Help...what should I expect? What's going to happen?

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I had an early scan this week which showed a foetal pole measuring 7 weeks which would be correct measurement but no heartbeat could be seen and I'm scheduled to have a rescan this coming week. But this morning I had some brown spotting and just one small blood clot. I've not had any pain at all, I feel I know what is coming 😔. Can anyone tell me when the bleeding will get worse? Will it be painful? Should I still carry on as normal and go to work is it going to suddenly hit me soon? I'm terrified about what is about to happen and devastated I know I am going to lose my much wanted baby.

I had the same yesterday measurements fine for 10 weeks but no heat beat either. I haven't had any pains or symptoms. How long has it taken to get to that stage? I would like the same answers too x

@Cocoloon the only advice I've been given is to go to urgent care if I start to bleed heavier than a period. It's been 4 days since my scan. Have they scheduled another scan for you?

The scan was yesterday and they said to phone my GP tomo and that was it. I still haven't had any symptoms. I feel just numb about the whole thing

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Its awful I don't even know whether I should go into work tomorrow. Was your scan a private scan? Mine was, they told me to call my doctor who referred me to the epu for another scan so maybe that's what they might do for you?
Thinking of you it's so unexpected when there's no pain we just assume everything is ok 😔

I decided I'm not going into work tomo as I'm going to phone my GP. My scan was private - kinda wish I didn't go then it might of changed things like the butterfly effect (film) I know I feel so numb ... it's just such a weird feeling. I've read some post about what to expect from a miscarriage as it seems the drs play down how it really is and it doesn't sound very nice at all. Hopefully yours will have my hope than my situation as the heart starts beating 6-8 weeks I think (may of misread this) but as I was 10 weeks they should of definitely seen a flicker on the scan 😭 Thinking of you too 🤦🏽‍♀️

So sorry you're going through this. I was 10 weeks when I had a small bleed, no real pain apart from mild cramps. Had a private scan the next day which confirmed no heart beat (I'd also had a scan at 8 weeks which showed everything was fine). The next morning I had dreadful cramps followed by a day of bleeding and passed a large clot.

Felt ok the rest of the day (physically) then had very bad cramps again that evening. More bleeding and another large clot passed the next day and no more pain after that, just bleeding on and off for just under 2 weeks but not heavy.

The pain was just about bearable with strong painkillers, but it didn't last long, a couple of hours each time.

I've just had another MC this weekend but was only 5 weeks so it was more like a heavy and very uncomfortable period. Feeling fragile but getting there!

Everyone is different but this was my experience and i hope it helps in some way. You will get through it if that's what happens, just give yourself time to recover. It's a really awful thing so sending lots of hugs to you xxx

Thanks @HansSolo22 I think it helps knowing that a lot of people go through it (even though I would hate people to go through it) I hope you feel better v soon. Thanks for sharing what happened with you. Xx

@Cocoloon I was completely in denial before the spotting started telling DH how incompetent the private scanner was, they had said according to measurements a heartbeat should be seen and I know deep down they must have been right now. I'm going to take the next few days off work, I'll keep you updated 😔 ((Hugs)) x

@HansSolo22 Thank you for sharing your experience it really helps, I'm so sorry for your losses it's heartbreaking. I completely broke down after my ectopic so I'm really trying to hold it together this time x

I'm trying to keep it together this time too and I'm doing ok then out of the blue the sadness just overwhelms me and I have a good cry. Whilst is good to have the support of this forum, it is heartbreaking that so many of us go through these awful things. I have a 2.5 year old little boy who has been amazing, not sure how I'd have got through it without seeing his little face. Stay strong xx

Bless you. It is not easy make sure you have water to drink and hot water bottles or heat pads to use if the cramps get sore...just be kind to yourself. I miscarried at 16 weeks five weeks ago and only now am I starting to feel more "normal" physically. Breathing techniques help too...all the best.L.xxx

@MUMOFANANGEL84 thank you for the advice, it's so heartbreaking that we have to go through this.

Not much has happened since yesterday, I'm starting to regret not going to work as I have too much time to sit and think 😔. I'm not bleeding but feeling quite bloated. I'm hoping this happens naturally rather than having any medical intervention x

I've just found out today too. Measured at 7w 4d and I thought I was 8w6d. I'm so scared as to what's going to happen.

I'm so sorry you're also going through this @Presh1234 I have no advice I'm just waiting for it to happen.

It's a difficult day today, DH is completely in denial and thinks we'll see everything is ok on the follow up scan. I know he's going to be heartbroken. I don't know if I have the strength to cope with both of our emotions 😢

Just to update, a scan today has confirmed I am miscarrying. Foetal pole has now gone and all that remains is a irregular shaped sac.

Can't amend is yours a missed miscarriage? I have no idea what to do. We can't get tablets here so I've been told to either wait or have a D&C. Have looked up all sorts online and naturally sounds horrific. D&C equally horrific because it's a general anaethestic. Healing time quicker with a D&C. Mess and trauma and pain with naturally. I'm so confused. How far along were you? 😓

I'm 8wk 5days today but the baby stopped growing at 7 weeks. I've started to bleed so have been told it will be best to miscarry naturally. I've had no pain at all so far.

I should have been 9 today but stopped at 7w4d. Im still so undecided.

Have you had any spotting or bleeding at all? Do you still have pregnancy symptoms?

I'm so sorry you're going through this, I miscarried in December. I had started bleeding so miscarried naturally. There is a really good thread on here with lots of practical advice on what to expect and tips with what others found worked for them. I'm no good at links but will try to bump it if I find it. Take care of yourselves and do what feels best for you.

No I've had no symptoms at all. Nothing. Except my boobs aren't sore anymore. Nothing else though. No spotting bleeding cramps.

So sorry everyone. I have had 5 but there is some hope as I ended up having 2 children

Some MCs will happen naturally, you will start bleeding and it will be much heavier than a period and painful too.

For 2 of mine I did surgical management as i was having no bleeding, no signals anything was wrong at all... that helped me to get closure more quickly and just try again...

wishing you all the best... take time off work if you need - i was back in 2 days the first time, took me 2 weeks to go back on number 4

I'm trying to hold it together but I am so devastated. All I can think about is how my body has failed me completely and rejected my baby. All I want is for this to be over so I can start TTC again.
I feel like I can't cry, I have to be strong for my DH and the children I am so lucky to have.

I've decided to go for the D&C. I can't bear the thought of hanging around waiting for maybe 2-3 weeks. I don't want to have to deal with the pain or the emotional trauma of it all coming out either. I hope you're doing ok. Xx

Oh and I've cried ALL day but now Ive decided what I'm doing, I feel a weight lifted off me. Husband wasn't really any use lol. He just said it was my decision and he would support me whatever I decided!