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where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 18)

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 24/02/2010 18:01

part 18.... jeeze 17 threads have past...17 threads worth of dating excitment/disasters.

wonder what number 18 will bring

any predictions anyone?

wedding/co-habitation for someone must be due by now.

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 03/03/2010 15:34

lou - irish i'm still in contact with. but i'm def not lusting after him.specially after hearing some of his behaviour over the wkd when he was out. he seems to be getting worse. or simply isn't hiding just how bad he is anymore when he's getting wasted.

still hear the odd msg from beach. he's due a new job soon which should "free up his time"

asbm - hotel. i'm going to see if i leave it for lastminute.com and get one of their "top secret "hotels for a bargain

singlemum - explain to us what "hiding" involved?... did you yank him into a corner and hiss "hide"... or simply avoid walking past work mates or going to bar?.. did you tell your date you were actively avoiding workmates?

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/03/2010 16:57

that's a good idea juicy,have you tried that before?

what's the latest with you?

ninah · 03/03/2010 17:09

good summary juicy
welcome back lou
asbm sorry about school but I know there are a few places at ours that you can get if you appeal, not many but is a small school - don't give up!
hello everyone else

aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/03/2010 17:23

it's not in bedduth is it?
anyhow,what's all this about nm deciding to get a divorce?

ninah · 03/03/2010 18:13

bedduth, certainly not! you have to appeal to get OUT not in lol, and it's done on finger web thickness
divorce, as you know I told him at the outset I was uncomfortable with him being married. It really began to become an issue last autumn and we had the big convo where he said he wasn't sure what he wanted blah blah and he would sort out divorce but was scared of stirring things up
the months passed, and nothing happened
I had about given up tbh and gone off him big time, even down to arranging a date with tf -or trying to lol -, but but as juicy rightly says I needed his diy skills and we stayed in touch, without any encouragement on my part, in fact rather the reverse
He came round on Friday and I wasn't pleasant company, by now I was SOOO irritaed with all the confusion and also he told me his sleazy mate's plans (see below)
We had a horrible weekend and I told him he needed to plain speak to his mate about the mess he could get into seeing a married woman and that I was sick of both of them. N/ex replied he had spoken to his ex and she had papers to sign which would be done shortly, he didn't want to tell me til this week when the paperwork would be finalised!
I was totally and
but tbh I had noticed a subtle difference in his behaviour, he's always considerate but he was really putting me first all the time over the weekend -even though I was in a major strop I noticed it
I was over the moon when I first heard! am beginning to come down to earth a bit now though. Does this mean I have to have a sensible relationship with someone who cares? I've just got used to liking my own space again ... (can't please some, I know)

SingleMum01 · 03/03/2010 19:49

DTMSJ - no I didn't yank him into a corner!!! But I did tell him I didn't want work colleagues to see me and kind of shifted down in my seat and hid behind him (he was sitting opposite me). No text so far today, so am reckoning its not happening. Think I'm going to go fishing in a mo! Bloody men.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/03/2010 19:51

rofl
yeah you'll have to join monty,lou and i
seriously tho,this is a huge step for him and does mean that he's serious about you doesn't it?

SingleMum01 · 03/03/2010 20:03

OMG must have heard me, just sent me a text asking how my DS is!

aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/03/2010 20:41

sm01 how does this leave things now?
can also fully understand why you wouldn't want colleagues knowing your business
which site did you use btw?
apologies if you've already told us
and is this your first bit of online dating?
{nosey emoticon}

SingleMum01 · 03/03/2010 20:59

SBM - don't know, having a text conversation at the mo, but no mention of seeing me.

Yes this is my first bit of online dating, havent dated for years, so I'm very out of practice

aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/03/2010 21:03

ahh!
hideous isn't it?!
are you off site now?

SingleMum01 · 03/03/2010 21:06

still got profile on site, but took picture off 'cos of weirdos messaging me!!!!

aseriouslyblondemoment · 03/03/2010 22:00

which site is it?
only used the one myself but others on here have experience of the many others
but has been mentioned before it does vary region to region

Betty79 · 03/03/2010 22:48

Well I'm home from date with the trucker which went well....I think, we seemed to have fun. He seems nice, not phwoar but there is something about him, he's cheeky. We did 3 games of bowling tho, then sat down to talk after and he seemd more shy then but that's ok with me. He asked if I want to go out again but no date set, i told him to text me so watch this space. I think he was gonna kiss me when we left but i thought I'd make him wait lol

SJ80 · 03/03/2010 22:55

Hii sorry havent read all 18 pages will try and catch up tho

I am dating someone got 4th date next week, going well I think he is younger than me with no kids though so still that child thing to cross really

condifencecrisis · 04/03/2010 07:30

well im pretty fuming.
actually, fuming doesnt even cover it.

Had nm over last night, had, what i thought was a good time. ended up having sex.

He was nice afterwards, gave me a kiss before he left.

Literally just checked his twitter ( dont think he knows i know he has one) and he has tweeted ' you get what you pay for'
and hes updated his profile on the dating site when previously he hadent logged on for about 4 weeks.

fucker!

'you get what you pay for'... i mean, wtf does that mean!!!!!

sorry girls. im majorly pissed off.

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 04/03/2010 08:10

cc - was this first time you'd slept together?

hi sj

betty - not phoaar but cheeky are generally the best ones . they're rather fun.lol

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thesouthsbelle · 04/03/2010 08:13

hi all.

just wanted to say all is swimming along here, 2 emails from gymboy both ignored. my life is sooooooo much quieter & relaxed without him in it. Hair being cut tonight as well.

CC - re the bloke, i'd be v v v tempted to text/twitter him something about the size of his man hood and also make ref to his performance but then that's a cheap shot and well - I am hot headed lol. so in short of that - walk away head held v v v high and KNOW you're better than him in every sense of the word. he's an ass wipe. eat lots of choc later and shout NEXT. (what site was it from btw?)

Hope the rest of you are ok thou.

condifencecrisis · 04/03/2010 08:17

yes, it was the first time. as i just confessed on the other thread, it wasnt just normal sex, it was kinky sex.
probably tmi, but nipple clamps, spanking and deep throat.
what more does he want on a first shag, really!

im really really fucked off. really am.

i dont want to shout next, im going to eat galaxy till i feel sick and stay away from men for a while

' you get what you pay for! @ WTF

pinksmarties · 04/03/2010 09:08

CC, that's bloody awfull, are you sure he was refering to you ? What a total wanker.

It just reinforces the idea to me that you just can't trust any of them. Its so sad.

Go easy on the galaxy.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/03/2010 10:21

cc read your thread
agree with what juicy has said
tbh i think that you have had a v.lucky escape

mrsmharket · 04/03/2010 10:24

cc that's a horrible thing for him to say sorry tweet. what a git. (i am also of the mind to twet something about him but then maybe it would be better to hold head high - and get shot of him)

as fo rme, the situation is much the same as anyone - a couple of dates but nothing special ho hum

aseriouslyblondemoment · 04/03/2010 10:53

are you sticking with the same site mrsm?

mrsmharket · 04/03/2010 11:07

am thinking that to forget the lot of them as so many are starting to charge and i can't afford to subscribe to any of them.

lou33 · 04/03/2010 11:25

that guy sounds like a prize prick, sorry he has upset you cc

i have just borrowed a friends pc to catch up quickly, though i have no real news to report, things are all good here

the puppy is doing really well, gets overly excited when the mechanic turns up and wees herself a little, though so do i so its only to be expected

i do have one teeny piece of news tho, exh saw ds2 on his birthday (at my instigation of course)and gave me a tenner first money ever since we split in nov 05

there was also the first meeting of the exh and the bf which was interesting, mechanic was not impressed by him at all but stayed in the background mostly

ds2 is pestering me to marry the mechanic too lol

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