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17 weeks and waters broke

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fibrecruncher · 19/03/2017 00:07

I'm just so stunned I think I have to write it down in order to cope. This has been a long awaited DC2, we were trying for 18 months. Rocky start to the pregnancy - bleeding and a couple of early scans at the epu, which showed no problems everything fine, baby healthy. Just when I thought we were in the clear my waters broke this afternoon. I'm floored. At the hospital since 5pm waiting to see if I go into spontaneous labour. I'm only 17 weeks no chance for baby to survive, I'm just so crushed.

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ScarletSienna · 19/03/2017 23:14

It is so sad that this is happening and you and your baby are very much being thought of. If only that were more than it is. Flowers

Tweennightmare · 20/03/2017 07:39

Fibrecruncher you are in my thoughts today . I went through similar 16 years ago and it is such a painful time but 3 years later I had my happy ending with the birth of my second child and although we will always be incomplete without my beautiful second son. It has made me appreciate how precious our children are how life can change in an instant

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fibrecruncher · 20/03/2017 09:55

ScarletSienna & Tweennightmare - thank you.

The baby is now partially delivered :( but I don't have any contractions so they are taking me ino theatre to manipulate the cervix under GA. At least the end is now in sight.

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Itscurtainsforyou · 20/03/2017 12:30

I'm so sorry op. I've experienced trying to give birth with no contractions, it's really tough - glad they're doing what's necessary. I hope that you're soon in recovery and able to start processing everything.

Zoflorabore · 20/03/2017 12:36

So sorry op, hope you and your dh can spend some time with your little baby and I also am sending you a big virtual hug xx

TheFirstMrsDV · 20/03/2017 16:39

I have been thinking about you today.

I hope you are back in your room and able to spend some time with your baby.
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TheMerryWidow1 · 20/03/2017 16:49

bless you all xxxx

MummyPigLovesAppleSauce · 20/03/2017 16:51

I'm so sorry to hear your news love.
Take care Flowers

paddypants13 · 20/03/2017 18:12

Thinking of you and your dh Fibre. Flowers

ScarletSienna · 20/03/2017 19:35

Hope you're still getting lots of support. Flowers

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fibrecruncher · 20/03/2017 23:34

Thank you today everyone. It's been so helpful to have this outlet. I managed to deliver the baby by myself while waiting in theatre but still had the GA for the placenta which took them a while.

They then kindly transferred us to the bereavement room for the rest of the day which was much less clinical. We spent some time with the baby, we're pretty sure he was a boy and we've called him Samuel.

Thankfully we are home now and I'll see my older ds tomorrow afternoon and that can only bring me joy.

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Zoflorabore · 21/03/2017 02:44

God bless baby Samuel, you sound so strong and amazing, will be thinking of you in the coming days, from another mummy xx take care op

OpalIridescence · 21/03/2017 06:41

I am so glad you are through the physical and you were able to spend time with Samuel.

I have not been in this situation, I can only guess at what this has been like for you.

You sound very full of grace and strength, I hope you are getting alot of love and support.

You, Samuel and family are very much in this strangers thoughts

sandgrown · 21/03/2017 06:50

So sorry for you all Flowers

Iris65 · 21/03/2017 06:54

I am so sorry 💐

AndersArms · 21/03/2017 07:04

So sorry for your loss OP, thinking of you and Samuel Flowers

Starshine1 · 21/03/2017 07:13

So so sorry for your loss xx

esmaesmomma · 21/03/2017 07:26

FlowersFlowersFlowers so sorry for your loss Samuel is a beautiful name and your angel with with you always xxx

BrutusMcDogface · 21/03/2017 11:58

Sending love to you and your husband, and god bless baby Samuel xxx

DramaAlpaca · 21/03/2017 12:11

So sorry for the loss of baby Samuel, condolences to you all Flowers

HiMyNameIsUnknown · 21/03/2017 12:34

Sending love to you, Samuel & your partner. Give yourself time & rest

BrokenRainbow · 21/03/2017 12:58

I'm sorry what you're going through fibre I delivered my baby girl at 30 weeks last April, I was also induced (she was a still born) and the process was horrific. I'm glad you got through it.

Take care of yourself during the healing process, it took me several months to feel myself again.
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BrokenRainbow · 21/03/2017 13:04

Sorry that sounded gloomy but I'm much better now and have loving memories of my dd

paddypants13 · 21/03/2017 13:44

Samuel is a lovely name for you beautiful boy op. I'm so sorry he didn't make it. Enjoy your cuddles with your ds. Flowers

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fibrecruncher · 21/03/2017 14:50

Thank you ops, it's much appreciated. All your kind messages give me a little more strength with each one.

BrokenRainbow - not gloomy at all. It's helpful to hear other peoples experiences, my sincere condolences to you, delivering at 30 weeks must have been a very painful experience. And it is horrific, I found the delivery awful and undignified, I'll spare you the details. Just glad it's over now.

We told our little boy just now as he started talking about the baby. We said the baby was very very sick and he wasn't coming now he had to go to heaven. He asked why? So we explained again and he just said no, blew a raspberry at us and ran away to play upstairs. It wasn't quite the reaction we were expecting but we'll just have to see how he takes it over the next few days.

I'm doing OK today. Had a bit of a cry this morning. I'm just so sore, much more sore than yesterday! Everything hurts, my throat is really painful from the tubes during the GA. My tummy kills and going to the bathroom is interesting. I'm taking this week off and I'll see how I am.

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