I’m now 41.

If it’s your first miscarriage it’s likely you’ll be fine next time. Obviously if you have more, the NHS will investigate after 3. It’s rare to have multiple though.

They found a cause for mine and a simple medication protocol worked.

I saw a top fertility consultant during the period I had miscarriages - he said it’s a good sign if you can get pregnant and a successful outcome is down to perseverance! Also, he his ‘miscarriage’ patients virtually always got a baby in the end.

Felt like a really heavy painful period. Lasted about 8 days whereas my periods are normally very light and last just 4 days. Was unpleasant but not awful, able to carry on as normal with painkillers. A friend recently MC at 9 weeks and it sounded a lot more significant so with hindsight given that it was fated to happen I’m glad it did earlier. I hope it’s over for you soon. X

@pipanchew2 @Patienceisvirtuous here's hoping this will be our year xx