Help...what should I expect? What's going to happen?

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I had an early scan this week which showed a foetal pole measuring 7 weeks which would be correct measurement but no heartbeat could be seen and I'm scheduled to have a rescan this coming week. But this morning I had some brown spotting and just one small blood clot. I've not had any pain at all, I feel I know what is coming 😔. Can anyone tell me when the bleeding will get worse? Will it be painful? Should I still carry on as normal and go to work is it going to suddenly hit me soon? I'm terrified about what is about to happen and devastated I know I am going to lose my much wanted baby.

@KatEtoria I am so sorry for your loss

It took me 3 weeks to miscarry. Did the hospital not give you any options? I was offered conservative management (wait to miscarry naturally) which I did, medical management (pills to miscarry) and surgical management (an op to remove the pregnancy).

Please don't blame yourself, I have felt exactly the same, that it is my fault and my stupid body let me down. But I've realised this happens to so many women it is truly heartbreaking.

I'm here if you need to talk x

Thank you
The nurse gave us some leaflets but she didn't really explain things to us. We got the feeling that we were taking up her time and she wanted us to leave. The whole experience wasn't managed very well by the hospital. We've searched the options on line but we can't decide what to do x

I'm sorry you had such a horrible experience at the hospital some nurses see this happen so often that they just lacy empathy.
Have you had any bleeding at all? I had already started spotting so they told me to go for miscarrying naturally.

It really depends on how you feel, I did get to the point where I just wanted it to be over and if I hadn't miscarried this week I was prepared to go back for surgical management.

Take your time to decide I'm sure your emotions must be all over the place at the moment x

lack empathy