Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 23

[Monty100]

These threads are finishing faster and faster!

As you were.

look that's a good tip anyway
I am looking for 40-50
will bear in mind

yes back story ....

oh he's pondlife truly,i just felt a tad nervous after reading ninah's description
there must be a scarily high proportion of skank on there given the search area ninah esp as it's free...jeeze my hot spots covered the black country and brum
can't be doing with noddy holder clones{snob emoticon}

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Morning ladies!
I took activities partner to mean...erm...rudey activities partner?not quite camping but maybe I'm wrong!

Sorry been so quiet,being out a couple more times with engineer,also been speaking to him every day,but pretty sure he's a lot more into me than I am to him unfortunately. So what's the best way to let him down?don't really want to do my usual trick of bfs as he's a nice guy but I hate this part!just don't get the fizzles with him.

Think I've decided I don't actually want a boyfriend at the minute. Maybe just an activities partner lol! Next bloke I date is going to be one who I can't wait to go home and rip their trousers off. Forget this really nice person lark and fun to be with- I want smoking hot and fizzles next time!

Activities partner is no strings fun

rofl
clarabella bfs isn't a nice way of doing things esp if you've seen him a few times
so either tell him straight but obv tactfully or just cop out and be incredibly busy
lou hope you're good?

Having lots of grief with dd1 atm but mostly ok that aside

I had an emotionally charged start to the week ds2 had a fairly major role in the play - he also has a speech problem which ebbs and flows - possibly according to how much stress he feels under. He got through the play yesterday but with some hesitation (its more of a hesitation in between words than a stammer of the first letter IYWIM) but at some points he was sort of looking upwards) My heart went out to him - I felt quite choked. Tho didn't let him see me of course.

I let my landlord know that a few things need doing including the kitchen floor and he has come back and said he might do them when we're away. This is fine but means I will prob have to clear the kitchen before hol - not much free time to do that and in the evening I am knackered.

Just speaking to dm about it (big mistake) and she basically said rather than sitting round drinking wine of an evening you need to make time to do it.' I am not the world's most naturally tidy person but really what right does she have to say that - she has never had a stressful job and never been single parent. This is why there is tension and conflict between us.

She can never ever praise me and never has. I make sure I praise my dcs and would always try to be supportive of them. Sadly that has never been the case with mine. Sorry to moan I do feel guilty about moaning.

As you were

A further load of emails on one site that I would not give the time of day to. No-one even remotely suitable.

it rankled a bit because she was very sympathetic about my db (single) telling his employer he didn't want to go on a week long course because no-one to look after his cat - I kid you not!!

sorry on a roll - plus a barbed comment about the age I was when I had ds2

scl poor you, thats so mean of your DM. I think its easy to forget how hard it is to be a single parent, esp if you are working as well. I know that in my case either I have to let stuff slide at work or at home, there simply arent enough hours in the day to do everything...dont beat yourself up over it.

I know for me its the feeling of being utterly unsupported which I find the hardest - I never have anyone I can discuss the DC with (as Ex and I now have no contact whatsoever although he still sees the boys) or also share their achievements. All a bit crap really sometimes.

and I went to the monsoon sale today and couldnt find anything to try on, let alone I liked enough to buy. However on the plus side I have saved some money....

what about the dcs grandparents sponge can you disuss it with them?

Mine only have my parents (gp dead on exh side) and they do contact them to tell them about their football etc

Do you think you can see a time when you can discuss dcs with exh? I do discuss with mine but it usually ends in a row as he is often criticises them. He is away atm and I haven't told him about ds2s play. Nor has he asked either (he knew it was imminent)

Its sad about my mum really she has always been like this with me since I was a child - if she was some high achieving superwoman she might have a point - I think she categorised me in the not having children type and was quite shocked when I did.

She has always used the domestic goddess type thing to beat me with. I just bite my tonge but can't deny it hurts. It's possible she could be jealous of course. Think I wrote before about projecting her issues with my lovely aunt (now decd) onto me.

ps was in monsoon the other week (just looking) and I remember thinking how their clohtese had turned a bit marmiteish

I used to like most of their stuff. However it's v overpriced isn't it? hnece the sale

All I am wanting atm is a maxi dress for hols though I am bit short to just find one off the peg.

re grandparents - none on my side sadly and as for the Ex's parents, we are not really in contact and they are not really the supportive (grand)parent types - probably why Ex is as he is. Is a bit sad really as my parents would have made brilliant gps, but wasnt meant to be.

I can't see a time when Ex and I will ever be on speaking terms. I am still concerned that it will all kick off again as soon as/if I meet anyone - my neighbour (who is v pally with Ex) was having a good look out of his window last week when wedding guy was round & we were out the front of the house discussing building jobs (which he is doing for me - wedding guy not neighbour!)am sure me having 'a man' at the house will make its way back to Ex soon enough

agree re marmite monsoon Lots of shifts which just look like sacks on me! Re maxi dresses I have bought 2 from Primark both £9 - they are quite long but at that price could you have a go at taking them up? and where are you off for hols (prob missed that earlier on thread apologies) think we will be holidaying in back garden this year

Just had a quick scan. Clara you sound in exactly the same place as me atm. My phone has been switched off as I've been in a meeting had two messages from Stallion asking if I don't want to see him anymore. Told him I have a lot on and that he works when I don't so thought it best to leave it and hope he is OK.

SCL and Sponge I'm in the same boat. No-one to turn to. Took DD clothes shopping. It ended up in a massive argument once again. Feel guilty as I know I'm hard on her and Dsis was a bit shocked but I'm the one who has to deal with it when she hasn't anything suitable to wear to go out in. Never again, next time someone else can go shopping with her. Any style consultants out there?

my day has been rubbish too
i had a gp appointment this morning to discuss how stressed i am with dd1 atm, and to get some sleeping pills, plus my hayfever has been bad this year, no over the counter stuff has helped, so he gave me some stronger ones to try and some more inhalers

then the doc called to say thet the appointment dd1 had this afternoon to talk about her issues had to be rbought forward to 11 am, as the doc she was seeing was ill, so i had to go straight and get her from college, take her, and drop her back

i then planned to go to guildford as i had tog et some bits for dp, and as i was doing that the school called about ds2, saying his knee was hurting and could i drop in some painkiller for him, so i had to cut the trip short and sort him out

THEN after that i had to go back and give ds1 his meds for his cough (he is off and dd2 was with him as she is home edded, tho clearly not much was taught today), and had about half an hour to do nothing before i went to the dentist to have a tooth out

except they couldnt do it, because no matter how much local they gave me i was jumping out of the chair, so i have been referred to another clinic to have it out under sedation, and now have a sore tooth from al the pulling and prodding that she attempted before i had to stop her because of the pain, and on top of that she said it may start an infection , so have to take some anti biotics

x rays show that the nerves are v thin and something else i cant remember, which indicates a chronic long term issue has been going on, hence how sensitive it is right now, but any abscess starting wouldnt show until it was well underway and huge, so she may have now inadvertently kick started it if it was about to happen, iyswim

from there i had to go with numb face to get ds2 after school, who started crying when i saw him, partly cos of his knee, but partly because a boy in his class has told him he is going to steal his gf, and has been rubbing it in his face all day and trying to stop ds and the gf being together

so much so his one to one assistants noticed it and mentioned it to me, and how stressed and quiet ds was today at school

when he got home he broke down in floods of tears about it all, i think the knee pain has made him feel worse, so i sent a text to one of his helpers explaining what had gone on and she is going to try sorting it tomorrow morning

bless him it tugged at my heartstrings, as it reminded me that he is going to find all this dating malarkey so much harder than others his age when he starts doing it for real as a teenager, and he is such a sweet lovely boy

99% of the time it is so easy to forget his disability because his personality is so amazing, but times like that really make me catch my breath, especially as only last week he said to me he wished he could play football like his friends

i told dp and he was straight on the phone asking if ds wanted to talk to him, and he must have felt bad, because he said no (usually he is trying to drag the phone off me to speak to him)

and after all that i had to collect dd1 and get the prescriptions and get some food in for tonight

i was meant to do a proper shop but i havent had time and after today i just thought sod it, i will do it tomorrow

oh and a friend of mine has hurt her back, so i had to go get her some painkillers and fags too

is it bedtime yet?

Lou, sounds like a day from hell for you. I recommend a bubble bath which is what I'm about to do. Or vodka, I would join you but have to save it for the end of the week.

mg god lou that sounds exhausting
sorry those having a hard time atm
sin I look at sitting round drinking wine of an evening as a form of psychological therapy
sometimes my house is a tip
the worst time was when I was in our family home after parents died because I had nowhere else to go and my sisters (we owned it jointly) would let themselves in and be horrified I had not washed the lunch plates up
so I do know how you feel
at busy stressful times it would be nice if family said here let us have dc for a night, give you a break instead of pitching in and bbeating you up about what you are already beating yourself up about

it certainly has been eve

no vodka though i have got some beer, the bath has to wait as i now have to cook a delayed dinner

nothing fancy tonight for obvious reasons, i just made some chips and will fry some eggs and bung it with some ham

ds2 has a dental appointment tomorrow as well, and dd2 has one on thurs, though they are both at different places from the one i went to today

thankfully this evening dd1 is on best behaviour, so i dont have her crap to be dealing with (so far)

i am hoping ds1 will be back at school tomorrow, though now he is getting stressed at the thought because i cut his hair and it looks v different to before, and he hates it (but it actually looks really good if you look on my fb), and he thinks everyone will stare and make fun

i had to do it though, he told me his head was itching and when i looked he had so many eggs i wasnt going to comb them out, so just got the scissors

no idea how he managed to live with that amount in his hair without mentioning it til yesterday

i can see his face and he looks like a proper boy, but he doesnt like drawing attention to himself, and is v shy outside of the home

but his cough seems to be improving, and even if it is still there i am hoping it is improved enough for him to attend school

oh and the puppy brought me a gift of a snail this morning, dropped it into my bed for me

god lou I'm exhausted reading that.

We've just had mushroom omelette due to tiredness and serious lack of funds.

well they are all sitting eating, so i have 5 mins peace

ds1 is still teary about school, he wont listen to reason or bribery , and has been overly needy of me the last couple of days, asking to sit next to me (and i mean right next to me squished into the same armchair), he even napped with me yesterday afternoon, which he hasnt done for years ( the medicine i have been given him can make him drowsy but i mean the bit about wanting to share my bed)

it was actually quite nice lol

he is normally an early riser and always active

my head is itchy now thinking about his head, so i may well just run the comb through later when i shower (or bath if i feel too knackered to stand up ) just to double check

i opened a beer about 20 mins ago and finally managed to take the first gulp....bliss