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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (pt 17)

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Remotew · 18/01/2010 18:03

Has no-one beaten me to it yet?

Juicy sounding good.

WG old friend is worth seeing again.

Second not to arrange a meet up without me. Maybe down south in May.

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kdk · 22/02/2010 18:40

Hi eve - do you mean icmeler - I lived there for a few months prior to getting married. How old is he/what's his name and what does he do - if you don't mind me asking - might know (of) him. I have to say there are some real horror stories - there used to be a msn group called turkish loverats or something and even for me it was quite an eye-opener!

And phil - not sure where you've been looking/whether you're looking/where you live but lots of women I know are more than happy to date men with kids - suppose it might be an age thing though ...

confidencecrisis · 22/02/2010 18:45

pic of bad hair/teeth on profile now, and for a very limited time.

Phil - that is a bit of a generalisation. Life throws all sorts of rubbish at people, and sometimes people find themselves in situations ( like being on benefits) that are so far removed from anything that could have ever imagined.

agree with kdlk though, age might come into it... or just finding the right person.

kdk · 22/02/2010 18:47

can't see your profile CC

confidencecrisis · 22/02/2010 18:52

should be able to now.....

kdk · 22/02/2010 18:55

Hey, he's not that bad! I mean, I see what you mean about the teeth but we're hardly talking Shane McGowan are we? And the hair can be taken care of if necessary - stick him up on Style and Beauty, they'll sort him no problem!

Keep!

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 22/02/2010 19:05

oh hell i was expecting much worse teeth and hair than that.

keep.

he has a very nice and warm expression too.

thesouthsbelle · 22/02/2010 19:17

hello all, just a quick look for me to see where we're at.

juicy - loving the flowers girl!

apart from that i'd better catch up with you all.

oh phil - we're not all like that - tbh i'd suggest you looked at other types of ladies, or other sites (not in the south are you..... lol.

CC - hey he's not that bad, I don't mind teeth perse, but tbh I have a thing about shoes if you date someone and look relativity ok you don't wear trainers, that's my only vice, oh and nice eyes, not bothered by the rest.

Phil25 · 22/02/2010 19:30

Sorry DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE and kdk once i re-read my post it did sound like i was making a massive generalisation there because im on benifits lol what i ment to say was that i find it hard to find or only seem to know single parents who have no career aspirations in life i have tried dating sites but have been put off because i cant seem to find someone i like who will except me and the kids and i dont really just want to settle for someone who makes me just happy not be alone i want to fall in love lol i know sounds abit crazy but its true i also want to find someone who is going in the same direction as me.

Yes kdk i have been looking and still am and i want something thats going to last.

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Remotew · 22/02/2010 19:33

Phil has started another thread and a poster recommended a dating site for parents. He is on benefits, himself.

kdk I will cat you if I can.

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confidencecrisis · 22/02/2010 19:33

gosh - i didnt even look at his feet!

Hes not that bad is he, im being overly picky i think.

I think im just a shallow bitch really. going to take the pic down now as i feel a little bit guilty.

Janos · 22/02/2010 19:40

Hey up you lot, proper update time (as if you were all waiting with bated breath).

Juice, prob last w/e in March good for me. Howver I'l catch you on MSN. What's this about flowers - did you get some on Valentines or wot?

ConfidenceCrisis not seen you before on thread so I'll say hello from me. You seem to well into the spirit of things anyhow .

I don't have much to say really on the man front. Think I've given up...may concentrate on organic veg. I did hear from guess who the other day. Yep..Construction Man. Just ignored as..though I still fancy him rotten, I do not want to get dragged back into all that again. Felt bad ignoring the text but I know myself well and if I respond I'll just get drawn in.

Lot's of I's there..sounds a bit egocentric.

Kdk - know what you mean about the stroppers on dating sites. Some blokes would message 2 or 3 times. One just sent a response saying COME ON!! As if to say, how dare you not reply?

Men....

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Remotew · 22/02/2010 19:43

kdk, you don't accept CAT. He's 28 and from Izmir (Is that the same place). He's an economist (not sure what that is). Don't want to post his name.

Confidence, he looks fine. Stop being picky.

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thesouthsbelle · 22/02/2010 19:49

juicy - it's not a marathon, it's hell runner am going to try the GSR first I think thou, serious training is going to be needed from here on it - there's a big gang of us doing it who do combat - althou they're already all uber fit so I need to do some major work to catch up with them all.

hi janos - glad things are well with you & lou.

blondie - you're staying mrs - you're our beacon of hope lol. and YAY! for getting the hats out.

how's everyone else today anyhow?

I can't beleive my munchkin is 4 tomorrow.

thesouthsbelle · 22/02/2010 19:57

janos - what happened with construction bloke?

and yup - men.... idiots the lot of em I say.

Janos · 22/02/2010 20:06

Hellrunner belle - blimey that sounds scary and impressive. Mind you I think anything involving running is a bit scary...

Construction bloke is very sexy but massively flakey FWB who has been lurking about for about 8 months (since June last year). I just can't be bovvered with the mind games and text tennis.

I say that, he has always been good company and great sex but no, just too much. Don't want him disturbing my recently acquired and slightly fragile equilibrium.

Janos · 22/02/2010 20:07

Anyway the whole point of FWB is no mind games etc so that in itself tells me leave well alone.

thesouthsbelle · 22/02/2010 20:13

lol. I know am worried slightly about doing it as I have mega shin splints (was told but the army docs in Edinburgh that basically if I chose to go back to the army/running etc etc as much as I had been doing then it was highly probable my legs would end up snapping - not good!) still we shall see want to try it.

fwb - see I thought that was literally you text n see them when you want and otherwise don't bother? maybe that's where I go wrong? don't blame ya thou ignore him if you don't want to go there again.

Janos · 22/02/2010 20:20

Yes that's exactly what it's meant to be belle. However he gets under my skin a bit, hence better to ignore I feel.

Didn't know you had been in the army belle. You must be superfit! Wow.

thesouthsbelle · 22/02/2010 20:24

yeah i'd say agreed,

and ahem no not bloody likely being fit! it was 9/10 years ago now so ages, I left and went directly to being a red coat in butlins (AKA alki for 6 months straight!) my fitness is well down there and below par, should be able to get it back on track thou - just having the motivation to get off my warm cosy sofa to doing it. apparently there's a need to stop chocolate & bread as well to loose the weight, althou only another 1 stone to go.

Janos · 22/02/2010 20:46

Don't blame you. Who wants to move off the sofa in this weather?

I'm on a healthy eating kick at the moment and finding bootsdiets.com pretty good. I've lost nearly 7lb in 3 weeks so might be worth looking at?

kdk · 22/02/2010 20:50

eve - are you on facebook? Friend of Lou's?

hatesponge · 22/02/2010 20:56

wow belle, am v impressed with hellrunner! Mind you running for a bus would count as an achievement for me

no news here, hence I feel meet up/drinks with the London element of the thread is definitely overdue! Was a decision made about starting a separate thread? Or about a day/date/time?........will await further update!

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Remotew · 22/02/2010 20:58

kdk, yes on Lou's fb friends. Will find you on fb. Add you and send a message.

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confidencecrisis · 22/02/2010 21:02

well - he has called and we chatted, then he did a big sigh and he asked when he could see me again.
I said, when did he want to....
and he said ' now'

aw

have arranged cinema date for friday. Im picking him up from train station, cinema and then back to mine most likely!!!

sod the bad hair, i want to be kissed like that again!!!

DaSola · 22/02/2010 21:08

You lot don;t half talk Sorry if I don't mention everyone but still trying to work out who you all are and who you are with/not/trying to avoid lol.

Eve I kind of think Turkish man might be better left where he is, too.

How do you do a FWB thing? I just don;t think I could. I mean if I am attracted enough to someone to sleep with them then I reckon I'd want more than that.

I'm bored with parship already. It's confusing too because there are no pictures so I can;t remember who's profile I've visited

Rather nice looking bloke who sent me pics has viewed my profile again but not replied to my message. I guess I need to get some pics up, I probably broke some unspoken code about if they send you pics then you have to send them back