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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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11+2 and just started bleeding

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AhoyMcCoy · 31/07/2013 18:44

11weeks two days today- it's my first pregnancy. Had a few cramps last night but no where near as strong as "period cramps", more just like twinges. Found some dark red blood, but not much, in my underwear just now.

If I go to my local A&E, is there anything they can do? My 12 week scan isn't until next Wednesday- I can't wait a week of not knowing. :(

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Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 31/07/2013 18:46

They may well have a portable ultra sound they can use. When I had a bleed at a weekend I was asked to come back on the Sunday and they scanned in X-ray department. I think it's worth going to get checked out. :(

Hope everything's ok.

spanky2 · 31/07/2013 18:57

Go to a&e this is why we pay national insurance . You won't be wasting anyone's time. You need some medical help. I hope that it is okay .

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AhoyMcCoy · 31/07/2013 19:00

Thank you so much, both of you. DH driving me to A&E now. Fingers crossed.xx

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Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 31/07/2013 19:05

Fingers crossed for you x

katatonic · 31/07/2013 20:23

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AhoyMcCoy · 31/07/2013 21:57

Thank you, all of you. I went to A&E who said they will refer to me the Early Pregnany Unit tonight, and they will ring me tomorrow to book me in for the earliest scan they can.

The bleeding isn't too heavy, but the cramping is pretty strong now, so I think I'm definitely losing our little bubbalingo :( My morning sickness was so bad from week six that I spent every day thinking "god I wish this was over, I can't cope with feeling like this" and now I'd give anything to have my sickness back.

Will come back to update after my scan, but am preparing for the worst now.

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Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 31/07/2013 22:03

:( I hope you get your scan soon and it's not dragged out to long. I'm sorry it's not looking so good. Please try to rest and take it easy. :( x

Bakingtins · 01/08/2013 07:42

Thinking of you today AhoyMcCoy I hope the news is better than you fear.

Ilovemypajamas · 01/08/2013 08:28

Good luck Ahoy. Thinking of and rooting for you.

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AhoyMcCoy · 01/08/2013 09:42

Thank you so much. Kind words mean a lot- I'm desperate to text my family who knew and ask them to keep bump in their prayers but don't want to worry them until we know for "definite".

The bleeding and cramping got worse in the night- the cramps were so bad I could barely talk through them, and there was just so much blood :( so even without the scan I'm sure I 'know' I've lost it, but DH is so positive- he's googled so many stories of women who cramp and bleed and even pass clots but all is ok, but I just know I won't be one of them.

EPU says earliest they can see me is 9:45am tomorrow, so just sitting at home today really. Will let you know it it goes tomorrow.

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KoalaFace · 01/08/2013 09:50

I'm thinking of you Ahoy

I was just where you are over Easter weekend. I also just knew. DH was doing his googling and being positive. But I knew.

A poster on here told me "hope for the best and prepare for the worst." That's all we can do.

Sending you a hug and my thoughts.

Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 01/08/2013 10:17

Oh that sucks ahoy I'm sorry you have to wait so long for your scan. :(

Please rest up , have a hot bath and put on your jammies. If ever there was a time for hot tea and cake this is it.

I will be thinking of you
((( hugs ))?

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AhoyMcCoy · 01/08/2013 20:17

The cramping got almost unbearable - like what I would imagine actual contractions to be like, and I 'passed' it. I actually picked the little sac out of the toilet bowl because I needed to be sure. I'm so so gutted. For DH as much as anything- it's his 30th birthday this weekend and he was so looking forward to telling people.

We had a big party planned and neither of us have our hearts in it now. He's been talking to my belly since the day we found out and waking me up each morning by kissing it and singing to it- I told him off for waking me up and said the baby couldn't hear yet, and he said "Well they used to think the world was flat and they were wrong, so I'm not taking a chance on this 'your baby can't hear you yet' thing!".

I know we'll try again and maybe get lucky next time (we've only been married 9 weeks- found out the day we got back from honeymoon!) so I'm sure it will happen again, but I know we'll worry never relax now until we're holding a little baby.

So so so sorry to those of you who have been through similar. Your kind words helped so much more than the hospital did. I am truly grateful to all who gave their thoughts and time.

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katatonic · 01/08/2013 20:19

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BreasticlesNTesticles · 01/08/2013 20:22

You poor poor thing

Lots of to you x

chocolatefrog · 01/08/2013 20:47

So sorry for what you are going through. It's shit isn't it

Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 01/08/2013 22:36

So sorry ahoy :( x

Pawprint · 01/08/2013 23:28

I'm so sad for you - I had four miscarriages before my son was born, but they were earlier than your loss.

It must be awful for you and so traumatic. I miscarried my first baby just a few months after I got married and it was like a massive bereavement :(

Hugs xxx

Ruggle · 02/08/2013 23:26

AhoyMcoy, so sorry you've gone through this too. I lost my little person on Sunday, also at 11 weeks and 2 days, also my first pregnancy. It's utterly devastating but I keep hearing how common it is....1 in 4 pregnancies..and I am so scared it will happen again...but we are going to try, maybe in a few months.

DearlyDepartedMrsFinch · 02/08/2013 23:31

So, so sorry ahoy.

I lost my baby at 11+4 at the end of April. You will get through this. Be kind to yourself.

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AhoyMcCoy · 03/08/2013 16:18

Argh! It all just sucks so bad, doesn't it? It's so unfair. This baby was so so wanted, and so loved, and it's not fair.

It's DH's 30th, and were having a BBQ right now with about 40 people. It was me who insisted it went ahead- I didn't want him to remember his birthday with tears and sadness, and I thought it would be good for him to see how much love and support we have. But I'm sitting in our bedroom on my own, because its all so overwhelming. There are friends out there I've literally known my entire life, and I don't know what to talk about now. I feel like I'm just nodding along to things and I just want to climb back into bed and cry.

Having a baby was the one thing I could do to make DH happier than anything in the whole world, and I can't do it :(

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ChocolateOrangeforDd · 03/08/2013 16:38

But ....you will do it Ahoy. It's just that this time it wasn't meant to be. It's natural for you to mourn this loss too. I've been there and it will get easier. Sending hugs (()).

DearlyDepartedMrsFinch · 03/08/2013 19:47

Oh, you poor thing ahoy. Chocolate is right, this will get easier.

I found great comfort in the friends and family who offered their time and sympathy after our MC (we told a lot of friends after the loss). Well done you for still going ahead with the BBQ (although it is completely natural that it should feel so overwhelming).

I'm not sure whether this will help, but I also felt extremely 'lucky' that the baby died when it did, and not later. And gratitude, that there was not a problem found later that would lead us to having to make a heartbreaking decision. Hugs . Perhaps think about telling a close friend or two, so you have someone to talk to?

spanky2 · 03/08/2013 20:13

I am so sorry . It is a bereavement . I think you have to take each day as it comes. Love to you and your husband .

MabelMay · 04/08/2013 03:18

Am so sorry for your loss ahoy. It's a horrible time, and you must allow yourself time to grieve, and cry and get angry and hide away, or get out and tell your friends, or whatever you feel like doing. I've just suffered my second miscarriage in 6 months - so I know how you feel, and I just want to offer you my sincerest sympathy. Of course you will have a baby in the future, but that doesn't make right now any easier, so just be gentle with yourself. Take care x

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