Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 9

[bakingtins]

Welcome everyone - pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of information, moral support, tea or sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Can we start the thread with a recap of where we are all up to again, please?

I think I remember they asked me all about my family history yes...

I don't know anything other than that. I know my maternal grandfather was diabetic (no idea what type) but i'm NC with my mum and don't know my bio dad.

I bet there's some terrible hereditary issue that I don't know about...

Don't overthink it, seasalt
They will probably test you and DH/DP's karyotypes as part of the work-up (checking chromosomes for abnormal genes) but that's standard. I hope the appointment is productive and you leave with a plan of action.

I had my 34 week scan today and all looking good - very cute little face (in 2d) and hair (!) and growing appropriately, though on the small side like my other children. That's me signed off by the hospital - next time I go, all being well, will be to give birth

Its so hard not to overthink everything though. I've really struggled these past couple of weeks.

Brilliant news - that sort of post gives me real hope!

Tiny that sounds really frustrating, you must have wanted to scream at the article "what did she do differently??"

COngrats on a good scan Baking!
Nearly there!

I know, seasalt easy to say and much more difficult to actually do! Having an action plan makes it slightly easier - if you know you are doing x,y,z tests and then discussing the results and coming up with a plan at least you are taking positive steps. Good luck for Friday.

thanks. Yes, I just need a plan. Its the uncertainty and wondering that is driving me mad.

bakings great news!!! Your success story gives so much hope to all of us on this thread. Fx that everything goes smoothly from this point onwards.

hi guys. been a bit quiet recently as had a though few days!
had my scan which i thought was to confirm i had miscarried. and there was a heartbeat. and then 2 days later i had another scan as i started spotting and its gone again. been a bit of an emotionally draining few days of happiness and then utter shittnes. second one now to be lost after seeing a heartbeat.
so back to where i thought i was last week.

mint - how r u?
seasalt - welcome
bakingtins - congrats :)

Oh Trying how utterly horrible. I don't really know what to say to such shitness. I'm really sorry. How are you holding up?

I'm ok. Went back to work today which was good really as its really busy at the mo and thus nice and distracting. It's probably a bit early to go back really but I worry about my sick leave with all these mc. It adds up. Does anyone have this dilemma? Think DH is struggling though. I have the benefit of no pregnant people at work while he is surrounded by people discussing scans, prams etc and I think its wearing him down a bit. Got some :-( texts about it today.

Congrats Tins. Very excited for you.

Welcome Seasalt. I really hope you're appointment goes well. Based on my own experience I think all the information you've got already will be fine. In my appointment I got the sense that they're more interested in test results that history but its good to have it all to hand in case. Good luck.

Mint- I'm worrying and thinking about the same thing. I keep having sick days and sometimes planned sick days when I know my d and c is...and my workplace is gossipy...and having to have an excuse every time I'm sick is really stressing me out. I have thought about just jacking it in but then I don't want this to define me. It's so hard. Also I'm planning on going to see people far away privately and those appts and treatments are going to further impact
it's so shit. I hope we get our babies in the end :(

Mint- sorry I don't rem your ur story? Do you mind refreshing me if its not too painful?

Mine isn't too horrific compared with many I've read. I had a mmc at 11 weeks (after seeing hb) in Feb 2013, got pregnant again in June 2013 only to mc again at about 6 weeks in July. Decided to go for private tests. Diagnosed with bicornuate/subseptate uterus (they weren't sure, diagnosed through ultrasound which I gather isn't terribly good at differentiating). Also diagnosed with lupus anticoagulant. Dr felt that as the mcs were early they were likely the result of the lupus anticoagulant as opposed to the uterus thing, and therefore that we should try again with a clexane/aspirin treatment plan. Pregnant again April 2014, took clexane etc but mc. Very fed up of the whole thing. Completely terrified of being pregnant now , particularly as these issues can also result in problems further down the line. These people that just get pregnant and have a baby nine odd months later totally bewilder me now. Not sure I even get jealous anymore, its more I can't identify with them at all. What's your story? also missed it as joined this thread in a bit of a tiz.

Re. work, I'm thinking of going to occupational health for some advice a) in case sick days come up at any point and b) to see where I stand about the prospect of hospital appointments in London. I'm fortunate in that I work for the nhs which tends to be a reasonably good employer. Armed with OH support I may come clean to my manager (who is nice and has an 18-m old). It doesn't solve the gossip aspect though which is also rife where I am. Do you like the job apart from this issue?

Yeah I do. It's just hard juggling it all...I'll just keep at it....just feeling sorry for myself right now! Ur plan about work sounds sensible...
Mine is im 30 and no dc. mc at 6 weeks. Mmc at 8 weeks after heartbeat. Mc at 6 plus 5 after heartbeat.
Tests-nothing wrong. Going to see someone about nk cells.
I still have some hope somewhere deep down. It's very hard though.

trying I'm sorry to hear about your week, awful to have your hopes raised and then dashed.
I'd suggest you both think about telling the real reason for your absences, as MC will count as pregnancy related sickness and doesn't affect your record. You can do this in confidence, only manager has to know.

Trying, sorry you've been though such a rollercoaster. Hope you recover quickly and can start to get some answers.
I'm tediously handing on here at 8dpo.... trying not to think about it and taking my cyclogest like a good girl.

Also, I find that work have always been great when I've been up front with work, so I'd be inclined to tell hr or your direct boss if they are approachable. x

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but I wanted to let you know that jbrd who was a graduate to the pregnancy thread has lost her baby at 16-17 weeks and is going in for induction today. Bless her, she didn't want to bring the thread low, but I said you lot would want to offer your support at such a horrible time.

Oh my. That's so horrible. What happened? Sometimes I think life is just not fair..thoughts and wishes with her

oh no, so so sorry for jbrd

I popped to the RM October thread the other day to wish them well. Wasn't she having issues getting the Harmony results back?

So sorry for Jbrd. She was so kind to me on these boards when I had my MC. Xx

Oh god poor jbrd. I really thought she'd made it this time...

There were concerns because of high risk result on the combined testing at 12 weeks, mainly because of the blood tests, all looked ok on a scan. The Harmony test had failed twice to give a result so they were going for amnio, but the baby's heart had stopped beating before the procedure They don't know at the moment why it happened.

How awful for Jbrd, she must be in pieces. If you are in touch, Baking, please send my best wishes.