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Original poster

Had a scan today and found out I've had a missed miscarriage.

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cupcakes · 28/02/2006 15:38

I thought I was 12 weeks but apparently the baby died at about 6 weeks. It didn't look like a baby on the ultrasound which helps.
Am quite numb and in shock at the moment. Have decided to wait a week and see if nature takes it course and I miscarry properly. If not I have to go in next Tuesday and decide whether to take the pills or go straight for the operation.
Think I may be on the verge of bleeding as I feel very pre-periody.

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Piffle · 28/02/2006 15:39

Cupcakes I am so very sorry
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dinosaur · 28/02/2006 15:40

Really really sorry cupcakes. How sad.

oooggs · 28/02/2006 15:40

oh hun - I am so sorry Sad

harpsichordcarrier · 28/02/2006 15:40

oh cupcakes what an awful thing.
I am so very sorry for your loss.
do you have lots of support? please be kind to yourself.
sending you love and best wishes
HC xx

coppertop · 28/02/2006 15:40

I'm so sorry. :(

Hausfrau · 28/02/2006 15:41

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P0SSUM · 28/02/2006 15:42

me too. xx

hunkermunker · 28/02/2006 15:42

Oh, Cupcakes, I'm so sorry Sad xxxxxxx

crazydazy · 28/02/2006 15:43

Oh so sorry Cupcakes, cannot imagine what you must be going through Sad

prettybird · 28/02/2006 15:48

So sorry.

I've had two missed misacrriages. If it helps, I was told that about the first one, where I should have been 11/12 weeks and the scan showed 7 weeks, that it hadn't necessarily happened 5 weeks before. The sac can start to collapse which makes it look smaller - and that was confirmed at the gollowup scan nearly a week later, when it got smaller still.

Remember you will feel teary and hormonal for a while to come - even after nature has taken its course or you have had the operation.

Look after yourself - and allow yourself time to grieve.

Original poster
cupcakes · 28/02/2006 16:00

Thank you for your messages. I did have a suspicion that all was not well just yesterday. I've been having niggly back pains since Thursday which felt rather periody then yesterday there was a small amount of blood left in the bath. So it wasn't a huge surprise.
I haven't felt very pregnant for a couple of weeks now but had initially assumed that it was because I was entering the second trimester.
Am rather nervous about what happens next and how much pain and medical intervention there is going to be. Really wish it was all finished.

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blueteddy · 28/02/2006 16:02

Really sorry, cupcakes.Sad

Enid · 28/02/2006 16:04

oh I am so sorry to hear this Sad

please look after yourself x Enid

Cristina7 · 28/02/2006 16:04

So sorry to hear this, Cupcakes.

Take care of yourself.

cori · 28/02/2006 16:12

SO sorry to hear this cupcakes. I had a missed miscarriage almost a year ago now. You will find lots of support on mumsnet.

Coathanger · 28/02/2006 16:16

Cupcakes :( I'm so sorry to hear this. It just isn't fair :(

There seems to be a lot of this kind of thing happening right now and it seems just too cruel.

I have had a miscarriage (at 7 weeks in August) and it was so horrible. But you must take your time and look after yourself.

Sending you love and hope xxxxxx

Socci · 28/02/2006 16:16

Sad so sorry cupcakes - that must have been a shock xx

Bugsy2 · 28/02/2006 16:20

So sorry Cupcakes. Horrible thing to happen.

LadySherlockofLGJ · 28/02/2006 16:22

Oh sweetheart. Sad

MarsOnLife · 28/02/2006 16:26
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HellKat · 28/02/2006 16:28
Sad So so sorry to hear hun. I went through exactly the same last April (thought I was 11 wks and the baby had died at 8 wks). I to left it a few days then had the erpc as I was'nt mc naturally. Please look after yourself and give yourself time. Thinking of you & your family xxxxxxx
TambaTheDragonSlayer · 28/02/2006 16:31

So sorry Sad

HellKat · 28/02/2006 16:31

Btw regarding medical intervention. If you decide to have it done (the erpc) there's not too much pain after (just bad period pain) and there's some bleeding. There's advantages with both natural and medical. Go through your options and make the decision that's right for you.
Take care xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

OldieMum · 28/02/2006 16:33

Very sorry to hear this.

PeachyClair · 28/02/2006 16:41

Thoughts are with you, Sad X