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Why is everyone pregnant :-(

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jnl0612 · 06/03/2014 16:45

I had a mmc at 16 weeks last year, haven't managed to fall pregnant again yet as my cycle is totally messed up.
Everyone around me seems to be pregnant.
5 of my friends have announced theirs in the last 2 days.
Obviously I'm happy for them but I'm just so gutted too.
Can someone make them all go away please Grin

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Chottie · 06/03/2014 18:00

A huge hug to you - life really sucks sometimes Flowers

AlpacaYourThings · 06/03/2014 18:47

It's horrible isn't it?

I want to be happy for my friends and colleagues who announce their pregnancies, but I just keep thinking "I wish it was me" Sad

IrnBruTheNoo · 06/03/2014 19:21

I am noticing this too. I would have been due in September had it not been for the MMC last month....then two days after it happened my mum phones to tell me my eldest cousin is pregnant - due in September.

Then yesterday I have a friend abroad who has a sister due in September too.

Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for others. It just hurts when you know that when September rolls around, there won't be a baby to hold of your own....

MissWing · 24/03/2014 19:50

With you here. I'm mid-miscarriage (my fourth) and my best friend from school just presented her second baby on FB, while my best friend of now has just reached her due date. My GP said something I found helpful, that my response to this does not mean I am not happy for my friend, it's just a measure of how important it is to me. And the thing is, I am coping with these miscarriages as best I can, and to an extent that is by dealing with it as and when I can, so I try and keep the sobbing to private times, on my own or with a v close friend. But when a pregnancy is announced, all of a sudden the topic is to the fore at a time beyond your choosing. When this happens, a tell myself it's brave face time. When a colleague announced a pregnancy at work, I needed my brave face for the whole day and boo hoos came out on the train. DH scraped me off the doorstep 4 hours later. That was my lowest day. Thinking of you. All the best

PotatoesPastaAndBread · 24/03/2014 20:03

I'm sorry to hear that jnl. I feel the same. Most of my friends are on their second if not their third baby. One close friend and I have been sharing the frustrations of difficulty conceiving. And now she's pregnant. She's been great, but it breaks my heart. MissWing I think what your GP said is lovely and I am going to remember that.

SpecialCircumstances · 30/03/2014 20:50

I know this feeling, everyone I know seems to be either pregnant or have a new baby, my sister, my job share partner, my nct group. All pregnant and I just feel so bleurgh about it all. Also people asking me when we'll have annother. I feel like shouting "I'm trying but it just won't stick!".
Rant over. No ideas to help sorry. I just tend to son and try to look happy at the time.

Pawprint · 31/03/2014 15:36

Bless you :( That is so sad. My low point, after m/c number four, was receiving five fucking pregnancy announcements in one week :(

There's no easy way to deal with it but I recommend wine and ice cream as a temporary comfort. I actually found spoiling myself helped - buying a few treats. Dh and I went away for a weekend which was very nice apart from seeing babies everywhere

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