mmc- how long did you wait to mc?

[Autumn2014]

Sorry for the multiple posts but it's all I can think about and I have no one, except my husband, in real life to talk this through.

Had a scan at 9+ weeks. Baby was measuring 7+5 with no heart beat. Hospital suggested conservative management and told me that nice guidelines suggest up 2 weeks to wait, but I could back in a week if it was bothering me and have medical management.

Has anyone waited 2 weeks or longer? Did your body eventually do it naturally? I just don't know what to think.

Ps I have no pain or bleeding but my nausea has gone and I am back to having an appetite and van stomach cups of tea again etc

Autumn I'm so sorry to hear about your MMC. I have had 2 natural miscarriages and one MMC at 11+2. Last one was about 7 weeks ago.

Are you spotting? If you are spotting I would say that it should progress and you will end up having a period like bleed eventually. I never passed anything that looked like the sac so I think with my early pregnancy losses they were re absorbed. With my later one I elected to have an ERPC.

No spotting. I had separate periods of Brown discharge. One at 5 weeks and one at 8 weeks but the sonographer thinks they were unrelated to the mc and more to do with the shape of my womb meaning that there was a corner with a bleed - not near the baby, and unfortunately the heart just stopped.

Sorry to hear about your mmc.
I've had two, first was discovered at the 12 week scan when the baby measured 9+2, I opted for taking the pills so it was over very quickly, but it was very painful.
My second mmc - my symptoms never showed up (and having had two successful pregnancies in between I knew what to expect). I had a lot on at work and was making a friends wedding cake so I put my head in the sand and ignored it. Eventually I went to see the midwife and told her I had had another mmc. She made an appt for me at the epu fir the next day but the next day I started bleeding. Went to the appt and they confirmed what I already knew. The bean measured 6weeks and I think I would have been 11 weeks by then.
I opted to wait it out and a few days later after some bleeding I had contraction like cramps for about half an hour and the bean and placenta came out.
If you are okay with waiting your body will do what it has to do naturally.
If you can please make sure you have someone with you. I was at work but drove myself home knowing what was happening and I was alone.

Sorry I accidentally posted before I had finished editing what my brain wrote. Sorry if any if it sounds a bit matter of fact.

No, thank you its what I need to know.

Also, with regards to not having anyone to speak to. If there are people who you could tell please do it. I had already announced our first pregnancy before i mmc'd and the support I got really helped me. I told fewer people the second time and it was harder emotionally.
Look after yourself xx

I'm really torn about letting people know as we hadn't told anyone we were ttc. It's complicated but I had a difficult previous pregnancy and my child was born with lots of health problems and I was also very poorly. We'd always said no more children to anyone that asked to stop them questioning us about a second. But we had lots of pre conception counselling and decided to be brave and try again. We didn't tell anyone as we didn't want people offering unwanted opinions or asking us for updates. Especially if they questioned our decision to try again. Sorry for the brain dump its a big mess now that I feel I can't share this news as I feel I'll show my hand about the ttc. The plan was announce the pregnancy as happy news and as I would already be pregnant hope that no one would question us.

So sorry that you are going through this. I had mmc - was a week between 12 week scan where we found no heartbeat and me miscarry ing naturally at home. I didn't fully miscarry though so had to go back into hospital afterwards.... I think if you can bear to wait most people miscarry fully naturally but the waiting is horrible on top of an already horrid time. Take care of yourself as much as you can. X

Autumn I totally understand why you feel you can't tell people. Please do what is best for you though and if you need a rl hand hold ask for it.

Just wanted to say sorry you're going through this.

I'm going through the same (similar dates too) but can't decide wether to go for medical or surgical management. Can't bare waiting for it to happen naturally.

Sorry to read this Lucy.

Hi Autumn how are you getting on? Going through this myself at the moment and like you we hadnt really told anyone i was pregnant so been hard

I was 10 weeks, I started spotting last friday and over the weekend it turned red and had cramps, didnt manage to get a scan till 2 days ago and it confirmed what we already knew that my baby had died and i was miscarrying.

I came home to allow my body to deal with this but feeling absolutely terrified of how it would be, bleeding increased and got more clotty that afternoon with stronger pains and i passed everything that evening, its now two days since and a week since i started bleeding, my pains and bleeding calmed the day after but today its been heavier, passed a few more small clots and sat with a hot water bottle for the pains.

Not sure whether it will calm again now but im back next wednesday for a scan

I'm currently MC #4 and wishing it would just hurry up. The first I had agonising cramps and then a pop and I passed the embryo. Second and third were just like a heavy period with clots.this one I found out at a scan there was a pregnancy of unknown location. I should be over 9wks.

I'm bleeding a little and they feared an ectopic but there was no evidence. Now I'm 'imagining' cramps on my right and panicking myself!! They saw nothing on scan of my tubes and my hcg is down 300 odd in 2 days.

I bloody hate the waiting!! I'm trying no more now, I'll just have extra cats. I'm sorry you're going through this too.

I plan on tonight as it's the only consolation.