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I didn't have a Menopause

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Anordinarymum · 14/07/2020 09:58

..as such.

I don't mean I didn't go through it as I am sure I did, but my periods just stopped at 49. I never had hot flushes or night sweats. I did not gain weight or go doolally. I just carried on as normal. When I asked my doctor about it she told me lots of women are the same but you don't hear about them do you?

Just sayin.......

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TanteRose · 14/07/2020 10:01

Well, lucky you

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Anordinarymum · 14/07/2020 10:04

No.. don't say that.. not everything is doom and gloom is it ! There have to be some good things in life :)

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Imissmoominmama · 14/07/2020 10:06

Why would you hear about them- there’s nothing to hear and it would only make those who are suffering feel even more desperate.

I’m glad for you, but in my current state, I wish I hadn’t clicked on this thread.

Bluntness100 · 14/07/2020 10:10

Christ some arsey responses on here.

Op that’s great hews and thanks for posting, people need to know it’s not all doom and gloom, and yes some may suffer terribly others will get off lightly.

I wish I hadn’t clicked on this thread

I’m fairly sure others do too.

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Anordinarymum · 14/07/2020 10:10

Sorry guys it was not meant to be unkind. Not at all

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giantangryrooster · 14/07/2020 10:11

I've heard some doesn't notice/aren't very affected. Still lucky you, you don't know what you are missing.

giantangryrooster · 14/07/2020 10:14

I know you didn't mean it unkind, lots will want to know that you can have an ok menopause. But really it just sucks, so the meh Sad and jealousy shine through Wink.

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Anordinarymum · 14/07/2020 10:17

I'm still getting old. I didn't escape that :(

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WellThankyouAJPTaylor · 14/07/2020 10:18

Well, I for one am glad to hear this, as I'm 41 and have started worrying about this - I'm a worrier generally, and you do get the impression menopause is inevitably a nightmare.

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Anordinarymum · 14/07/2020 10:24

They do say your periods stop roughly at the same time your mother's stopped which in my case was accurate. Hope that helps you somewhat.
It's a weird thing knowing you can't have any more children but what a relief not to have that happen every month .

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TimeWastingButFun · 14/07/2020 10:27

Fingers crossed... I'm 49, still regular as clockwork so no idea what will happen when the time comes. But I was incredibly lucky with no morning sickness, no stretch marks and no saggy boobs with either of my pregnancies so I'm expecting a huge comeback with the menopause...

HollyHocks13 · 14/07/2020 10:28

I had my ovaries removed at 39 as I am a BRCA 1 carrier which means I had a high risk of developing ovarian cancer. I was terrified of the effects of the instant menopause which is in effect what happens when ovaries are removed. However I was pleasantly surprised, I've had no horrible symptoms apart from my periods stopping (not such a bad thing!) In fact I feel calmer and far more balanced without all the hormones. Menopause doesn't necessarily have to be dreadful - I guess some people get lucky.

CallarMorvern · 14/07/2020 10:30

Can't believe some of the replies. It's good for people to know that menopause isn't always an issue. I have worried reading some of the comments here, especially as I don't do well on hormones so really wanted to avoid HRT.
I seem to be going backwards, I'm 51 and suddenly have regular periods after a lifetime of irregular ones 🤷 Plus my Mum was done and dusted with it all at 44 (and didn't have any issues), but I'm still going at 51.

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Anordinarymum · 14/07/2020 10:33

Actually, thinking about it all, I take the apology back..

All my fertile life I had the most appalling period pains
I had morning sickness with all three children for sixteen weeks
After the children were born I got lumps in my left breast and had to have a partial mastectomy
I've got fibroids in my uterus
And now I have arthritis in my left hip and knee

So I bloody deserved not to have a Menopause

..takes a bow

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WellThankyouAJPTaylor · 14/07/2020 10:37

I had easy periods, pregnancies and births, so maybe I have a monster menopause lying in wait to make up the misery quotient! Argh 😭😆

EthelMayFergus · 14/07/2020 10:40

Thank you for posting, it's good to know that it might not be something to dread. My mum had the same menopause experience as you (although a few years older) and I really hope it's genetic.

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Anordinarymum · 14/07/2020 10:40

As an aside, I may sound like a freak here but I'll take the risk.. I bloody loved being pregnant - after the sickness stopped, and I enjoyed giving birth even though the labours went on and on I wouldn't have changed a thing

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ErrolTheDragon · 14/07/2020 10:46

I think the 'just sayin...' accidentally gave a dismissive tone you didn't intend.

My meno wasn't bad - a few hot flushes and night sweats but not a big deal. And I needed vagifem (great stuffGrin) . I wondered if I got off lightly because my hormone levels were off anyway due to PCOS.

Polyxena · 14/07/2020 10:49

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BestIsWest · 14/07/2020 10:52

How old are you now OP? My periods stopped in my late 40s but I was 55 when the true menopausal effects kicked in. Thank God for HRT.

CallarMorvern · 14/07/2020 10:53

I took the 'just sayin..." To mean I'm just putting it out there as an alternative viewpoint.
It's like reading reviews, people only post them if they had an amazing stellar experience, or if it was utter shit. Where as things that are fine, nothing to see here, don't get reviewed.

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Anordinarymum · 14/07/2020 10:56

@BestIsWest

How old are you now OP? My periods stopped in my late 40s but I was 55 when the true menopausal effects kicked in. Thank God for HRT.
I'm over 60.
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EBearhug · 14/07/2020 10:57

Isn't it about 25% of women go through menopause with no symptoms? That still leaves 3 in 4 women who do get symptoms, and for some it can be really debilitating.

eaglejulesk · 14/07/2020 10:59

I didn't really suffer any ill effects either OP, and when I mentioned it to a nurse she also said that many women have no problems, but you only hear about those who do - which makes women fear it of course.

I had bad period pain and awful PMT and was expecting the worst, so was pleasantly surprised. I feel for those who do suffer.

Bluntness100 · 14/07/2020 10:59

I don’t think it comes across smug. That’s an interpretation the reader puts on it and is on the individual. Women should be able to talk about their menopause experience without fear of being attacked. It’s tough enough to talk about without women attacking women about it because their experience was different.

Mine, I’m fifty one now, I had night sweats, a bit of mild anxiety, periods became heavier, nothing to see a doc about and guessed I was in peri, two months ago I had a shocking flooding in the middle of my cycle during the night which worried me, and then I missed my period last month and it was due two days ago and hasn’t come. I don’t know if it’s over, or what.

But if I’m through it, which I seriously hope I am, then I am delighted. No weight gain, no hot flushes, no confusion, nothing extreme.

The issue I have is I don’t know, I could go see a doctor and confirm it, but will likely wait it out and see.