just been told ive miscarried.

[DanyTargaryen]

what do i do?
Hormone levels were 406 on monday, today they are 100 and something. I started bleeding this morning a little and really hoped it was nothing but no, apparently my pregnancy is over.

Im falling apart here. Help x

I did a pg test 2 weeks afterwards too, it is just to make sure there are no 'retained products of pregnancy', i.e. they need to make sure the miscarriage has fully completed & that you don't need further intervention.

DP is here yes. On his pc but yeah. He is here. That's enough for me because I know I can ask him for a cuddle anytime I want and he always comes straight over to the sofa to me.

I don't think it is worth going to a and e really as pain is not bad as mentioned, bleeding is like a heavy period plus clots (sorry sorry tmi) so will possibly phone gynae ward tommorow for advice etc.

SIL contacted dp earlier to ask him to help her friend babysit her 3 kids. He said yeah (because he is nice like that) she knows ive lost the baby i told her yesterday as she knew i had been hosptial with pains etc. I said DP can't come to which she asked why, i said no offence you are fully aware of what im going through at the moment and right now i need him here, i dont care if i sound selfish etc.

im a complete bitch aren't i.:(

That is good you are not in too much pain.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I hope you are OK.

Crossed posts again. My god, that was a bit rum of her asking when she knows what is happening RIGHT NOW! You are NOT being a bitch. well done on being confident and strong enough to say so.

PS don't worry about the tmi at all. If we are posting, it is because we have gone through it too so know the gory details. It ain't pretty :(

Will be thinking of you.

No not a complete bitch at all, it's your SIL who is being insensitive.

I didn't get a reply, not sure what to make of that. Oh well then, mind you she is out tonight so thats probably why.

Thank you all again for your kind messages it really means alot. x

dany sorry for your loss, I had a mc at 7.5 weeks a couple of weeks ago so know how rubbish it is. For me I bleed for nearly two weeks but it was a gradual thing and not too heavy and very few cramps. Not many clots really either so you could well be over the worst bit (physically anyway).

Don't feel guilty about already thinking ahead about another pregnancy, it's only natural to want back what you thought you were going to get. I know I had started thinking about names and thing like that so it's so hard to come to terms with fact that it wasn't to be this time.

Off topic, I love your user name... Tyrion was my favourite though! x x

Had one pretty big clot last night, i think i might have passed the sac, have had a couple of smaller ones, I'm changing my pad quite often and changing everytime ive discovered a clot since last night. The one last night freaked me out.
I just want it to be over, I didn't think this would ever happen to me I don't know why.

I don't think anyone thinks it will happen to them but sadly it is very common.
I can't really offer any advice other than it will finish & you will be ok...I promise you.

What if it happens again?

What if that's it, I'm only allowed one, no more?

Don't get me wrong I love my daughter so much, but I want her to have brothers and sisters.

And now I'm making no sense again. Sorry guys.

Only you can decide if you are wiling to take the risk & try again. I won't pretend that the early weeks of a new pregnancy after miscarriage aren't a very worrying & stressful time, but there are thousands of women who have miscarried then gone on to have babies, as I said i lost one last October & am now 6 months pregnant, I know how you feel.

I also have one & I worried that that might be all I got, but I tried to focus on the positives...that I DID already have one & lots of women don't have that. Believe me I'm not trivialising how you feel but I felt this really helped for me. My son is an absolute blessing (apart from when he's having a tantrum obviously!) & if he was all I was destined to have then so be it, I'm still one very lucky mum.

Hope it is still okay if I use this as a venting space. Well its not that I need to vent so much as I had a bit of a horrible experience in the shower earlier, I needed to wash as once again TMI despite changing pads I'm still getting messy. Passed a rather alarmingly large clot last night as mentioned upthread.

Anyway I got into the shower and do what I normally do when I have a wash mid period I got the shower head out of its holder and pointed it at ahem, my bits, and I was totally unprepared for how much blood and clots came pouring away from down there. The drain doesn't exactly do its job quickly so water level rises quickly and the whole lot was just red. I mean I know I'm miscarrying but I just wasn't expecting that. Jumped out of the shower as quick as I could and just ran back in the living room and cried. :( Then took deep breaths and had to clean the bath out. I keep thinking its levelling out a bit thought hopefully it was nearly over cause of big clot last night. Then it just keeps getting worse.

I'm really sorry if I sound stupid and disgusting I just had to get that off somewhere because I am trying not to speak to DP too much about it as it is hitting him hard enough already he doesn't need to know all the gory details. I told him about the clots in the shower, as he asked what was going on when I suddenly burst back into the living room after 5 mins in the shower when I normally take about 40.

I really just want it to stop. Right now.

You can vent. That sounds absolutely awful :(

Hi dany I'm so sorry to hear your news I have also found out I am miscarrying today. Only found out I was pregnant on Tuesday and then my world came crashing down today when I phoned for my blood results and my hormone levels had dropped. I totally understand wat u are going through! I have a daughter aswell but all I do is dream about her having brothers and sisters as she is 4 now and I so desperately want another one!! I have started bleeding but it's very light and not that painful I had a miscarriage a year ago and it was horrible so I am just waiting for the blood and clots to come. I to am scared I will never have another baby. Please don't feel alone there are lots of us that go through this I know it's hard because I don't listen to my own advice but we need to try and stay postive. Someone once told me that our baby's that we have lost were to perfect to be in this world!! I'm here if u need a chat we can get through this together cos I sure need some help :-( my husband is amazing but I know it hurts him to

Hi Dany, I'm very sorry you're going through this. I hope you feel reassured that you are not alone and that many of us here have been through the same.

Don't feel that anything is TMI, not at all, if anything I always wish that posters would be much more specific and go into more detail, the more knowledge we have about m/c, the better equipped we all are and the more we can help each other and know what is average and what sounds as though it needs attention.

I know that you felt shock at the sight of the large clot, that is completely natural and sometimes when you are in the bathroom alone, it can feel very lonely even if you have someone in the other room. Do you feel weak? I only ask because iron levels can deplete quickly with the blood loss. Try and eat something to keep up your energy. If you don't already have some, ask your SIL (she can make herself useful!) to go out and get you some Floravital as it's excellent for replacing lost iron from blood loss. If you feel concerned about the clot or feeling unwell, do visit the hospital - they can check your glucose, haemoglobin levels, blood pressure etc. You are certainly NOT being a burden to anyone!