I want a friend

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or two! I'm not very good in large groups and do find it difficult to make friends but I am so lonely! I'm 36, a SAHM and have two daughters; one is nearly 4 and the other nearly 6 months old. I live near Harpenden in Hertfordshire. My husband works long hours and I need a friend!! Is there anyone else out there who lives near me and feels the same way?

Thanks mumcab I am sure your wee bump will be just a cute
Hope to hear from you soon take care.x.x

Hello all - not sure who is coming on the 30th now but, having suggested it, am going to have to cancel. Without getting all depressing my Dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer just before Xmas so we are seeing as much of him as we can and he'd like to see us that day. Unfortunately we're already booked up for the week after but would really like to meet - so maybe the Tuesday after that?

Hope you all have a good time !

I live in Harpenden, can I join in?

Caroline1852 Hello,everybody is welcome how many children do you have.
George30 Sorry about your Dad.

Thanks - Hope to see you all soon.

EliieHsmum - thanks for being so welcoming. I have 3 children (sons 14 and 11 and a daughter 15 months) with no. 4 due in July. I moved to Harpenden just before my daughter was born (about 16 months ago) and have been busy organnising the refurbishment of our new house - pretty much finished now. Now I need to get to know where I live and make some new friends for me and my daughter!

Thats awful george. Poor you

I can't make the 3oth now either. I'll try and make the next meet up though.

Hi Caroline1852, My dd is nearly 18 months so similar to your dd.

Very sorry to hear about your dad George .

Welcome Caroline. Did you ever go to the NCT bumps and babes in Wesleys in Harpenden? We may have overlapped if you did, as I went regularly until dd was about 5 months (now 11 1/2 months).

Pennies - it seems like it's just me and you left for 30th now. Do you want to rearrange? I've found another toddler group for Tuesday mornings now, so am quite happy to do a different day if that suits more of you.

Maybe an afternoon would be better, after the babes have all had their afternoon naps?

canstarvewillstarve
I joined the NCT but never did go to bumps and babes at Wesleys..... kept thinking I would get round to it next week and then the week after...... but never did. I will make an effort this pregnancy. Do you take your dd to a toddler group? My dd is not yet walking, she is now speed crawling! Shows no interest in being on two legs whatsoever.

Oh yes we do lots of toddler groups, but not actually in Harpenden. If you don't mind exploring nearby villages, there is one in Kimpton on Tuesdays, St Ippolyts on Wednesdays, Whitwell on Thursdays, and then MAMA in Hitchin on Fridays (alternating Fridays for babies then toddlers). You might gather that we live roughly midway between Harpenden and Hitchin!

My dd is quite the opposite re wanting to be on 2 legs - she has been walking well for 2-3 weeks now - just has to master the art of getting herself up without pulling up on something, and then she'll be totally independent!!

CanStarveWillStarve: I just looked at your profile and laughed at the "so shoot me" comment. I was a Tory even when it was horribly unfashionable to admit to such a thing. You seem to provide a busy social diary for your daughter. I feel terrible now
Where did you all have your babies, which hospital?

Is it not still horribly unfashionable?

I guess I shouldn't mention that we also do gymbabes on a Monday then?! To be fair though, you do have 2 other children, and I'm sure that they provide plenty of entertainment for your dd. My dd isn't very good at entertaining herself at home, and there's no-one else around to watch except me (we live pretty much in the middle of nowhere and dh is away all week), but she's very sociable when we are out with other children, so it makes life easier for us both that way.

Would definitely be great to get to some groups with your new babe though, so you have a few months to get some practice in!

There are lots of music groups in and around Harpenden, if you think your daughter might enjoy one of those.

An afternoon meetup would be good.

Forgot to answer your other question Caroline. I had dd at the Lister in Stevenage. I guess you'll be using the L&D? The rest of my NCT group had theirs there and were quite happy with it.

Hi Wriggle How are you & little Wriggler?

The opinion polls would suggest that it is no longer unfashionable to be blue. I like to think of myself as a respectable Tory with a social conscience. Definitely not one of the rabid Daily Mail-reading variety. Although I sometimes wonder just how rabid I might be, for example when my 14 year old son discusses (not sure how seriously) us going into a home in our 60s and making a PET of the house to "us three kids" in order to avoid IHT!
I had DD at QEII WGC, it was excellent last time round (although I only transferred there at 7 months pregnant and by then you are somewhat resigned to your fate!), and have opted to go there again. I went to meet my consultant yesterday and have my booking visit. Consultant was lovely, but antenatal clinic was chaotic with loads of hanging about. Unfortunately I took DD with me, 3 hours in an antenatal clinic with a 14 month old
Next week am going to start a new sociable regime!

On the subject of sociability - afternoon meet-ups would work well for us. DS usually naps 12-2 although he often decides to be unpredictable on days when I need him to stick to those hours - how do they know?

We're busy the next couple of Tuesdays but around again from the 20th. We're happy to travel out of "the Den" if it's easier for others.

Thanks for everyone's kind messages by the way - had some good news at the end of last week. Dad's doc thinks his body is fighting well on its own so no need for chemo yet and the worst may be quite far off. Still scary but better than it could be.

George30 - That's good news about your dad!

Afternoons suit me very well. Can do any PM except Mondays. I often take the girls to Big Space and give them their supper there - it give us more time there and they seem to think it's quite fun!

CSWS - shall we put off tomorrow then and do a PM another day?

Pennies - yes, we'll postpone tomorrow.

Anyone want to try a meet up in half term week (w/c 11th Feb)? I can do either the Thursday or Friday afternoon that week.

My dd doesn't tend to start her nap before 2 normally, but I could probably get her down at 1:30, which should mean that we could get to Big Space between 3:30 and 4.

Great news about your dad George.

Glad to hear you were pleased with the QEII Caroline - I'd heard very mixed reports about the service there, which was a shame, as I had wanted a water birth, but was a little put off, and there isn't a pool at Lister.

Half term sounds good to be.

Am OK to do half term but won't it be hideously busy? 3.30 / 4-ish is great for us!

Unfortunately we can't make it to Big Space during half term week. Perhaps next time.
Mumcab, are you having your new baby at the QEII?
I am not doing a very good job at having a more sociable week. Have spent most of this week waiting for phone calls from hospital. I need a cervical stitch and Consultant thinks it will be OK if his registrar does it as he is off next week. When I protested he told me he was taking the week off to do his private work and I could have it done privately by him next week. Seems sort of unethical to me. Very difficult to make detached, sensible decisions when you are pregnant isn't it?

I'm planning on going there tomorrow afternoon if anyone fancies an impromptu meet up. I'll be there from about 3.30.

Caroline1852 - firstly poor you having to have a stitch. You're not wrong re. the ethics of it. Lining his purse quite blatantly.

Pennies - how old is/are your little one/s? I have never been to Big Space. Do you think my DD might like it even though she does not yet walk, she just does speed crawling?