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Had a Scan Yesterday at 7 weeks no Heartbeat Not Miscarried Yed

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MrsSteph · 25/01/2011 10:51

I have been bleeding since Saturday, had a scan yesterday which showed my baby but no heartbeat. The baby only measured 5mm which is the size of a 4 week old, which was around Christmas & New Year when I had no idea I was pregnant & enjoyed several drinks, I keep telling myself the baby was not developing is just one of those things but I do blame myself! I am so sad & crying all the time, haven't lost the baby yet the doctor said it should be this week sometime! I wanted this baby so much.... can't imagine how hard it must be for women who lose their babies later on cause this is awful...love to anyelse struggling.x

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yellowtomato · 25/01/2011 10:57

Oh poor you, I'm so sorry you are going through this. You mustn't blame yourself, a few drinks so early on will not have made any difference at all.

It is so hard to lose a longed for baby and I'm sending you hugs and support.

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artifarti · 25/01/2011 11:34

I'm so sorry you are going through this MrsSteph. I found out I had an empty sac yesterday so know how hard it is for you right now. But please don't blame yourself; like yellowtomato says, the drinks will not have made a difference. Sometimes these things just happen. My sonographer yesterday was very clear that it was nothing I had done, it was just one of those horrible things that sometimes happens.

I hope you have people looking after you. Take care of yourself. x

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ZhuZhuhell · 25/01/2011 14:41

MrsSteph you replied to me on my thread.
i am so sorry you are going through this. its probably easier for me as im not as far and didnt have to have a scan.
please dont blame your self. i know its easier said then done but you really didnt do anything wrong.
take care and keep talking if it helps. x

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NewImprovedJollster · 25/01/2011 15:03

you MUST not blame yourself. When unknowingly pg with DS I drank a lot on several occasions (work dos where it was part of the culture). He is absolutely fine (am not condoning drinking in pg btw). Then I have had 3MMCs where I've given up all the things "bad" for you. Made no difference :(

Am sorry for your loss - I know it's so hard. I hope your MC is quick and as pain-free as possible. Look after yourself.

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MrsSteph · 25/01/2011 16:58

Thanks everyone! I was a day late on Christmas day, as we where trying I did a test & it came up negative, so I thought no reason to stay sober, the same 3 days later & again after 7 days late, only after 10 days did the test show postive! I put it down to being cheaper makes of tests than say clearblue but now I am thinking maybe it just wasn't a strong pregnancy from the start! or maybe just coincience?
Only known I was pregnant for 22 days but make so many plans & dreams around this baby!
Never realised how common a MC is but I won't forget!
Thanks for everyones surport it really helps.x

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ZhuZhuhell · 25/01/2011 17:53

MrsSteph thats a good way to look at it that it wasnt a strong pregnancy from the start so there was nothing could be done to change it.my bfp took 16 days before it started to appear as a faint line. the line was at its strongest today when its all over.
i didnt realise so many people had mc either. it helps though to know there are others who know how you feel.
take care. x