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The royal baby handholding thread

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Tricycletops · 22/07/2013 10:14

I'm sure I'm not the only one struggling to cope with the constant baby talk today - come and rant away... I am hiding behind my well-known republicanism but I've just been called miserable for not being as excited as my colleagues. Sad

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Bezza2508 · 22/07/2013 11:34

I'm with you. Going in for an ERPC tomorrow and its the last thing I want to hear about!

Tricycletops · 22/07/2013 12:00

Really sorry to hear that Bezza. I hope everything goes as well as possible for you tomorrow.

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Daisybell1 · 22/07/2013 12:46

can I join please? mc 2 was due now so I'm finding this very tough Sad

anyone else want to join me in a comfort eating cream tea?

Daisybell1 · 22/07/2013 12:47

so sorry for your loss bezza - will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Tricycletops · 22/07/2013 13:06

Oh Daisy I'm sorry - that must be really hard for you.

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kjh5 · 22/07/2013 13:08

I'm with you Tricycle and Daisy - Flowers mc was two weeks ago (I was 6 wks gone), been coping ok but feeling really down the last 48 hours... DH just sent me messages asking if I am excited about the royal baby... erm does he not remember the devastation of the past 14 days? What makes him think I want to drown myself in baby news? I know he thinks he is being helpful but its difficult enough seeing preg friends on FB. I'm about to bake a massive cake and I won't feel guilty about how many slices I eat! Thoughts are with you both

kjh5 · 22/07/2013 13:11

So sorry for you Bezza thinking of you... hope there is someone you can cry to about this? It feels awful at the time but just allowing yourself to be upset helps I find. Sending you hugs x

Helish · 22/07/2013 13:15

Can i take a spot please. I was due last week but mc on Xmas Eve (best Xmas ever!) and have spent this weekend with the realisation that our first round of ivf has failed. The constant royal bump watch has been hard enough to cope with, but the realisation that it's going to be wall to wall coverage for the next week has hit pretty hard.

Think it's time to crack open the gin Smile

ArkadyRose · 22/07/2013 13:16

Daisybell1 I was due today too - lost it at 12 weeks in Feb, straight after losing one in Sept last year. I couldn't help thinking "It's not fair, that should be me."

CommanderShepard · 22/07/2013 13:16

I'm not in quite the same position as you guys but something about this coverage just makes me want to cry and cry. A colleague is also wittering on and on about her plans for an all-natural birth and I've just had enough today.

My thoughts are with you all, especially bezza.

50degreesintheshade · 22/07/2013 13:23

Can I join please?
I am so sick of the royal baby watch, I need to go and live in a cave to escape!
This morning I received my first testing kit from charring cross hospital as I'm just getting my head around having a molar pregnancy. Then bam......Kate's in labour on the news! Crap timing I know.
Anyone for pimms?

Bakingtins · 22/07/2013 13:32

I'll join too. Kate's pregnancy was announced soon after I lost a baby in September 2012, and I've lost another 2 since then Sad. I have tried to avoid all news of her pregnancy as far as possible but it's not possible at the moment. I wish her well, but I wish everyone would stop talking about it. To be fair, probably she wishes everyone would leave her alone too!
Hugs for everyone that is finding it tough.

CountryMama · 22/07/2013 13:38

I am thinking of you ladies. X

lucidlady · 22/07/2013 14:21

Hello can I join you? Going through MMC just now (baby died at 6 weeks) and I am just furious with the world today. Hoping all goes well for Kate, but at the same time I am so envious and sad.

AngelsWithSilverWings · 22/07/2013 14:38

I've been thinking about my friend today. She would have been due around now to have a long awaited second and I know she was thoughtful about the royal baby and how it would make her feel.

It's her DDs birthday today too and I'm not sure if that makes it better or not. I haven't asked how she is as I don't want to upset her.

Having been through a miscarriage myself ( after 8 years of TTC) I know that sinking feeling on hearing other people's pregnancy and birth news only too well.

Conina · 22/07/2013 14:48

Mc2 would be due now. I also mc just before Christmas - the weekend mc1 was due. Mc3 was two months ago. Trapped in never ending cycle of mc, conception, edds and whenever I say anything to dp he just cringes. Today is also our anniversary.

I will certainly partake of scones, cake and gin.

I know I'll want to cry too when they announce it and I have no idea exactly what I'll be crying for. Ridiculous aren't I...

Apileofballyhoo · 22/07/2013 14:59

With you all. MC happened in Jan and baby would've been due this week. I'm so sad.

Daisybell1 · 22/07/2013 15:06

Massive hugs and hand holding all round.

I've got a counselling appt in 20mins - I hope there's plenty of tissues as I think I'm going to need them this time...

Bezza2508 · 22/07/2013 15:14

It's so sad to see how many people have been through a loss. I am very tearful today and very nervous of what is ahead of me tomorrow (even though the logical part of me knows that the emotional part of this is going to be far worse than the ERPC could ever be).

I don't want to feel jealous of other people's bumps or babies but it is very hard not to be at the moment.

ArkadyRose · 22/07/2013 18:01

DD3 just had an after-school playdate at her best friend's house, and the grandmother had BBC News 24 on. Non-stop Royal baby this, Royal baby that. I had to excuse myself and just go sit in the garden with the girls; I couldn't handle it. Sad

Daisybell1 · 22/07/2013 18:44

Massive hugs Arkady, its just relentless isn't it?

Daisybell1 · 22/07/2013 18:48

Bezza - please don't be scared of the ERPC. I've had two - the first was absolutely fine, the second I felt like I'd been hit by a bus. The difference between the two? Oramorph.

Make sure they write on your notes that you can have this - its very good for both physical and emotional pain. They didn't let me have it the second time and I felt far worse.

Otherwise, the anaesthetists were particularly lovely. The first held my hand as I went under promising it would all be ok, and the second was happy to joke about whether white wine counted as a clear liquid or not, and therefore could be drunk before the op. It sounds silly now but I was desperate for something to lighten the mood.

Take care

Tricycletops · 22/07/2013 19:04

Daisy the anaesthetist I had was also lovely. I think they must work on their random small talk skills!

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CommanderShepard · 22/07/2013 19:09

Oh Arkady, that must've been rubbish :(

(Do I recognise your name from The Ladies Loos, back when I had a livejournal?)

I need to stop looking. I don't know why I insist on doing it to myself!

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