l really don't know what to expect.

[onefootinthebed]

Hi

I miscarried yesterday afternoon only having my pregnancy confirmed on Monday. I was 6wks and 2 days. It was a much longed for pregnancy. As we hadn't spoken to anyone about our news l don't feel l can ask anyone what happens next. The nurse l spoke with was so kind and caring, her only advice was to go home and let it happen, obviously l knew there was nothing the could do.l left and didn't really ask what to expect to happen .

I am sorry if l have offended anyone with the word miscarried rather than loss of pregnancy, as l just really don't even know what to call what happened.

Thanks in advance.

Hello, so sorry for your loss. It didn't happen naturally for me so I can't advise what that is like. If your body doesn't let it happen naturally you can either have a small operation (you can choose general or local anaesthetic) to remove everything or you can have tablets (given as pessaries) which will make your body start contracting to get rid of the pregnancy sac etc.

I had the tablets last Wednesday and had a very extreme reaction to them. I don't think everyone reacts in the same way as I did, but just be aware it could make you very ill. They only gave me ibuprofen and paracetamol which didn't do anything, so please insist that they give you something stronger to ease the pain. I had the tablets as I didn't like the idea of an operation, but do wish I'd opted for the op now.

Thanks for you're reply. Sorry for your loss, l'm sorry you have had to go threw this.

It happened naturally but today l feel drained, l don't really know how l should be feeling and l want to tell my mum but don't want to upset her.

Thanks for replying, l feel like l want to shake this blanket of groggy-ness off and feel normal. Making plans on Monday seems like a decade ago.

I'm really sorry onefoot - I had a miscarriage and it's horrible. You can expect lots of blood, some of it may be in pretty big clots, and you'll have a lot of cramping. Like period cramps but much worse. Get some really big sanitary towels (not tampons) and take a few days off work if you don't feel up to going in.

GP might suggest a scan to check that everything that should come away has come away, otherwise you might need a D&C, or the tablets someone else mentioned. That's in the minority of cases though.

I was a bit further along than you when I miscarred. Although DH was sympathetic and caring, I very much found that it was something that was happening to me, not to us. I think that this is because I wasn't visibly pregnant, and because DH wasn't going through the physical mess that I was.

Chin up though - you will get over grieving eventually, and go on to have lots of happy children. I still think and get sad about the baby I lost occasionally, but remind myself I would never have had DD2 if I hadn't lost that pregnancy.