Hello, my answer to this is plan to do fun things, thats all i can do. She's a bit down, the hip problems has made our life even more variable than usual, and I feel for her.
She hasn't even thought aboput doing him a card, but has made one for my stepdad instead, who, loves her lots.
Just makes me a bit sad her dad has made such a shitty mess of this. Selfish twat. mind you wonder how he's doing today.