Dealing with a miscarriage

[lauracolonnese]

Dear all,

I went for a early pregnancy scan on 25th October to see how many weeks pregnant i was as after giving birth to my healthy 16month old daughter my periods have been irregular. at the scan the sonographer said she could only see the gestational sac which measured 9mm and was told to come back a week later for another scan to see if there was any new development. My second can was on tuesday (1/11/16) and was again told they could only see the gestational sac which measured 9mm again. no fetal pole or yoke sac.

the consultant told us that is wasnt good news and to prepare for a miscarriage.
Yesterday i had a dull period pain ache and today i have lower back pain and slight pinkish discharge on and off.

I just wanted to know how long it takes after this for the miscarriage to begin properly.
I just want it all to be over. this is my first miscarriage and i just dont know what to expect. i have read various things on the web but i just wanted advise from someone that has been though it and how they dealt with it afterwards.

Many thanks
Laura

So sorry.

I had my first miscarriage in July (have 3 kids already) and I went for 7 week scan and the sac measured 4 or 5 weeks and was empty.

That was on a Monday, I intended to go back the following Monday but woke up on the Sunday with pinkish colour on loo roll. Carried on with my day as didn't know how long things would take. Light period by lunchtime and built up a bit.

By the following day it felt almost like a normal period although lighter. I was taking DD1 to her swimming lesson and I felt really lightheaded and had some cramps, and then went to the loo and passed some blood (seemd like a couple of gushes) with some quite bad cramps (only period pain like) and then carried on with my day.

The bleeding seemed to get a bit lighter day by day after that and no more pain.

A couple of weeks later I had a negative pregnancy test.

I only realised with hindsight but I think the swimming pool blood was it, the moment when the sac passed.

So for me things took 6 days to happen from the scan, but only about 36-48 hours from pink blood on loo roll to passing the sac. Had a week of light bleeding after that. None of it was even as heavy as a period apart from the blood gushes when the sac passed.

I don't know if I got away lightly? Hopefully yours will be quick and painless too. I had read loads of scare stories and was expecting a lot worse.

One thing I did do as soon as I realised from scan that the pregnancy was not viable was to carry pads and spare clothes, water, painkillers and a pack of wipes, just in case. Thankfully not needed but allowed me to carry on with life confident I could cope with a crisis.

I am sorry again for your loss, I hope things happen naturally and painlessly for you. My sac was under 1cm too, maybe at that size the physical process can be less harsh.

I think it's different for everyone.
I had very very light brown discharge for one week. Then I bled heavily for 1 week then light for 1 week.