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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (pt 17)

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Remotew · 18/01/2010 18:03

Has no-one beaten me to it yet?

Juicy sounding good.

WG old friend is worth seeing again.

Second not to arrange a meet up without me. Maybe down south in May.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 21/02/2010 15:51

rofl
nice one
i was only duped once as you prob.remember and it was too late for me to do a runner as he spotted me and waved
i still cringe when i think of that evening
i'm sure that pmg aka inthemist used pof and she's in her 40s and in n.london
but iirc she met her now dp on frd

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 21/02/2010 15:56

afternoon all.

it's been a bit pants (ninah - yes i am an undies round the house type ) on here this wkd.

belle - very very shitty behaviour from sailor. very inconsiderate... and the way he was speaking to you yesterday and then not showing up... is exactly why we never believe a decent bloke once we they sya these types of things to us.

niah - so thai farmer has bfs -

have either of you heard from your wimps dates today yet?

as for older men... go to say... dc dad was 50 this year. and the 6 yrs we were together there was never once a problem.... saying that he was almost tea total.. and only smoked about 10 cigs a week.

however... i am rather enjoying seeing fellas my own age (ok... so by that i mean up to 10 yrs older as thats still pretty damn near my age compared to exp)... as they can go for round 2 pretty quickly.. and sometimes instantly

forces fella thinks there is an age difference between us. lol. which makes me chuckle as to me the 7yrs doesn't really count as a difference. to me thats still classed as being about the same age.

must be hard for you ladies in london

but have to admit... i find a fella in his 40s without kids a bit

bit of a warning to me he cant hold down a relationship/is workaholic/couldn't handle commitment required to be with someone who has dc by OM.

things on men front is fine here.

irish has been in contact fair bit this week. he has a bird he's seeing. told him i was seeing someone too. no details but think it's made it kinda less awkward with communication . he's actually been trying to stay sober. 5 weeks without drinking!! well.. he fell off the wagon this wkd. lol.seems odd that he text me late on fri night to admit he had ....

and... who has 3 dates in 3 months. thats pretty good going actually.i'm trying to qwork out how many i have had. in past year. somewhere in region of 10-15.

forces guy has just left for his thing. no msn till next sat .

kdk · 21/02/2010 16:10

I'm always a bit dubious about men who say they haven't got kids anyway as two friends of mine have met guys who said they were childless - what they meant was they had upped and left their kids and had b*gger all to do with them - don't think either of them got that that was not the same as NOT having kids ...

aseriouslyblondemoment · 21/02/2010 16:23

glad all's good with you
deary me is irish a reformed character now
will you still be able to text/call forces?
kdk i think men who have reached a certain age without kids or even worse without having either having been married or living with someone V ODD and it's a huge red flag
i actually reached the point with internet dating where i actively avoided men unless they were baggage free ie no divorcees,no kids and def not 'separated'

kdk · 21/02/2010 16:36

have to say separated is always a bit of a no-no for me as well - unless as is the case with a friend who's been separated for more than 10 years now - his x and he have just never bothered getting divorced ...

The never having been married/lived with someone is a bit of a giveaway that they are either extreme loonytunes or have serious commitment issues ...

surprised anyone ever meets anyone with our strict criteria!

aseriouslyblondemoment · 21/02/2010 16:40

but why tho?
i don't think i'm that fussy lol

kdk · 21/02/2010 16:51

why what - fussy?

Speaking for myself, think it's because I'm just not prepared to settle for anyone that doesn't meet my (admittedly) exacting standards - and probably that's because I've made a lot of mistakes in the past and not prepared to make them again, and more importantly, not THAT bothered by being alone.

If I didn't have the kids I'd probably be far more prepared to take a punt on guys I'm pretty sure are unsuitable or that are unlikely to result in anything more than a date but that is not the scenario so often I can't be bothered.

I've been out with blokes who aren't very intelligent (by their own admission I hasten to add) and for me it just doesn't work - too much of an intellectual gap somehow - and one that for me is as important as massive age gaps either way where you get huge cultural/shared knowledge gaps.

Why all this - don't know .... but more and more thinking that the internet isn't going to be the answer for me!

aseriouslyblondemoment · 21/02/2010 17:02

lol
the why is...why have they never bothered to divorce?
and yes thickos are a no goer too
isn't it just awful of me that i can somehow just tell that a man is thick purely by looking at his pic?
mind you i'm expecting that ninah will agree with me
i'm also put-off by seeing pics of them in tasteless houses with awful carpets and wallpaper etc

just couldn't go there...

Betty79 · 21/02/2010 17:18

Omg think ive heard it all now, been chatting to this bloke off speeddating on fb, he's said he's a porn star, thought he was joking at first but dont think he is shame cos he looked nice lol

will be back later properly when I've stopped laughing!!

aseriouslyblondemoment · 21/02/2010 17:36

pmsl
ohh jeeze it makes you wonder doesn't it?

did you have a good night out btw?
twas v lively on here last night

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 21/02/2010 18:10

awful houses also put me off.

and there def has to be an intullectual matching. not saying they have to be educated to a specific degree... but they do have to possess a brain.

betty

porn star.. how lovely.. wtf would someone admit that... really... its not going to get them a date with any respectable woman is it?

asbm - he has his phone. but can take it out on ranges... phones and guns are not a good mix .. so should still be able to do the odd text at night. but not alot in a dorm of 20 guys.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 21/02/2010 18:13

lol @ phones and guns!
well i guess that kind of rules out phone sex then doesn't it?

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 21/02/2010 18:20

haha... yes.. i've been warned not to send anything too descriptive as it'll be awkward if he gets a hard on in a dorm full of guys

aseriouslyblondemoment · 21/02/2010 18:23

aww bless him lol

kdk · 21/02/2010 18:34

am not sure whether tob be or at self-professed porn star ...

Not sure why they never divorced - think they got married because of religious pressure (they're both Jewish) and when they split up, didn't want to upset family etc and now it's been so long and neither have wanted to remarry so .... just not bothered. Have to say if exh hadn't been such a twunt, I probably wouldn't have bothered - I know for sure I'll never get married again!

Totally agree with looking thick - not sure what it is but you know it when you see it - think holding fish is often a give-away!

aseriouslyblondemoment · 21/02/2010 18:38

oh god the holding a fish shot!

kdk · 21/02/2010 18:39

That or standing next to what they think is a flash car that so obviously isn't theirs ... or the bare chest look - taken by mobile phone in a mirror!!!

aseriouslyblondemoment · 21/02/2010 18:42

or in front of 70's style mirrored wardrobes..mmm lush

pinksmarties · 21/02/2010 18:47

Hi all, been lurking but too tired / lazy/ ...........to post much. I only type with one finger plus I can't spell which I'm so ashamed of but cba to keep looking up words in the dictionary. Can you do spell check on this ?

Totally agree with everything you all say about internet dating. I'm on match and soulmates and its just a constant sourse of dissapointment all round.

Sick of the daily mugshots staring back at me every morning.

They're just vile standing there in their horrid TKmax striped t shirts in thier depressing looking living rooms like dirty old men.

I went to the bother of paying for profesional photos to be done which I'm surprisingly happy with as i hate my photo being taken but the men seem to make no effort at all.

Its all so depressing. I work from home so zilch chance of meeting anyone in RL and even if I did, what would I do with him ?

I wouldn't even want him.

DS1 says it's evolution, men are here to spread their seed and move on, women are here to raise the children. Its part of his psychology A'level.

I really think that men are wierd and undesierable on so many levels so best to stop thinking about them.

Just so unfair that h fucked off and starting new life with gf and i'm left holding the fort and everyone in it whilst numbing the pain as much as poss with too many ADs.

Oh dear, sorry just really pissed off because of twunt today.

Kdk ( can't do that bold thing), are you still having a meet up i London ?

You mentioned maybee after half term.

If you still are then I'd love to come.

Much as I moan, I'm so gratefull for the things I have. It could be so much worse.x

kdk · 21/02/2010 18:48

or the old classic, lying on a bed with black satin sheets, natch, legs apart .... VOMIT

Actually, and being brutally honest, I sometimes get very angry that some guys even have the temerity to send me messages ... I even sent one a message back, saying "would you approach me in real life?" he said no, so I asked why he'd done it on the net and he said he just thought he'd have a go and that I might be 'desperate' .....

pinksmarties · 21/02/2010 18:52

OMG the bold thing worked !

pinksmarties · 21/02/2010 18:58

and I hate when they say what they like to eat."pizza, pasta, Chineze, curries always good"

Fuck off, I don't give a shit, boring twat.

Do they really think we're interested ?

pinksmarties · 21/02/2010 19:00

Going up to do some washing, need to calm down and breath deeply. x

kdk · 21/02/2010 19:17

hiya smarties - I've got the washing up to do - and getting the kids' stuff ready for tomorrow and a lesson to plan - rather hang out on here though! Still hoping to meet up - Wednesday or Thursday in central London is good for me - hopefully anyone/everyone else can express their preference - Sponge, SCL, pirate - can't remember who else said they would be interested - maybe we should start a separate thread?

Betty79 · 21/02/2010 19:55

Well I ended up talking to the porn star on msn for about and hourjust for a laugh and cos I thought he was funny! did tell him i wouldnt be dating a porn star lol

Juice-lol at no descriptive messages, poor thing. So is he still being as keen, cos I know u were a bit wary at first?

belle-Grr to that bloomin sailor, not 2nd chances there def!

asbm-Must be bloomin exhausting trying to keep your house like a show home! Have u had much interest?

pinksmarties-I think we all feel a bit like that somedays

eve-that salesman sounds like he has a very high opinion of himself! does make me think its why these men are still single, cos there are reasons lol!

kdk-Shame u havent had much luck on the sites you've been on, I've never been on the ones you pay for well so far anyway cos cant see the blokes round here paying!