Brown spotting after D&C, how long for?

[KnitKitty]

I had a D&C for MMC last week on Tuesday. Bled for 3 or 4 days and then have had brown spotting since then.

Every time I think it's stopping, it starts again. I didn't have any on Sunday (or hardly any), didn't put a pad in the next day and then made a mess of my underwear. I'll go for almost a whole day with nothing and then a bit more will appear.

How long did yours last for?

I was told not to have sex until bleeding has stopped as there is a risk of infection - I'm assuming that includes this brown spotting, even though it's intermittent?

I found out I was pregnant on February 18th, and was roughly 4-5 weeks along. Started bleeding on and off a few days later, but that stopped after about 2 weeks and then I found out about the MMC on the 7th March and it's been a long, drawn out journey which I am just sick to the back teeth of now. I want my body and life back to normal.

@KnitKitty, sometimes it looks negative to me, other times I look at it and can see a faint line! It's definitely lighter than yesterday's one, though. I'm still getting loads of stretchy egg white cervical mucus, plus my skin is awful right now (which it normally is around the time I ovulate and around the time AF is due). I've read that you can ovulate with HCG in your system, but it's gotta be very low. Glad your pain is better.

Afternoon everyone.

Hope you've all had a good weekend. Been away for a family wedding this weekend& had actually a pretty good weekend emotionally. Was surprised as had been kind of dreading it in a way - was one of the first milestone dates I'd always had in my head like by this weekend I'll be x weeks but actually I've been ok. Think I must be finally getting to the acceptance stage of things.
Also had some cramping yesterday and today on & off and a bit of brown spotting so I think period might be on the way! But of a surprise must have ovulated earlier than I thought in the end. We'll see I guess!

@CobaltRose that definitely looks negative to me! That & I've def ovulated with low but still positive hcg levels last time so can def happen.

@RedRobin7 that is awkward with the dentists it is really good that we're still entitled to this stuff though would be a bit harsh if not. Glad also that the periods been ok- I'm hoping mine goes the same way 🤞

@KnitKitty glad the pains have settled down. Hoping for you it is just ovulation.

Morning everyone.

Woke up to very sore boobs today, which is normally a sign that AF will turn up within the next ten days or so. I'd like to think it's a sign of pregnancy, but since we only DTD for the first time since my miscarriage eight days ago, I doubt it. Seems a little early. I've also been getting nausea and travel sickness, but that's probably my over active imagination playing tricks on me!

Still feeling very sick and boobs are still killing! What are you playing at, body?

Jessabean well done for getting through your milestone in good shape. Glad you've been feeling a bit better. Has AF showed up yet?

I feel like my period is on the way too, I've been cramping all afternoon. Wasn't expecting it this early on after my first negative pregnancy test though.

CobaltRose I'd advise you not to read too much in to symptoms and things at the moment. Usually if you're pregnant enough to feel sick, you're pregnant enough to get a positive test, and it is very, very early days for you still. Bodies can do strange things and it might still just be hormones settling and fluctuating, or it could be coincidental and you're fighting off a bit of a bug or something. Only saying this because I hate to think of you getting your hopes up and then getting disappointed. I really hope it happens for you soon!!!

Thanks @KnitKitty. I'm definitely not getting my hopes up and am just telling myself that the sore boobs and nausea (which I'm still getting!) is just my body gearing up for a period.

Some hopefully good news though... I took an ovulation test on Friday and got what I think is a positive (see first picture). That was the same day I was getting lots of EWCM and pain. I didn't get my hopes up as I thought it might've been my body playing tricks on me, but I've taken another ovulation test today and got a clear negative (second picture). So, I'm hoping that the positive test I got on Friday was the real deal and I did indeed ovulate, and I'm also hoping that doing the deed the night before ovulation and every other day since is enough to get us our BFP in a couple of weeks time!

Then again, when you've been disappointed once it's hard to get your hopes up again, as I'm sure you ladies can sadly relate to

Oops, would help if I posted the picture

Fingers crossed for you CobaltRose.

Still not AF for me, period pains have stopped again but feel really fatigued so I know she's planning a visit soon.

@CobaltRose Fingers crossed for you!

Hope your AF arrives soon @KnitKitty Mines still going, currently day 6. I've usually finished by now. Feeling very low this week and get the impression my husband has changed his mind about trying again next month 😭

Hugs RedRobin7.

My periods usually last about 6 or 7 days and I remember them being up to 9 days long many moons ago before the pill, so I know how draining that is.

Have you had a proper talk about it with him? Maybe he's not as over the miscarriage as you are? It's hard for the dad to see mum going through it and not being able to do anything to help, and maybe he's wary about seeing you go through something similar again? My partner told my mum that he won't relax the whole way through pregnancy next time, so I think contemplating another pregnancy is hard for them too, even if the miscarriage didn't effect them in quite the same way.

Afternoon everyone

@KnitKitty my periods still not started properly yet either have just been getting brown spotting and cramping but the brown spotting pre period isn't completely unusual for me though. Hoping it arrives soon so can just try & get it over & done with now!
How are you holding up otherwise?

@RedRobin7 I'm sorry your OH maybe isn't on the same page as you for trying again soon. It is difficult. Am afraid I may end up having a similar situation soon as my OH says he's happy try when I'm ready but I get the feeling he thinks it may be too much for me to try again so soon this time. He's busy with work stuff at the moment but expecting we'll probs have a big chat about it next week at some point... the thing is that though this process is awful & no I don't feel great or completely back to pre-pregnancy/miscarriage me 6 months ago I don't think I ever will fully & ultimately if we want it to happen eventually I'll just have to find the strength to try and go with it again even though it will be awful no matter how long I wait. Understand it's not just me it's affecting though so will see how he feels... How has the AF been if that's not too weird too ask? I'm petrified of what to expect of my first one in 6 months! 🙈

@CobaltRose I hope for you that you do get your positive result in next couple of weeks. Glad also that your not reading too much into symptoms or getting your hopes up. I remember being told last time that with all the hormonal upset you often get false pregnancy/ovulation symptoms including false positive OPKs so it is just a trying for the best and then a waiting game going for it the first cycle TTC post mc I think.

Jessabean I'm not doing too badly actually, thanks for asking. Keeping myself busy, and now that the limbo of not being pregnant but still showing positive is over I've found it a lot easier to cope and move forward.

I've been worried about what AF will be like too. My last one was on Jan 10th.

I was wondering how you were doing earlier, remembering that you've pretty much been pregnant since October. I hope you don't mind me asking you this; have you felt like the grief merged with the two pregnancy losses, or did you mourn them both separately? I can't imagine what you've been through. Well done for keeping it together and getting on with life even after what happened. I understand what you mean; if you take a break from trying it won't make it any easier when you do again.

I just wanted to say a big thank you to all of you ladies. You've really made this hellish journey bearable and seeing the strength in you helps me find mine too. xxx xxx I really hope we all have lovely rainbow babies in our arms next year.

Morning ladies,

My period is slowing down now so hopefully today or tomorrow it'll be finished. I was so worried it would be horrendous because of the remaining clots that the scan showed. To be honest it was heavier than normal and I did have lots of clots but the pain was no worse than normal and was managed with a couple of doses of ibuprofen. Hopefully you'll have similar, if not better.

I have been avoiding a proper conversation with my husband as I'm afraid to hear that he doesn't want to try at all in the near future. It's all I want from life and I desperately want a baby so he really does hold the key to my happiness in his hand ☹️ I know it takes two but since I'm the one who has been through this, surely the most important thing is that if I feel ready then that's what counts. Maybe I'm being selfish but I'm just so depressed at the moment at the thought of it all going wrong again, I don't want to delay trying. I just want to know what my future holds!

@KnitKitty I agree, you've all helped massively. Thank you for the support xx

Hi everyone.

Sorry for my rubbish replying have had a few hellish days of it work wise.

@KnitKitty that is so sweet of you to say. I really don't know what I would have done without our little group over the last few weeks especially in those first 2-3 weeks when everything seemed so bleak & awful & will be lovely to see us all with rainbow babies in the hopefully not so far future!
Don't mind you asking at all. As things have gotten easier the last couple of weeks I've been reflecting on this myself & why it seemed to hit me that bit harder this time. I did definitely grieve the first time but I don't think I fully dealt with my feelings then & used focussing on getting pregnant again ASAP to cope. I think I had wanted to just have a successful pregnancy to try & change the story of what happened - undo the fact that I didn't have the expected happy first pregnancy experience & prove to myself that this was a fluke & all will be happy & to plan from now on. And that obviously did not quite turn out how I'd hoped! So I think this time I was probably grieving for both miscarriages properly. I think it was also dealing with the anxieties over being a recurrent miscarriage sufferer & trying to accept that the easy pregnancy journey just isn't going to be my story unfortunately & the fact that this journey is not going to be very enjoyable even if I'm lucky & it's the textbook pregnancy next time. I really don't think I realised how hard being pregnant again was going to be last time. Even when all seemed to be going well the background anxiety never really left. Whenever I'd had a 'reassuring' early scan I'd be happy until I got home & then the niggles and worries would slowly creep in again. Next time I really think I'm not going to believe I won't miscarry or something won't be wrong until I'm nearing the 20 week mark. Then maybe if all's been going to plan I might at least have an enjoyable later end of pregnancy but even then I think pregnancy is going to be a bit of a battle for me mentally but think I'm ok with that now. I just hope that I'll get there in the end if I keep going.

My period started yesterday properly so at least things are moving along & so far it has been very non-dramatic thankfully! Is quite impressive that our bodies know what to do despite what they've been through really.
@RedRobin7 I'm glad yours is coming to an end. I know what your saying I don't want people thinking they know what's best for me and what I can and can't deal with with this journey - had my mum telling me she thinks I should wait as well now - it's like why?! It's going to make no difference waiting & If I say I'm ready trust that I mean it. 🙄 I know she means well though.

Jessabean everything you said makes total sense. I can see that it would be easier to get over a first MC in lots of ways, but two in a row hits hard and in a different way too because you're presented with new worries. I really, really hope that you've just had some bad luck and 3rd time's a charm. You don't class as having had multiple miscarriages medically, so I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you that it was a bad fluke and your next one will be a healthy bean.

I'm totally with you on not feeling like I could relax when I'm (hopefully) next pregnant.

Still no period for me. Not sure what the cramping was about on Monday.

Well AF arrived. Very light dark blood at the moment.

Feeling a bit crap. Wishing I was still pregnant with baby no1, worrying about trying again in case I lose another one and feeling like it's just generally unfair that I have to be back to square one again. Looking at the month ahead I think we have people staying over during what I think will be my fertile week this month so it's going to be hard to get any alone time at all that week.

Hope everyone else is doing better than I am today.

Hi, I'm sorry for Ur loss. I also had the same problem.as I think it's BcZ of these go negligence or they can't do out of rules

can anyone tell me where to buy progesterone cream for pregnancy. I lost one in December now I'm pregnant 8 weeks having bleeding like how it is when I lost my first. GP not giving here any progesterone but I know it's BcZ of these levels as having thyroid and pcos.any suggestions plz

@KnitKitty Pleased to hear your period has arrived - the waiting game was frustrating. How are you feeling today? I hope you're not too crampy.

I understand what you mean about the anxiety about trying again and just wishing you were still pregnant. When you're under that dark cloud it's hard to think positively. Most of last week I felt so low and wasn't sure how to get past it. Friday I woke up feeling much stronger. The bad days aren't as frequent but it's definitely still quite dark when it is a bad day. Your hormones won't be helping you either but hopefully after your period you might feel a little stronger.

Hope you're able to find the time to try this month. I'm due to ovulate this week and wish we were trying. I know it was my idea to have a holiday first and then try in June but that's when I wasn't sure I'd feel strong enough to try again so soon. We had a heart to heart on Thursday evening and my husband said he's just very anxious about the unknown. Me too! We are in agreement we'll try again in June, so at least that's now only next month!

How are you feeling today @Jessabean ?

@CobaltRose How are you? You're in that two week period that feels like time is going slower than ever!

Hope you're all having a nice bank holiday weekend! I'm on my way to see my friend. Last time I saw her she had just had a miscarriage... now it's me. Still repeatedly questioning why life is so unfair to the good ones!

@RedRobin7, I'm not too bad, thanks But yeah, I'm in that two week wait and actively resisting testing! I'm only 9DPO so don't think there's much chance of a BFP. Trying not to get my hopes up, especially after what happened last time

In other good news, I had an interview on Wednesday and found out Friday I'd gotten the job! £2 an hour more than my current job!

Hope everyone everyone else is doing well!

@CobaltRose I know I tested like crazy the first time so can't talk but try to resist as long as possible. Early tests could be negative just because it's too early and you'll get upset! Keeping everything crossed for you.

Congrats on the new job!! Hope that's helped you feel a little more positive about things x

Ugh. So, I caved and took a FR and got this... Part of me can see a VERY faint line, but another part is saying that it's just wishful thinking... I need another pair of eyes!

@CobaltRose I see a very faint line too but I don't want to get your hopes up. I've been trying to track my ovulation just to know when my period will come and I thought I saw a faint line on Friday morning but then nothing the next two days. This is torture for you 😔 Try again in a few days... if you can keep away from those sticks!!

Hi everyone

Sorry it's been a while - I'm working this weekend- 12 hour shifts on sunniest weekend of year to date yay 🙄

@CobaltRose that is definitely a faint positive result! 😊 Did you get a negative one before today though? The only reason I ask is I was taking FRER tests at the end of this miscarriage and they stayed faintly like that for absolutely ages. Don't want to sound negative but at the same time want to make sure you won't be getting your hopes up in case. But if that is a genuine new BFP am so thrilled for you! 🤗

@KnitKitty I'm so sorry you had a rubbish day yesterday. How are you feeling today? Glad for you at least that your period is arriving though it is rubbish timing with your friends staying. Is it possible you can still potentially have some private time/space to try? As RedRobin said I still get a few bouts of negative days too now and then. Few things have resurfaced the feelings for me too the last few days actually. Partly the period. A close friend of mine also contacted me earlier in the week as she's suffering a miscarriage and knows what's been happening with me. Was nice to be able to be there for her but did kind of bring it back home a bit with same emotions/anxieties resurfacing again. The same day I also got a letter through from the crematorium to say the ashes are ready for collection- probably didn't help either! Am going tomorrow morning to pick up. 🙁 in a way will be nice to have them with me again though. There's also the fact that I'm surrounded by gestating women still. Colleague I'm working with this weekend is pregnant with Edd a week before mine would have been. Can't help looking at her nice little bump & thinking I should look like that (though mine wouldn't have been that neat as I'm not that skinny!). I don't want to be jealous & I am genuinely so happy for all these people but Is just like a stab in the heart every time I see any of them still. Hoping this feeling will fade eventually.

@RedRobin7 glad you and your OH had a good chat about things. I know what you mean re:conflicting feelings of wanting to just try straight away but also have a little bit of time to recover. I keep fluctuating but overall the TTC feelings tend to win out. Are you off anywhere nice on holiday? Might be nice to get away and is only short break from TTC.

Xxx

Hi @Jessabean, I had a negative FR on the 28th! I certainly couldn't see a line anyway. But I'm not going to get my hopes up until I've got a blazing positive!

That is sounding very good though in that case! 😊 @CobaltRose
Red robin is right though best to try and stay away from testing for another couple of days at least & see if line is darker- then you know it's for sure.
Keeping all digits crossed for you 🤞 though. I hope it's a sticky one for you. I know my history isn't a very inspiring story but Is still much higher chances of things going right next time - risk actually doesn't change at all after first miscarriage from no miscarriages. Xx