Rememberance.

[lilymty]

Hello everyone.
I have just had my third mc. I'm struggling alot more with this last one. I really want to do something to remember my lost babies but don't really know what. Was wondering if anyone had any ideas.

I am so sorry for your losses, sounds like such a hollow thing to say but really I can't imagine how that must feel and I'm truly, sorry this has happened.

If you have names the babies, have you considered a piece of jewellery with their names engraved on it? You can get a variety of styles to fit multiple named, like the ones that are 3 different rings that fit inside each other.

You can also get the names engraved on the back, so that if you don't feel like the general public being able to see/ask questions then the names aren't obvious.

So sorry for your third loss. I also had a miscarriage in January and wanted to get something to remember the baby by. I got a pandora bracelet with some charms on. One of the charms has the gemstone of the due date. I also got a cuddly mouse which I was planning to get if everything was ok at the 3 month scan. Big hugs xx

I'm very sorry for your losses. I'm also on my 3rd and have been thinking the same.
How about a nice art print - a trio of birds or butterflies or something along those lines? Or a plant that flowers around the month you were due.
I have also been reading about a Japanese tradition of Jizo which I found quite heartwarming.
This article was written by a US journalist but may sum up some of our feelings:
mobile.nytimes.com/2017/01/06/well/family/the-japanese-art-of-grieving-a-miscarriage.html
Take care X

Sending hugs ❤️ A pp planted a rose in their garden. They each wrote a letter to their bean and buried it under the rose.

I am going to grow sweet peas every year as that's the time of year when it happened.

Hand holds x

Lily I am sorry to read of your third loss. When I had my first miscarriage last year my husband bought us the remembrance willow tree figure which looks lovely sitting on our living room shelf. I have lost a further 4 babies since then so have added to that shelf with further figures. My 3 year old often wants to take them down to play with/look at and he knows they are special and to be careful.

singingstarfish that article is just lovely.

Sorry for your loss I have a Jizo for my lost babies and a tattoo, not to everyone's taste I know.

I also have a tattoo. I went to a remembrance service held by the hospital chaplain after my third miscarriage and then went and got 3 birds tattooed on my ribcage. I've recently had a 4th added.

I can't wear jewellery for work and don't have a garden. It is always with me which I like.

So sorry for your losses.
We had a mmc last year and have a memorial rose in our garden to remember our little one.