Mmc discovered at 8 weeks

[Impatientwino]

I had a reassurance scan at 8 weeks today because I had a pretty horrid bleed in my first pregnancy (all turned out fine and DS is 2.5 and perfect) and sadly the scan showed a gestational sac measuring 21mm but nothing else.

I knew something was wrong as she started doing an abdominal scan but then asked me if I was sure of my dates then to empty my bladder so she could do a vaginal scan. I saw immediately that the sac was empty and just wailed. Because I was so upset she couldn't continue with the scan so she didn't rule out ectopic unfortunately. I haven't had any real pains, a bit of dull aches and stretching type pains that I thought were just normal.

I've had such strong pregnancy symptoms, been so sick, utterly exhausted, much stronger than with my son which makes it feel especially cruel. I understand this is because the sac still produces HCG.

I rang my local epu and I have to see my gp on Monday to get referred to them. They've said they'll see me on Monday with referral.

I keep going from floods of tears to feeling so angry that I want to punch something to feeling philosophical about it all.

Just wondered if anyone can give me an idea of what lies ahead now? Sequence of events? I can't stop thinking about how long it's going to take to pass naturally if it hasn't already done so by 8 weeks.

Thanks in advance ladies

Gosh giraffe, you had an awful time of it. So sorry for your loss. Hoping your TTC will be short and uneventful resulting in an equally boring pregnancy!

I'm feeling... odd, I suppose. It's been such a long time coming with that I just want it done. As you said chinchilla, the op is the easy bit - I've had 3 operations/G.As in the past 4 years so I'm not concerned.

I was however very teary this morning saying goodbye to my DS and walking in to the hospital so we'll see tomorrow I suppose.

At the moment I keep splitting things into things that happened when I was pregnant and things after last Saturday. I just looked at some flowers to check the water and my first thought was 'I thought I was pregnant when I bought those' that's a bit weird I guess, made me feel sad, they were happy flowers. Flowers I bought because I was happy - as opposed to the sad ones that are downstairs that my lovely friends have bought me to cheer me up.

Hope you're safely home and recovering from the operation impatient.

Now it's over you can hopefully start to focus on recovering from the mc itself too. Take care.

Hi everything went well yesterday. All the staff were so kind - they had put me first on the list so I didn't have to wait long. Bit of a delay because they had me marked down as not needing a pessary because I'd already got a child but when they realised that my son was ELCS and my cervix had never dilated there was an extra hour to wait while that worked. That was the most unpleasant bit though.

Felt ok when I came round and that sick odd feeling I'd been getting constantly has gone already. I feel so much better physically already. Bleeding not too bad either and only mild stomach cramps. I'm so glad I took this option, it was best for me and my family.

Parents in laws are coming over this morning to take DS out for the day so I can get some rest.

How are you feeling?

Wow, we are similar, my DS was ELCS too; but our hospital clearly has a different protocol as I didn't have to have the pessary.

So glad you're out on the other side; as operations go in and of itself, it's easy, it's just what the operation is for....

Hope your DH can be with you for a few days; physically I should imagine you will be fine, but it's lovely to have the support.

I've found I've been up and down; getting the letter for the scan, doing the memory box, etc, have been hard. This week I've found I've been knackered although have been feeling emotionally stronger. Work have been brilliant thank goodness.

We have also started (and apologies for the TMI) ttc again; I'm the sort of person who needs to do something in response to crap, plus I know I won't be properly happy until I'm pregnant again.....

Ah, just seen about the Pils, that's handy.
Do you think your DS has picked up on it at all? Mine kept on going on about Mummy being sad, so he clearly guessed something was up; we gave him lots of love and reassurance that although I was, he made me happy, and thankfully it's passed...