Help...what should I expect? What's going to happen?

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I had an early scan this week which showed a foetal pole measuring 7 weeks which would be correct measurement but no heartbeat could be seen and I'm scheduled to have a rescan this coming week. But this morning I had some brown spotting and just one small blood clot. I've not had any pain at all, I feel I know what is coming 😔. Can anyone tell me when the bleeding will get worse? Will it be painful? Should I still carry on as normal and go to work is it going to suddenly hit me soon? I'm terrified about what is about to happen and devastated I know I am going to lose my much wanted baby.

Glad you're feeling better Presh. It is awful waiting for it to pass 😔 I've had some back ache and light bleeding, I'm so hoping it doesn't take too long x

How you doing cantamend

So sorry for you. I had a miscarriage at 7-8 weeks about 3 weeks ago.
I passed it all naturally and it felt like a period; I bled for 8 days in total. Surprisingly there was not much in the way of pain. I felt ache in my lower back and thighs and some mild cramps, but no pain as such, and didn't take any painkillers.

I took one day off work but my job isn't too physically taxing, if it was I would have taken more time off. DH also took a couple of days off to do all school & nursery pickups etc.

I imagine you will be feeling extremely fatigued so do look after yourself, bed is the best place really.

I'm doing a lot better today, spent the evening letting it all out and having a cry so woke with really puffy eyes. Thanks for checking in on me @Presh1234

@Banania I'm so sorry you've had to go through this too 😔. I hope you don't mind me asking but was your bleeding quite light to begin with? I've been bleeding lightly for about a week now and I'm worried it's not getting heavier and that I may need some help with moving things along.

Hi cantamend and presh I'm so sorry to hear you're both going through this at the moment. Hope you're both ok.

It's so difficult and when you have the scan, you don't seem to be told much about what to expect which is scary. Then again everyone is different, so maybe that's why they can't say specifically what to do in terms of time off work etc.

Mine kind of happened the other way round, woke up bleeding at 6 weeks exactly (not very heavy, just like period), so I knew it was happening and went for scan to confirm, rather than having scan, and then waiting for the inevitable.

For me it was like a heavy period, bad cramps for the first day or two, then eased off. The bleeding never got that heavy, pads were enough, then passed a clot on about the 5th day and that was pretty much the end of it.

I think all you can do is look after yourself, cry, talk to your partner, and if you can get time off work it's good, even if physically you're ok, emotionally you're not. Unfortunately I was stuck in the middle of our busiest time in work and was only able to take a day, which was awful as I just kept nearly bursting into tears.

Wishing you strength through this difficult time

Yes, it was quite light, and never really got all that heavy, pads were enough for me too. I've probably had heavier periods tbh.

I can't stop crying. I'm so afraid of tmrw. I'm so afraid of the anaethestic and not wakening up. I'm afraid incase something happens like my heart stops or have uncontrollable bleeding. I heard so many horror stories about passing it naturally that I decided to go the D&C route and now I'm so uncertain. I feel ill all the time and I have had a banging headache for two days.

Presh I was terrified when I had to have emergency surgery for my ectopic pregnancy. I was literally shaking before they gave me the anaethestic. I just felt groggy when I woke up but I was under for a while as my tube had ruptured.
I've actually had 4 anaethestics and been fine every time apart from feeling groggy.
You will be fine will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Thank you everyone for your kind words, it really does mean so much and has given me a lot of strength. It's been difficult because I wasn't planning on telling anyone until I had reached 12 weeks and had the scan. I've not really had anyone to talk to so I am truly grateful for you sharing your experiences with me x

Cantamend youve had a time of it, this and a previous ectopic! How are you doing today? I had a wee snooze this afternoon (I'm 3hrs ahead of uk) and now sorting dinner and maybe a movie. Will prob have another crying session at some point with fear about tmrw.

I've spent the day cleaning the house from top to bottom, it's been a distraction. It's this evening when I'll have time to sit and think that will be the hardest but I do feel better than yesterday. I'm going to give the epu a call at the end of the week as I'm still hardly bleeding.
I hope tomorrow goes well and I hope your DH is ready to look after you. It's so hard, both emotionally and physically.

@Presh1234 thinking of you today

Hi everyone
Thank you all so much for your kind words and thoughts. I am now home. Got myself in a bit of a state re the anesthesia this morning and it all turned out fine. Said she was giving me anti anxiety stuff and I asked her to tell me before she "put me under". Next thing you know, I'm being woken! All went according to plan and uncomplicated. I'm so glad it's over and now I know what it is, in the unfortunate event it were to happen again, I'd def go again. I'm in no pain at the moment although not sure if that's because the drugs haven't worn off or if I won't have any. It's 4pm here and op was at 10 so 6 hours ago. Took me in at 10.15, was probably awake another 5 mins or so and then I woke up at 11.10.
Cantamend how you doing? I hope you're ok xxxx

Hi everybody..
It s very encouraging Presh1234 your post.
I have a scan this eveninnig at 7 and i think i have an incomplete mc and the dr will tell me to do the D&c and i am so afraid..I Have no AG till now ..i am in very much panic right now :((

Casi so sorry to hear that. Have you had an incomplete miscarriage? I am THE most anxious and nervous person and I worry about everything. I was a complete state. My husband told me I had better calm down otherwise they would refuse to take me in. I can honestly say, it was fine. I had every one of my Close friends tormented all week asking questions and telling them how afraid I was.
So sorry you are going through this. There are so many of us. Xxxx

Yes Presh1234..i think it s incomplete because i had a mc with Misoprostol because my baby was 6 week and no heart beat..i took Misoprostol 3 weeks ago..1 week ago i went to the OB and he told me that i have some tissue to eliminate and he open my cervix manual and the it started the heavy bleading and a few big clots
I have now 10 ten wit bleading slowly and back pain and cramps like period..:(
So i think i have some tissue still there..and i am so afraid of what the OB will tell me tonight ..if i must have de D&c :((

I had a confirming scan yesterday and baby measured nearly 10 weeks which I was but no heart beat. No cramping or bleeding. My boobs hadn't been as sore as what they were and I also haven't felt nausea since last Friday. I had the D&C booked in and had that yesterday late afternoon under general anesthetic. I didn't want to wait for my body to do this naturally as it hadn't started and I feel like I need to pick myself up and carry on quicker than waiting. Surgery went fine, the nurses were lovely. I went home few hours later. Didn't have any pain till abit of cramping about 5 hours later and bleeding similar to regular period. Took some pain relief in the evening and have to rest for 48hours after apparently not even lifting a kettle which I have been doing. Just having some time out really. I have watched some YouTube clips of people going or went through missed misscarriage etc and I feel they have helped. There is a French lady (in English) that I found the best and described everything I feel. One thing that made me think was that she said, I trust my body and my body did what obviously what had to happen. I am thankful that my body did this for me instead of me having to make that decision.
I am also deciding that I'm not going to keep this a secret, I don't think it's bad to share what I ... we have been through (you will realise) that so many people who you didn't even know had had been through this too. The fetus to me was a living thing as it's heart had been beating before it stopped so I will always think of it as my lost baby.

Cocoloon so sorry for your loss. It is so sad. I totally get what you are saying about telling people. I'm a teacher so up until today I had friends and colleagues texting to see if I was ok. At the time, until I got my head sorted, I told them it was a bad tummy bug. Today, I decided to stop the lying and that anyone who has been genuinely interested and who has enquired, it is only right I tell them. They are my friends. Everyone has been lovely. So supportive and you are so right, many many people have been through it. I don't think there should be anything to be ashamed about and I don't think it is something that should be hidden. I really hope you are doing ok. I was 9 weeks and no heartbeat. Came as such a shock. Xxxx

@Presh1234
A total shock ... when I nievely or shall I say because I didn't have any knowledge about miscarriages and the different types I never really thought about there being anything wrong as I had no indication that something was wrong ... I never thought about going to a scan and baby not having a heart beat, to me I had never heard about that before only the 'normal' bleeding, spotting and severe cramping.
I have dealt in the past with my fathers death secretly and hidden and that bit me on the butt so hard years later that I don't want that feeling again. Like you, If people ask I will say. I'm not ashamed, I'm totally upset, confused but I am coping and if/when I get pregnant again I know I am going to be so anxious but perhaps more prepared that these heart wrenching things happen frequently to a lot of people in pregnancy. On Saturday when I found out I kept thinking what a cruel world which just made me so angry ... so I am trying to change my mindset that maybe what happened happened because the baby was not 100% and the other comfort to me was the baby did not know fear or happiness at that stage.

@Presh1234 I'm so glad that everything went well for you, have been thinking about you today. I'm doing ok, still not having any real significant bleeding. I called my local epu and they've agreed that if it doesn't get going by next week they will see me to arrange to remove anything that's left.

@Cocoloon I am so sorry for your loss. It makes me feel so upset to know so many of us are going through this. I have previously had an ectopic aswell as this miscarriage, a good friend said to me at the time that although my baby had gone I was still a mummy to that baby and always will be, it was a great comfort.
I too will be more anxious if I am lucky enough to be pregnant again. I had never heard of a MMC before.

How you doing cantamend? Hope you are ok. I have had no bleeding at all still and am dreading it in case there is a huge gush. Have had no pain either. Just very very light spotting. Not even sure this is normal. My doctor phoned me on Thursday night to check on me and then again on Friday morning. She said everyone is different so there is no normal. I'm hoping I will be like the 100's of others I've googled and that I won't have anything else.
Bit sad and down now about our plans that could have been and now won't be.....at the minute. 😓 but am ok enough to know how common it is, how I can get pregnant again, how I'm "lucky" it happened so early on. Xxxx

I'm doing ok, I went back to work yesterday so that's been a distraction. @Presh1234 how are you feeling today? I understand the feeling sad about the plans and what could've been. I think as soon as you see the positive test you start thinking ahead to how the pregnancy will progress and giving birth and seeing your baby. All I keep thinking about is getting pregnant again but I know I need to give myself time to heal. X

For anyone who comes across this thread in a similar situation I thought I would let you know the outcome for me.

Since going to the epu and being told the baby was now gone and just an irregular shaped sac was left I was sent home for conservative management.
That was 13th June, from that date onwards I had some spotting and v.light bleeding on and off. On 22nd June when I would've been 10 weeks I started to get intense contraction pains which came and went from around 3pm that afternoon. By 9pm I was struggling with the pain after taking paracetamol so decided a warm bath might help which it did. At around 9.30 I suddenly had the urge to push and passed the sac in the bath. I was so shocked I jumped out shaking, I wasn't expecting it to be so large (around 2.5inches) but once that had passed the pain immediately stopped.

Since then I have been having period like bleeding with minimal pain.

So it took 3 weeks from no heartbeat to finally miscarry. I'm so sorry for anyone that has to go through this. It has been both emotionally and physically draining. I will never forget my baby but I can now it finally came to an end I can move on.

Me and my husband went for our 12 week scan yesterday, we were both so excited but it turned out to be the worst day of our lives. When we were having the scan the nurse said she couldn't see the 12 week baby she was expecting. They had to do an internal ultrasound and told us they could see a foetal pole that measured about 6-8 weeks but there was no heartbeat. My body had carried on thinking it was pregnant but we had lost our baby. We feel like we are in limbo now just waiting to miscarry. The information we had from the early pregnancy nurse wasn't very helpful and scared us more than reassuring us. We are both so heartbroken and can't understand how this has happened. I'm only 27 and fit and healthy, it's our first baby we just can't believe we are having to go through this. I feel like my body has let me down and that I've let me husband down. How long will it take to miscarry and when does things start to feel ok again? These are the questions the nurse wouldn't answer for us. We are both so lost 😢