Miscarried 5 weeks, anyone in the same boat?

[Helensss]

I finally got pregnant with my first baby after 1.5 years of trying and have just miscarried at 5 weeks, anyone else been in the same boat and had any success stories? I’m so worried it’ll happen again xx

Hi I think iam 7 weeks bin to the hospital and they said I was having a miscarriage went to the hospital on the 2 of April the sack was 8.7 then went for another scan on the 9th and it had grown but not a lot and the sack had grown 9 something nearly 10 the sack had grown only 1mm with in the weed but haven't loss anything was bleeding for 11 day and then stop midwife said I was still miscarriage so don't no thay sad they will ring me on Tuesday to c what as happened can I ask if I have to go in to hospital can thay look again to see if it's got bigger just don't no

Miscarriage has been confirmed as complete today @squirrelnutkins1. It turns out I have a bicornuate uterus (heart shaped). No real answers but have a gyne appt in the morning so have a list of questions to ask. Dh has taken it hard :( I think I'm OK today as I knew. Hope you're OK today xx

Hi all,
I'm sorry to be joining this thread and sorry that all you lovely ladies are here too.

I found out I was PG with number 2 at the end of feb and had a failed pregnancy confirmed on Monday 8th.

Leading up to this I've had numerous scans due to PCOS and not knowing how pregnant I might be, scans showed an empty gestational sac increasing in size initially but then reducing in size along with reducing HCG.

Bleeding started on Friday 5th and yesterday I passed a palm sized 'liver' like piece of tissue. Does anyone have experience of that?

Since then my bleeding has continued but has been lighter so I'm not sure what's happening. Was that the 'peak'? Will it get less now? The cramps are easier and I'm not needing to change pads hourly any more.

I have a follow up on Monday for more bloods so will speak with them then but was wondering if anybody had any advice.

Sorry 💔 hope you get some answers tomorrow. I've never heard of heart shaped uterus. Have they indicated that may be a reason? Is DH going to the appointment with you? Bless him ☹️☹️☹️ mine was very strong for a couple of days but then totally broke down over the weekend. Not seen him cry in years bless him xxx @VenusStarr

They seem to think the fibroids are a concern more than my uterus @squirrelnutkins1, hoping tomorrow can bring some answers. Dh can't come tomorrow unfortunately as work swapped his shift, but we've spent today together. Just got back from the cinema which was a nice distraction. I think seeing dh cry is the worst 😢 think he's feeling very helpless. The whole thing is just awful, for us all. Hope you're OK today. Was today your blood follow-up or is that tomorrow? X

Sorry you're here too @TickTockBaby, what you've described is similar to my experience in terms of passing. I did think it was over on Thursday last week but on Sunday and Monday I woke early hours and had more contracting and passed some smaller bits but nothing since and the bleeding has eased off. It's more like the end of my period now. My scan today confirmed its completed, will you get a scan on Monday? Strangely I've not had bloods, they only did a pregnancy test this morning after I explained the bleeding I'd had, guessing if it was negative they wouldn't have done the scan. Hope you're feeling OK x

Sorry to hear your experience too @Caroldeacon. I've had to wait 2 weeks between scans and they are looking for growth. It's worth asking them to check you when you go back next week. It's such a horrible time being in limbo

Thanks for sharing @pipanchew2, congratulations! Gives me hope :)

Sorry for your experience too @Patienceisvirtuous, fingers crossed for you x

Thank you @VenusStarr. So sorry for the horrible time you've had.

I wasn't expecting to be rescanned but since my appointments on a gynae ward I know from my previous visits they have an ultrasound machine there, so I may explain about the tissue I passed and hope they offer a scan.

It's good news for you (if anything can be good right now) that you've managed to pass everything yourself. I really hope it's the same for me. I'm desperate to avoid surgical intervention.

Hope everyone has had a manageable day, 🌸

Am only 19 I had my first miscarriage in November I didn’t know I was even pregnant it just happened. Then I found out I was pregnant in March everything was fine then I started to get the tiniest bit of spotting which I thought could sometimes be normal but due to my first miscarriage in November I wanted to get it checked I was roughly about 7-8 weeks pregnant they gave me an internal and told me I was about 5 weeks so they couldn’t really see much so they booked me in for another scan for Monday just gone unfortunately they told me that the baby hadn’t grown at all since the week before and their was a slight bleed so I would expect to miscarry within the next 2 weeks! I need some advice on going back to work or waiting till it happens naturally or just go back to work and wait for it to happen? And is it normal to have 2 miscarriages at my age!!

All the best for tomorrow. Let us know how you get on. Sorry dh can't come with you but glad you've had some time together today.
I wanted dh to show some emotion rather than being strong for me but when he broke down I felt a million times worse. He is self employed so doesn't have the luxury of cutting himself some slack with work. Feel like he'll just snap totally at some point and it'll be messy 

Going for blood test tomorrow morning. @VenusStarr xxx

So sorry to see so many of us in the same position. It's utterly crap. Hugs and love

I really think miscarriage is just not talked about enough, I know so many people that have had one, 2 of my friends before they had a success, family members etc, it happens everywhere but people don’t talk. That’s why when it happened to me I didn’t know what to do and felt like a failure.
I really wish the best of luck to everyone and look forward to hearing some success! Xxxx

@Helensss the nurse at the hospital said the exact same thing this morning. At school you're taught how not to get preg but there's no mention of being pregnant doesn't equal a baby. I feel like a failure as a woman. I don't want to talk about it in real life either cus I feel somehow I'm not good enough to be a mum. Ridiculous really isn't it.

@VenusStarr hope you got on ok this morning and maybe have some answers.

I went and saw a nurse this morning. I thought I was literally just going for a blood test but yet again I had to go through what happened. She said my HCG levels had dropped again and instead of a blood test she could just do a preg test to see if any preg hormone left in me. I didn't mind as I bruise badly after blood tests sometimes.

Test was negative.

She thinks I was only 4-5 weeks by my HCG levels which has left me very confused. By my last period and confirmed ovulation (2 blood tests) I thought I was 7 weeks this time last week. Feel more confused tbh but she really acknowledged my feelings and that's been good therapy for me.

She said even in the short time I was preg my life changed because you make plans and have all these thoughts and we've waited so long and had so many disappointments and we've had a LOSS, doesn't matter how many weeks, something has gone and it wasn't my fault and it's ok to grieve.

Funny how I know all these things but I feel like my feelings have somehow been validated and I feel a bit better (after some more tears of course).

Sorry for the essay!

@squirrelnutkins1 I feel exactly the same. But we aren’t failures and we deserve to be mums like everyone else! I was the same I was beyond excited when I got my positive test, worked out the date and everything, we stupidly even talked about changing our spare room etc,
Then it was taken away without any control, it’s very hard but comforting to know others have gone through it and understand xx

It's naturally to feel so excited. I felt like having a clear out of stuff and doing a good clean, super early nesting I guess! Ours was due on our wedding anniversary which is really crap, well I thought it was amazing at the time.
We do deserve it, you're so right.
And yes, the lack of control is really hard.
When will you start trying again? This forum is amazing, so so supportive xx @Helensss

Yep we were planning to clear out the loft etc. Literally the night before I started bleeding. Glad I’m not the only one! Well I think i ovulated on Sunday and we didn’t use protection, I don’t want to wait and maybe miss a potential conception? Although I know I should but probably won’t happen for a while again, what are you thinking? @squirrelnutkins1 xx

Sorry not to reply earlier @squirrelnutkins1. The appointment was OK. She didn't think the bicornuate/ heart shape was an issue and said sometimes fibroids can make it look like the shape is different. She also didn't see a need to do anything about them as surgery carries risks and none are that big that they'd cause a problem. She said the bonus was we'd conceived and it had implanted in the right place. She said the reason for the miscarriage was not related to the fibroids (my first scan it was suggested it was them squashing the sac).

She's said we can try again as soon as we're ready and did say that you're more fertile after a miscarriage. She also said my as my uterus is retroverted I could lie on my front (as opposed to legs in the air after sex). She also suggested we book a holiday. I've been discharged now.

She did say that we should keep our fertility clinic appointment and didn't believe they'd discharge us. So we will go to that and see what they say. It's early May.

It's our first wedding anniversary this weekend, haven't planned anything as we were unsure what would be happening. I'm sorry your wedding anniversary was also your due date. Hopefully you can plan something nice (and hope you are pregnant again then) :)

Squirrel, do you think you'll start trying straight away, now your tests are negative? It's bittersweet that you're tests are negative but good in a way that you can try again when you're ready

@Helensss we had planned decorating the spare room too. I felt so positive when I first found out. Feel sad that I'll not have that level of excitement again.

I'm sorry to hear you're experience @Chloethea1. Personally I didn't go back to work until the miscarriage was confirmed (it was natural in the end). It was 3 weeks from my initial bleed and prompted the epu scan to me miscarrying at home. Did they discuss other options like medical or surgical management? I think it's a personal choice. I didn't want natural but my scans were inconclusive so they wouldn't intervene. But I am glad now I was at home. I'd read a lot of scary things but my experience wasn't too bad. Hope you're ok.

How are you today @TickTockBaby? X

Sorry for the mistakes, I'm a bit tired. Been back at work this afternoon. It wasnt too bad. Dh had a colleague question him why he was off yesterday and said are you having a baby and he said no, not any more (he can be quite dry and black and white and has no qualms about making people uncomfortable!) someone told me I look tired too but not someone I see regularly, just said I'd been off sick and it was my first day back.

@venusstarr that’s good news! It must’ve just been an unlucky one, hope you are ok! Going back to work is weird isn’t it after going out the door pregnant then coming back in not. I heard about being more fertile which is why I’m trying again. I didn’t get normal ovulation pain though but all the cm that suggested I was. We will see, I feel so awful that I had an abortion at 18 now but it wasn’t right and I had a terrible relationship but sometimes can’t help but think this is my fault because of that, I know it’s silly but my thoughts go crazy sometimes xx

Fingers crossed for you @Helensss. Please don't beat yourself up, you made the right decision for you at the time and it has nothing to do with what's happening now. Be kind to yourself have you had an af since? When are you due? X

@venusstarr I know I was just naive at the time and didn’t know how hard it might be, but yes it was right at the time. I’m not really sure as I haven’t had af since but think i ovulated last weekend so I’m guessing I’m due next weekend xx

Sorry to hear all these stories, I miscarried twice and it is so horrible, I also found there isnt much support about-espcially for early miscarriages. I was so down and negative and thought it would never happen but I am now sat here cuddling my 5 month old so positive outcomes do happen.xx

2 miscarriages and then 2 beautiful boys! Don't lose hope, miscarriage is very, very common it's just people don't like to talk about it openly!

Hi all,
Pleased to hear your positive stories for after miscarriages

As for me, my bleeding has almost stopped and the cramps have completely gone, I'm not sure if this is good or not, I had expected to bleed a bit longer so I'm worried it means I haven't completed on my own. Will push for a scan at my hospital appointment Monday.

Has anyone started to try again? I feel quite lost about it. I already have one DD who I adore and it took us two long years to conceive her, this PG happened when we weren't thinking about it and just living life but obviously it wasn't meant to be.
Sometimes I am 100% ready to move forward and try and then the rest of the time I think I couldn't take either of those paths again, I couldn't take another slog to conceive or another loss.

I hope all you ladies are feeling better, the support on here has been invaluable to me. We told no one other then work (at the end for necessity) in RL so talking it through on here has really helped.

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@TickTockBaby I conceived my son a few months after my 2nd miscarriage, it took a little while for my body/cycle to get back to normal! How long is it since you miscarriage, since bleeding began?? With my first it took 3 weeks for bleeding and cramps to fully stop but with my 2nd it only took just over a week!