where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone PT20

[Betty79]

Has no one beat me to it with a new thread yet?

oh no it's not a family name if it was I wouldn't mind.

also - I like bowling, or pool actually - can have a drink & we have a 'pool pit' juke box pool table what more does a girl need!

I'm hopeless at bowling and pool but can see the attraction of doing it on a date.

That's not a bad idea juice - and there's a bowling place not far away. Other dilemma ... apart from do I buy him a sub for Weightwatchers or Slimming World ... is, he's offered to pick me up ... do I let him pick me up from mine or from the pub round the corner?

kdk - oooh what a catch. you make a lovely angel up on that shelf.

no pringles for me... need to be in a noir outfit in 4 weeks. damn davina dvd most mornings for wobble free thighs.

belle - forgot to say. yes.. was thinking motorola going to be a really hard one to shake off. but he seems to have taken the hint for today. lets see if he can go the whole day tomorrow. be a friggin miracle if he can. ex has been away since first week april.and yeah... forces defo has something up his sleeve..i've warned him if he's planning on showing up on my door i cant guarantee i will be in the house.. or even the country

If it's a second date I would have no problem with letting him know where I live. Hang on maybe I should rethink!

pick up at your house. he's gonna drop you home there anyway isn't he? if your confident he's not pscho then go for it.

lets face it. you would let someone you met in pub pick you up from house on second date wouldn't you?

pool is another good one. but perhaps depends on your area. there's but sports bar pubs in glasgow have a whole floor of pool tables with nice clean metropolitan style bars in them. wouldn't fancy a dingy pool hall for it. sometimes a nice little local with a couple of tables is fun too.

He ain't bloody moving in here - not with three bloody kids! And not sure what my mother would say - she's put up with some cr*p from me over the years - including my exh - but I think that that might be a step too far!

And thanks juice

Hi All thre is sooo much happening on here that i struggle to keep up - feel a real dullard by comparison!

Well my last date dissapeared without trace, but I have had a lovely message tonight from a guy I used to work with years ago, who I caught up with a while back.

Last time we met was when I was married and we had lunch, talked for ages and I remember thinking 'wow, but we were both attached. Now, fast forward a couple of years, we are both single (good), both interested, swapping pics and stories (also good), BUT - there is always a but, isnt there - living in different countries (really not good at all). So now I have an invite to Switzerland and he has one to the Midlands (I win I think).

We both travel a lot so if we are lucky we might end up in the same country shortly before retirement - fingers crossed - but at least he has brightened my day

belle - i think you should get your asse out to meet soldier before he goes away for 3 weeks. otherwise you will build it up int a big hoooha that it isn't. even just a coffee.

Okay ladies, am taking in all suggestions and will keep you posted. Am off to my bed as absolutely knackered so wish you all good night and sweet dreams (of whoever or whatever takes your fancy - I bag George Clooney).

Can i have Matt Damon???

Be my guest ...

elastamum, if it's feasible to meet then go for it, you never know.

Belle, agree get a date set up.

elastamum

get your asse out to switzerland.

I am out there on monday - but not in the right city - and i have to be back the same day - think he is in the US though. Maybe one day, I think if we did meet up it might be fun

evening everyone

kdk- second date agree that bowling/pool type thing seems good - and know what you're saying re daytime/sober dates etc - of those I've had, the only one that went half way well was the one when I was pissed somewhat inebriated

juice -sympathies with the Ex, what is it with these men, they're either disappearing off for weeks on end, or stealing your doormat like mine (who still hasnt moved out, but has paid deposit on a flat so am hoping for some movement soon!!)

eve - well done re athletic, hard though I know it must have been to do.

hello to everyone else

date with wedding man is probably going to be next week now as the only days he's free this week are ones I cant do. He has said he will drive over here (he is about 30 miles from me, other side of the Thames) & will just go to one of the less horrible pubs here

He also uses the word hun in his texts though - makes me want to poke him with a sharp stick

which is worse hun or bab?

god what a night, (see my thread in childrens health aboutpoor dd's sore 'bits')

she is still in pain now.

recap. dd suddenly started burning in pain down below, the skin parts. psent t hours trying to get to sleep, i gave her warm baths etc,, but she was thru the roofwith the pain. She gt to sleep about 11.30, and this morn is stil 'ow ow ow', every 5 mins.

hope there is an appt free at gp.

sm - hun for me i'm afraid.

pirate - oh your poor DD - any ideas what it maybe?

sponge - good luck with wedding man.

juice - no chance - he's actually away from fri as I understand it - only plymouth thou, so 2 nights between now & then, however mums had DS last night so I can't v well go & ask again for tonight/tomorrow. esp as I need her to have him friday for an hour. Have the day off today as well but got this college thing. convo was 2 hours last night - but big red flag for me (personally) is he split with XW last sept (but had been away 4 months prior) was doing the whole living/sleeping together but not being together thing till new year this year then moved out - not much time there is it? has promised to shave the back thou ! lol.

2nd date - er, I usually I think still meet them out, 3rd go to theirs 4th come to mine - just what you feel comfortable with really isn't it.

belle - ... your not really in a position to comment on him still staying with exw..... your exh also still lives with you during his access i thought????(humble apologies if i am wrong i know you dont share bed.... but.. still the same really..at least your soldier has put a stop to that with his.

not having a go. just putting a bit of perspective on something your labelling a red flag.

and hairy men doesn't bother me.

they are very warm when a heat is required.

sm - not sure about bab. not used up here. we have babe though. which said with scottish accent is actually quite nice. i despise hun.

sponge - where has he put all stuff he's took if not got new place yet?

pc - could it be thrush? i'm very prone to it. have to be very careful what i bathe with and thats why i am on this daft diet as what i eat causes flare up too. my dd has been unfortunate enough to have tendencies for it too. she cant use any of your normal standard body washes for kids. we need to use halo's and horns bodyash/shampoo on her. and watch her like a hawk when she goes to the loo to make sure she's wiping properly, and is using toilet paper and not wipes(she cant use most wipes either)

belle if he isnt there now i dont see a problem with it

kdk, go jogging with poker guy

elasta, no harm in seeing what happens with the swiss guy

and eve, sorry i didnt reply on fb, kids were all over me at once, and the pc froze so by the time i replied you had gone, but well done on staying firm!

aww pirate bless her, is it external or internal the pain?

agree with juice it could be thrush if external, possibly cystitis too

hope she gets soretd

Morning

Belle - goot luck at college

pc - poor dd, hope she gets better soon

kdk - are you going for a second date with bluebeard?

I'm still chatting to fireman classical man (OMG same age and name as older bloke!), dj man (I know, never a good idea - I was married to one!) and local bloke. Plus remember that bloke with the 2 boys who wanted to go to the monkey forest - he's popped up - although he's with someone now - so don't know y he's still on the site [hmmm]

Pirate, sorry if I'm stating the obvious but have you tried Canesten. Remember we used to use this when DD had similar problems.

It's OK Lou, was in the middle of it when I spotted you online and knew you would have told me to stand firm. I thought I'd seen the last of him but no he turned up this morning. Went out to the car and shut the door firmly behind me, whilst telling him a few truths.

just tell him to fuck off now eve

is it getting tedious?