Hi @NewPlumCat I have read your full thread and want to offer advice if that’s ok. You really need to take a little break from the way you are thinking about all this as it’s tying you in knots.
There was a big study of HRT and meno back in the late 1990s, and this is the source of the scaremongering over HRT. The study conclusions have been long since debunked as incorrect, but it still puts many women off. You really would benefit from reading up on it a little (modern papers and articles by proper medical researchers and publications, not old books with out of date advice) This will empower you to be confident in what you choose.
You refer to HRT ‘horror stories’ but the facts don’t speak to this, but if you are only searching out ‘horror stories’ you will find them. There is a small increased risk of some conditions after many years of use, there are also great benefits. Crossing the road or driving are risky, but we do these things daily as the benefits outweigh the risks and they enable us to lead a fuller life.
I can tell that you are really suffering with anxiety, which is why I am posting: HRT really does help with anxiety. It has helped me enormously. I am over the worst of it now I believe and have reduced my HRT after 3 years. Before starting it I was in several meltdowns a week, crying over everything, worrying constantly, just feeling fragile and unable to cope a lot of the time, and so miserable at times I didn’t want to get out of bed.
I really hope you are feeling better soon. Menopace is basically vitamins. Unless you also have some vitamin deficiency which is badly effecting you, it’s just not likely to be all you need. (I’m not saying it’s not worth taking).
Do remember your GP has already given you the HRT patches. Be brave and put one on now, it’s just topping up your depleted hormones, it’s not a dangerous drug, or addictive or anything. You have nothing to lose in giving it a go for a few weeks to see what happens!
Combining this with some fresh air, daily exercise, healthy meals and treating yourself well may work wonders for you. Take care of yourself 🌺