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Vulva & Clitoris Shrinkage

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cosmicbabe · 09/12/2025 09:44

Does this happen during perimenopause / menopause? I’ve just seen a video about it and it’s horrifying. I’m 46 and do not want to believe this happens !!

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doublec · 10/12/2025 21:55

Rosamutabilis · 09/12/2025 23:21

Pubes go very thin too, so you might not be able to grow a full bush..

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No, not necessarily true. Am six years post menopause and had chemo, and was told repeatedly I'd never have a full bush again nor would my ridiculousl full head of hair return. Ha bloody ha. Even though I am not allowed HRT, am still ridiculously hirsute (possibly even more before my body went haywire 🙄)

Also want to add that I have been positively evangelical about topical oestrgen/Vagifem. It really is a godsend. (Even those who have/had hormonal breast cancer can use it. I say this from experience.)

@101trees Ask for Vagifem or estriol pessary, you should be fine with that and it will really help with all your symptoms

Applecup · 10/12/2025 22:08

101trees · 10/12/2025 20:45

Sorry, I think this question might be a bit stupid, but the things I notice are:

  1. Bit more dryness in general in vulva (external).
  2. Labia majora have sagging skin where they were taught and sort of fuller. Bit like breasts shrink after pregnancy.
  3. The one which worries me the most... it's like the minora are getting stuck to the majora and kind of fusing together. The ridges are shallower and it looks more joined on.
  4. It's sometimes very uncomfortable to use tampons now, a sort of dry soreness feeling.

I have a weird form of lichen sclerosis, which is quite mild and doesn't itch. I'm not sure how much of that to attribute to the LS, and how much might be atrophy.

How much of it sound like atrophy/ something pessaries / cream would help ?

I had a 2nd degree tear after childbirth, my GP gave me estrogen cream to help heal it but a consultant took me off because it caused a burning feeling (which was awful). So now I'm a bit hesitant.

I use dr Wolf’s v-san cream which really helps. Dr suggested it as didn’t want HRT cream. works really well. Bought it on Amazon.

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