Calling all young mums!!!

[tammybear]

I was just wondering if there were many young mums on here.

Im 19 years old, with dd 17 months

afraid im in the north!!

im in herts. i have the same problem too, take dd to tumble tots every monday morning (oh god i got it tomorrow!!) and no one speaks to me although they do be polite when i say something to them, but they're soon off chatting with the other mums. at least i got dd to keep me company

I want to take ds to gymbabes (baby tumble tots) but I'm scared of the looks... I made the mistake of going to an NCT group once and I wasn't even talked to. I hate going to these groups on my own, but the few mums I do meet have their own circle of mums... argh.

i hated my nhs run antenatal classes as all older mums (im 21) and they all looked at me with disgust and no-one talked to me at all but all made friends with each other! how rude!!

with tumble tots i find that you're constantly running after your little one anyway so it doesnt bother me so much that i dont talk to noone. never been to parent and baby group as i was too afraid to go

oops complete lie i was 22 last week!!

I know it'll get easier once ds can make his own friends, but at the moment it's really hard. My antenatal classes were hell, only one other couple spoke english and everyone was over 30. Then when I gave birth and was in hospital it was the same people!

yeah all the same people were in hospital giving birth at the same time as me which was really awkward as i was on the same ward as some of them - and they were STILL being clique then!!

they may have a young mums group in your area, usually health vistiors know

My health visitor is very unhelpful! I think going to these scary groups has made me wary of showing up at any too... I know that that's silly though.

yeah i am seeing the health visitor tomorrow so i will ask her!! ooh lovely she has just been sick all over my shoulder!! the joy of babies!

Much as I love ds and wouldnt change a thing.. does anyone else miss going out?
Or having a few drinks during the day!

I cant wait to go out these days lol I always force the friends that I do have left to go out together because I want to and my mum's agreed to have dd a night.

Oh you are lucky! Moving away from my old friends was a big mistake! I don't have the babysitter problem I have the lack of drinking buddys problem! lol

aww, dont you know many people near you, even if they arent mums?

no sniff I moved from dorset to berkshire when I was pregnant and it was a big mistake cos I can't drive :c(
hopefully i'll find a young mums group

there's always the option of going to mumsnet meetups

Yes I think I shall! I know the ones on threads I frequent are older though.. I may have to see if any young mums have one and travel!

ive been to a couple and i was the youngest one at the first but the second one another young mum came, but they are all very friendly and will welcome you.

Hi girls, i missed you lot earlier, shame! i could av had a little chat and get to no some of you a bit! Hey Tammybear do you still live in watford? as i noticed you said somewhere on the page??? im not to far from you i live in whetstone (near barnet) and sometimes i go to watford shopping! who no maybe we could link up sometime, as we both have dd nearly the same age. my dd is having the terrible "twos" and boy she can have a tantrum, i use to go tumble tots and at 1st i was good as there was 2 other mums who i got along with, then they stopped going and everyone else had there head up there backside!!!lol

hi ladym, quick message as im going to bed now, but yeah im in watford, and just gotten myself a car so am a bit more flexible with getting round a bit (but not too far, only started driving it today!), I dont mind meeting up if you're down again soon xxx

Hi I'm 29 with a 4 year old dd. I live in the Staffordshire area. Any others out there?

I'm 17....with a house a mortgage no money, a husband and my mum's 300 miles away lol (oh and a nearly 8 month old baby Theo, had him at 16) I stick my tongue out to whoever said that thing about us being irresponsible ...

Hi all, I just found this thread and am reading all this stuff about getting looks from older ppl. I just turned 24, my ds is 3 months old, and before he was born, I was a nanny for a while. The girls I looked after looked a bit like me, so people sometimes thought that i was their mum. Now when I see younger women with children, I don't assume anything, because I know they might be nannies....and I hope no one would think that I was my baby's nanny because I look young. Anyways, it really doesn't matter what people think, and they are probably too busy worrying about what u think of them to bother having a thought about you!
I think having babies young is the best way to go, but I am having trouble making friends and having a social life. I guess that's what this website is for!

hi keren143