lol anorak, i never seem to be free when you have meetups here, but i always look out for them
but i just had a brainwave! amazing that Ive been getting on civil terms with exp, and I have said to him that I will let him have dd at his house for a weekend, but i would feel much more comfortable if i was that end of the country if something was to happen not that i think it would, but just in case, dd is really unhappy or something. well anyway, as exp's last visit was quite a good one, where dd was really happy with him, i said if the next few visits are like the last one, then we'll talk about it, as in set a date, so since he only sees her every 3 weeks it'll take a while to get there, but if someone was willing to let me sleep on their sofa or something, i could come up that end for a meetup