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Older mums ??? 40 plus???

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Laurang63 · 27/04/2005 19:41

Hi, I'm 41whispers quietly and have 3 kids, dd18 ds16 and an 8 month old. Would love to hear from any other older mothers.

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Cassoulet · 15/09/2006 19:10

Oh boy, it was so long ago!! I look at myself and think 'How come everyone used to be astonished I was so old? Now they'll be astonished I'm so young!'

Got to cook supper...

KiwiKat · 16/09/2006 00:46

Nearly one am and Max (12 weeks old tomorrow) is STILL crying with colic/wind - it's driving me crazy. DH has gone away for a boys' weekend, so it's just me and the baby. He's dangerously close to being thrown out the window. I'm 40, in East London and wish I was somewhere else right now, NOT having to deal with a continuously crying baby.

fatfox · 16/09/2006 09:13

Hi

I went on a meet up last night and had to leave at 11am 'cos I was so knackered Mind you, am PG at 43 as well and couldn't wait to get home to a hot chocolate TBH.

Murphee LOL

I wish I'd had mine a wee bit younger (may be started at 33 rather than 36?) but deffo not in my 20's. I got to do loads of stuff which was character forming, which I couldn't have done with kids at home and I would have had a much narrower view of the world if I'd been a mum in my 20s.

I always think that when I'm 60, mine will be between 17 and 23, which I actually think will be OK if I'm a "young" 60. How do I persuade them to have babies young though; so I get to enjoy my grandchildren?

Also, I do lie a awake sometimes and worry about popping my clogs while they're still tiny? We have huge life insurance policies with crippling premiums as a reslt and we really do need to do a will re guardianship etc (although of course you can pop yer clogs any age). Does anyone else worry about this??

Sorry to be so morbid, bt it would be good to share your thoughts as this is something that I think older parents probably do worry about more...?

Apart from that; I lurve it and yes, am knackered, but hey so what...

helsy · 17/09/2006 12:11

Fatfox, I know what you mean about wanting your children to have babies younger than we did so that we get to see our grandchildren! Do as I say, not as I do....enjoy life, travel, but could you settle down at ABOUT 25 - 28, please? With someone of my choosing, obviously .

LeilaS · 18/09/2006 09:12

Hi, It's brilliant to find an older mums' thread. I'm 43 (born in 63 as well)with a two year old and a 19 year old. We're in Norfolk and there don't seem to be many older mums here which is a pity.
PK too but am sure it's not because I'm older just not getting enough sleep - DS2 still wakes up in the night quite regularly. If anything I'm fitter now than I was when I had DS1 in 87 and was definitely PK then. Or am I just kidding myself??
Has anyone else started worrying about being fit for the first time in their lives now that they are in their forties? I've started running and, to be honest, it's so that I can stay fit/healthy for my little boy.

When's your baby due Fatfox? Oh - just seen in early March. Yes, you're right about grandchildren but at least we get to enjoy our own young babies/children while we're in our forties while for some of our contemporaries that's just a distant memory.

bigbabygapmum · 18/09/2006 09:28

I have a seventeen year old and a seven month old. I am 43 , too. I would love to get in touch. It is an amusing age gap but it is not without its problems. You just get one to sleep and then the other one wakes you with her nocturnal wanderings. LOL!

bigbabygapmum · 18/09/2006 09:32

I have a seventeen year old and a seven month old. I am 43 , too. I would love to get in touch. It is an amusing age gap but it is not without its problems. You just get one to sleep and then the other one wakes you with her nocturnal wanderings. LOL!

bigbabygapmum · 18/09/2006 09:41

Hi Tissey and LeilaS ! I have a large gap between children like you. Will you get in touch please? Tissey is there any chance you can change your request not to receive private messages as i just tried to send you one and you have got yours set to no messages? :0

bigbabygapmum · 18/09/2006 09:46

And jen333...I would like to get in touch with you, too. I have a media request on the media request page. Please check it out. It would be a fun feature to do. Having a baby again after such a large gap is wonderful. I am loving it. It is worth writing about.

brimfull · 18/09/2006 10:12

can I say hello,I'm 44 with a 14yrold dd and a 4 yr old ds.I haven't read the whole thread but get the general feeling of everyone's knackered,well me too!
Ds hasn't started school yet and tbh I can't wait until I can get some time to myself again.He's a sept baby so a late school starter,probably a good thing for him .

bigbabygapmum · 18/09/2006 10:34

don't mean to wander off thread but recent research says the later boys can start school the better...five year old boys can't sit still as long as five year old boys apparently. Mine is only seven months old (I'm 44 this November) and already he's wearing me out! New advice to Government is to start boys at school at six. Can't see them doing it though...

bigbabygapmum · 18/09/2006 10:35

obvioulsy I am so PK that I typed boys again when I meant girls...sorry

Greengirlforever · 18/09/2006 11:39

Cassoulet - I am older mum in Devon too. We could hop on the train to Waterloo and meet the rest of 'em in London! I have DS1 (14 in Nov), DS2 (3.4) and am 41 with another due next April (will still be 41 though )! There are so many of us now I think one of the stigmas we worry about - being the oldest mum in the class etc - is getting increasingly less likely....

Fatfox - I am intrigued about what you did that was "Character-forming" before children! I did a few character forming things myself in my early 20's ....!

slalomsuki · 18/09/2006 11:43

42 with a 5 year old, a 3 year old and a 11month old here and loving it

lapsedrunner · 18/09/2006 12:56

Hi, I'm 44 (only just!) with one ds4 .

fatfox · 18/09/2006 13:48

Greengirl - if you get me drunk I'll tell you and you can tell me yours (laughs mysteriously)

fatfox · 18/09/2006 13:50

Biggap - completely agree about boys not being able to sit still. DS 6 eats his food darting round the room

Personally I think they shouldn't start school until 7 anyway.

Oh and free universal childcare would be useful too, like in Sweden

LeilaS · 18/09/2006 14:03

Bigbabygap - I've had a couple of good night's sleep this week and feel so much better. Have had some nights recently where both my boys have kept me awake - the two year old because he wants a drink or his teeth hurt and the nineteen year old as he goes out into the garden for yet another cigarette because he can't sleep or comes back, drunk and stumbling, from a night out. He tries to be quiet but it doesn't always work!
Will track down your media request.

mrsmummy · 18/09/2006 15:39

Hi

yes i totally agree my ds 6 also can't sit still at home but manages to at school, i also worry about being the oldest mum at the school gate but i have to say apart from the odd one most of them are in their mid to late 30`s if not older - or maybe they are just young looking grannies

bigbabygapmum · 18/09/2006 18:59

LeilaS - tell me about it! I get baby DS to sleep and then teenage DD starts her nocturnal wanderings (bit of toast making, bit of tv watching, bit of thumping up stairs, going to loo) DS sleeps through it but I awake! aaargh Us over 40's need our beauty sleep! Thanks for getting in touch by the way. It's all going well.

bigbabygapmum · 18/09/2006 18:59

LeilaS - tell me about it! I get baby DS to sleep and then teenage DD starts her nocturnal wanderings (bit of toast making, bit of tv watching, bit of thumping up stairs, going to loo) DS sleeps through it but I awake! aaargh Us over 40's need our beauty sleep! Thanks for getting in touch by the way. It's all going well.

bigbabygapmum · 18/09/2006 18:59

LeilaS - tell me about it! I get baby DS to sleep and then teenage DD starts her nocturnal wanderings (bit of toast making, bit of tv watching, bit of thumping up stairs, going to loo) DS sleeps through it but I awake! aaargh Us over 40's need our beauty sleep! Thanks for getting in touch by the way. It's all going well.

bigbabygapmum · 18/09/2006 18:59

LeilaS - tell me about it! I get baby DS to sleep and then teenage DD starts her nocturnal wanderings (bit of toast making, bit of tv watching, bit of thumping up stairs, going to loo) DS sleeps through it but I awake! aaargh Us over 40's need our beauty sleep! Thanks for getting in touch by the way. It's all going well.

bigbabygapmum · 18/09/2006 18:59

LeilaS - tell me about it! I get baby DS to sleep and then teenage DD starts her nocturnal wanderings (bit of toast making, bit of tv watching, bit of thumping up stairs, going to loo) DS sleeps through it but I awake! aaargh Us over 40's need our beauty sleep! Thanks for getting in touch by the way. It's all going well.

bigbabygapmum · 18/09/2006 18:59

LeilaS - tell me about it! I get baby DS to sleep and then teenage DD starts her nocturnal wanderings (bit of toast making, bit of tv watching, bit of thumping up stairs, going to loo) DS sleeps through it but I awake! aaargh Us over 40's need our beauty sleep! Thanks for getting in touch by the way. It's all going well.