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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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Advice re viability of pregnancy/miscarriage

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harrogatemum · 02/04/2006 13:43

Hi - I wonder if anyone can offer me any advice or has any experience they can help me with. I thought I was pregnant and dated myself at about 7.5 weeks due to when my last period was and when I know I must have got pregnant (having small twins, it is quite rare!).

I have had some bleeding this week and eventually went for a scan today. This showed a sac with an embryo of only 3mm, apparently this could be no more than 6 weeks. The radiographer said that there was flickering on the screen that coudl have been a heartbeat but it was inconclusive as the whole screen flickers. She asked me if my dates coudl be wrong but I dont think they can. I definitely got pregnant at the end of Feb (26th) so would have to be at least 7 weeks by now surely?

She said that either my dates are wrong or the embryo stopped growing at 6 weeks. I have to wait a week and go back for another scan.

Has anyone had anything similar and what was the outcome? I am praying that I am wrong but I think I know that the pregnancy is no longer viable.

Hopng someone can help.

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harrogatemum · 05/04/2006 15:29

Hi ladies - well I got a reply from teh EPU. Would you believe they "like to wait 7-10 days" before they give you another scan and have given me a date on Tuesday next week!! I dont believe it. Oh well, I guess if thats their procedure I have to follow it.

blueshoes - it was on 17th March when I got my first +ve test, I guess it would have been about the time of my period.

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cece · 05/04/2006 20:06

oh dear - they made me wait 8 days though - horrible isn't it? that way I think they can compare measurements for growth though.

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harrogatemum · 06/04/2006 12:55

yes - its horrible having to wait. I feel really unstable, mood swings up and down constantly. I wish I could just get it sorted and know what the outcome is. My head just feels mashed!

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bettythebuilder · 06/04/2006 13:04

What a nightmare, hm. Are you going away this weekend?

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harrogatemum · 06/04/2006 13:13

Hi betty - yes, going to a place near Settle on the edge of the Dales. Have booked a luxury double room with an in-room clawfoot bath. AM looking forward to it although it will not be the same as I will still probably be all over the place. Have fun tonight, sorry I cant be tehre, I am sure you understand why.

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wools · 06/04/2006 13:20

Harrogatemum, sorry you have to wait so long for a 2nd scan - I had to wait 10 days as well....it is a long time. I hope that the break will take your mind off things in some way although I appreciate you can't switch off with a worry like that. Are you still bleeding?

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harrogatemum · 06/04/2006 13:27

Hi wools, I was up until yesterday so that was a full week of it. however it seems to have stopped today so i just dont know what is going on.

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nicmum2boys · 06/04/2006 13:30

Just wanted to send you some (((hugs))). When I had this they gave me an appointment for 10 days later right after the initial scan. At home climbing the walls I decided I couldn't wait that long, so I rang the number on the appointment letter (which was for ultrasound reception, not just epu) and told them I couldn't make that date and asked for an earlier one. As I was just talking to a general receptionist she was none the wiser and changed it for me. Didn't know if you could do something similar?
My heart goes out to you. I know the waiting in limbo is so awful, xx.

bettythebuilder · 06/04/2006 13:51

I'll try to have a good time tonight(!) but it won't be the same without you! Totally understand, though. I hope you have a lovely time this weekend. Hopefully a change of scenery will help you through the next few days.

bettythebuilder · 06/04/2006 13:53

Good idea nicmum - would that be worth a try, hm? they might get you in tommorow

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harrogatemum · 06/04/2006 14:01

I dont know if it would make any difference to be honest. Plus I would have to find someone to look after hte boys any time before Monday.

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bettythebuilder · 06/04/2006 14:23

Ah...we're going down to Mum and Dads tommorow morning....

wools · 06/04/2006 15:00

So glad the bleeding's stopped - that's a good sign hopefully.

cece · 07/04/2006 10:44

How are things today?

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harrogatemum · 07/04/2006 15:56

Hi Cece, not too bad today, shattered as the boys have refused to have a daytime nap, but apart from that ok. Very mild bleeding today at least. Thanks for asking!

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cece · 07/04/2006 17:32

Being shattered is a good sign! I definitely didn't have that shattered going to bed by 8 pm feeling with this last one. Partly why I knew something was wrong.

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harrogatemum · 07/04/2006 17:54

well I'm not convinced either way really but trying to prepare for the worst so if its good news it will be incredible.

Going away tomorrow night will be nice to take my mind off it!

Hope you're well cece.

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cece · 07/04/2006 17:56

I'm Ok had some more light bleeding today. Now a week since ERPC. Should be 11 weeks pg this week

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harrogatemum · 07/04/2006 18:05

booooo it sucks doesnt it.

I have sort of forgotten about it but then all of a sudden it will hit me and I will have a big crying session.

Someone sent me an email about jamie bulger yesterday which completely set me off and had me in floods at work.

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cece · 07/04/2006 18:10

Me too. I forget about it for ages but then something reminds me. Went on eBay today and saw where I had been searching buggies for newborns.

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harrogatemum · 07/04/2006 19:11

just remind me cece, do you have other kids?

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cece · 07/04/2006 19:25

yes 2. dd is 5 and ds is 2 and half.

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harrogatemum · 07/04/2006 19:51

ah bless. Whereabouts are you in teh country? I think my name gives away my whereabouts!

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nappybaglady · 07/04/2006 20:01

H'mum, just saw the thread. Don't have anything to add but just wanted to say hi and send

Hope that you have a lovely weekend if you can

Good luck

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harrogatemum · 07/04/2006 20:09

hi nbl, long time no speak - read about your adventures on line! Am very jealous. Just freaking out about taking DTs to Borneo in May to meet sister in law and her family, so v impressed by what you did!

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