Sorry for your loss MissH, and yours too munkiii
It takes time, but you will get there. You will never forget, you will never "get over" it, but you will learn to cope with it.
You also might feel lonely, and feel like those around you have moved on, forgotten even, and you haven't. That's why places like this are invaluable. I feel I can say or ask things here that I won't say to, or ask, my DH or my friends. Such a range of experiences and support.
Cry, rant, vent whenever you feel the need. Crying is not a bad thing. And be kind to yourself. It is a devastating thing to go through, no doubt about it. It's amazing how many plans we formulate in our head, and how much we think about what our wee ones will be like, and how our lives will change, in those few weeks. Then, to have it all taken away - it's just awful.
They will always remain out little ones in our hearts though.
But, I am inspired by the women on the post-mc threads. You do find the strength to cope, please be comforted by that.
Hope you start feeling better soon.