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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (pt 17)

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Remotew · 18/01/2010 18:03

Has no-one beaten me to it yet?

Juicy sounding good.

WG old friend is worth seeing again.

Second not to arrange a meet up without me. Maybe down south in May.

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piratecat · 24/01/2010 21:40

gah, kdk, i don't understand.

Remotew · 24/01/2010 21:47

God that article is bad. Badly written and depressing. Perhaps we already have the child and enough experience to know that Mr Uninspiring isn't going to make us happy or he wouldn't be an ex.

Also are we really looking for 'the one' or just interesting company and great sex and if it goes anywhere then that's a bonus. Well that is the case for me.

just for Juice and Janos, and any other Scot that I haven't identified yet.

Juice sounds like you had a terrific night, hope you made the best of that hotel. The bra incident sounds like something I would do.

Waving to everyone else.

Looking forward to my date on Wednesday night which will be a welcome escape for what is a horrible week ahead of me workwise, have to do 5 days. Maybe throw a sickie on Thursday so I can have a lovely morning under the duvet.

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DONTtouchMUMSfestiveJUICE · 24/01/2010 21:59

eve and at duvet day?... is your date with saleman? did i missed you posting you were seeing him again?

Remotew · 24/01/2010 22:12

Juice, glad you met someone nice last night. Yes my date is with its Salesman. I blew him off last night as he rang early evening because his plans had changed but I suggested mid week, this is after protesting that I don't play on a work night. Was tired last night but couldn't stand waiting until the weekend. .

KDK it's not always as easy as you imagine this internet dating game. Someone nice will come along soon.

Wondering how Lou is, she must be busy as I haven't seen her of fb either this weekend.

WG what's happening with your fit friend from frumpy teenland?

Pirate, teeth need to be presentable.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 24/01/2010 22:13

have to agree that that is a fairly depressing read
and def agree with your take on it eve
glad to hear things are moving forward with salesman and lol @ the sicky
pc that's a shame but i'm another one who finds nasty teeth a huge red flag
don't know if you remember the fella with the gums who juicy met once?

Remotew · 24/01/2010 22:30

asbm I'm happy to carry on seeing him whilst it feels nice but don't want to get ahead of myself. Have come to the conclusion that I am just pleased to be invited out by someone I like a lot.

Everything still great with you and your nm?

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hatesponge · 24/01/2010 22:40

juice - wow at hotel, and at incident...is exactly the sort of thing I would do - today for example I was on the Tube, pushing my wheely suitcase off the escalator, didnt push it far enough, kept walking and therefore tripped over it and fell flat on my face. Was helped up by several teenagers who were bravely trying, but failing, not to laugh

eve - good news re wed's date...and thursday as duvet day

pirate - the teeth thing is important, understand where you're coming from. I dont expect a hollywood smile but v v crooked/missing/uncared for teeth is a bit of a no-no. having said that the big love of my life had almost no teeth of his own (various sporting accidents in his youth)...however he did have a full set of implants, which you cant tell from the real thing!

kdk - cant believe the match guy hasnt messaged you - maybe he's been away for a few days and not checked emails?

Well my date for Saturday is on and we have exchanged numbers

whethergirl · 24/01/2010 23:33

Firstly, teeth. Met someone from POF, he had 6 photos up - all with mouth firmly closed - then I met him and his teeth - they were very stained, had several wide gaps, wonky and goofy to boot. Now I am very weary of closed mouthed photos on POF.

Thanks for asking abouteve, fit friend (lol @ from frumpy teenland) was supposed to come today but ended up looking after his friend whose granny died. So, he is taking Weds off work to come over! He's been very sweet on phone, keeps asking if I'm ok and if there's anything I need, what toy should he buy DS, says he can get me a printer (saw me on FB begging for one) etc. Speaking on phone, still feel very close to him, we shared a lot of childhood together. Oh and enjoy Weds/Thurs abouteve - good planning!

Re the article on "finding the one" (or not). Must admit I find it a bit annoying when people say they are looking for the one. Idiot Loser (who dumped me on NYD)(sorry but Idiot Loser is what I changed his name on my phone to at the time) and I got on really well, he told me he thought I was one of the sweetest/caring/loving women he'd ever met, I made him laugh more than anyone else, that I was sexy (always full of compliments) etc etc but that he was looking for the one and even though he thought I was fantastic, I was not "THE ONE". WTF?? I think he's been watching too many films. I didn't exactly day dream about us growing old together, but why stop something that's going so well? He even changed his title heading on POF from "Looking for girl next door" to "Looking for the one" after we split Mind you he was a perfectionist, and I certainly am not perfect (no-one is...shhh don't tell him)

whethergirl · 24/01/2010 23:34

blimey, sorry about epistle

piratecat · 25/01/2010 07:56

hatesponge, implants would be good!

DONTtouchMUMSfestiveJUICE · 25/01/2010 17:55

so... ahem.... forces gentleman is asking me to go out to where he's based to visit.

seriously contemplating it as dc dad is thinking about taking dc to his parents for gp birthday and ds birthday is about same timein few weeks.

Betty79 · 25/01/2010 18:40

wow juice-where is he based? he must be keen

DONTtouchMUMSfestiveJUICE · 25/01/2010 18:57

germany at the moment.

ryanair flies from edi to a nice little town nearby where he knows a nice hotel for the wkd.

Betty79 · 25/01/2010 19:01

sounds very nice

hatesponge · 25/01/2010 22:34

juice that sounds great...I'd definitely go if I were you & you can co-ordinate it with the time when dc are away with their dad

meanwhile question for you all: to what extent would it put you off a man if they didnt have their own home and/or car...?

Remotew · 25/01/2010 23:03

Car might bother me. Own home not so much nowadays. I used to think it was important but then realised that if they do it will always be their home and mine will always be mine. IYSWIM. Last few guys I have gone out with have had lovely houses, one had two, but as I'm not planning on moving in with anyone its irrelevant.

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Remotew · 25/01/2010 23:10

Thinking back I thought it was important when I was younger, the him owning his own home, as I maybe wanted to have the full on relationship and another child. It would have been extra security.

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hatesponge · 25/01/2010 23:11

Eve thats a good point re house. i just feel its a bit for a man of 40 to be living in a room in a shared house.....but then I think am I being a real snob about it?

I can probably excuse the car a little more, because living where he does he wouldnt need one. and also I dont have a car either so that would make me a right hypocrite!

whethergirl · 25/01/2010 23:55

I totally know where you're coming from hatesponge, that would make me a bit too, (esp re house), like why haven't they got their life together by now? However it would make me a complete hypocrite as I have neither! Depends on circumstances too - sometimes it may be they had their own house but lost it for whatever reason. It's not something I'm snobbish about with people in general AT ALL, but when it comes to men in a romantic sense, I find it a bit off putting. However, if I met and decided I liked the bloke first, THEN found out, I'd find a way of justifying it in my head and it wouldn't put me off if I really liked him.

DONTtouchMUMSfestiveJUICE · 26/01/2010 08:23

re house and car?

do you mean living on his own? or owning.

i dont have a problem with someone who rents rather than having bought.

i dont mind if they have lost a home due to a split and moved in with friends/family as long as its temporary and they have intention of getting their own place once they get back on their feet financially iykwim.

i do have an issue if they move back in with parents... and have no intention of moving back out unless its in with a woman to look after them and do the housework

house share... particularly if its in an area where property is very expensive..... this i actually think is good thing. shows they aren't stupid with cash and willing to compromise.

lets face it.. everyone would rather have a choice of their own pad. but if its not financially viable , it's a good compromise to share a let or even a mortgage these days with a friend.

as for the car...hmmm.... i've said before i'm not keen if they dont have a car unless they are very willing with public transport. i dont mind doing the running about. but they need to make some effort. not a blooming taxi for them.

and.... i'm not saying the car has to be high end, or new,

but got to be looked after. not one of those when you get in and cant see the back seat for junk food wrappers and shite.

but... suppose i would prefer a newer car too if given a choice. dont really want to be going about in a banger no matter how clean.

Remotew · 26/01/2010 11:04

I used to get put off with someone renting rather than owning. Like I say wouldn't bother me now that I know thats it re children and resonsibilites.

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LouIsOnAHighwayToHell · 26/01/2010 11:14

Morning

Well I am back after a long hiatus in the loved up world and I thought I would ask you knowledgeable ladies for some advice. Kind of a WWYD thing.
Anyhoo...
Been seeing GeekBoy for a few months now and everything (well nearly) was fabulous. We only saw each other on weekends due to my work committments but it was always wonderful. We spoke daily etc and really clicked and I could see myself settling with him. Kind of felt it from day one.

Anyway, went away for Christmas for 3 weeks and at his request spent a week at his house while I had the builders in.
During this time he had a test for Crohnes disease and has been practically incommunicado since then. No texts, calls emails etc. I did ask what was happening with us and he said he needed to sort himself out first (oh and he missed my 30th birthday, sent no flowers or card as he was ill with a cold/flu).

So I said that I could understand that. He did not want to break up but still I barely hear from him. I am in no way a clingy person so do not call or text 1000 per day but he has not even replied to texts asking if he is ok.

So do I perservere as I really have fallen for him (he has said the same) or do I break it off?

I really do not know what to do and know that the gurus here know all!

Thanks

Remotew · 26/01/2010 11:30

Lou, did you used to love aeroplane jelly?

I don't know what Crohnes disease is and how it affects a person. Did he test postive?

It's heartbreaking when you meet someone you can envisage your life with and this happens. I would try and start thinking about the future without him but tell him you will be there for him if he needs you, then leave it. Don't call or text him and see what happens. You cannot keep hanging on but you will get your answer soon enough before making a break.

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LouIsOnAHighwayToHell · 26/01/2010 11:41

Yes that was me.
He has not had the diagnosis. That is this afternoon. It is not life threatning just means a big change to lifestyle etc
I know I am going to have to move on but I really don't want to. We had spoken about marraige and babies so this is nearly breaking my heart being ignored.
I will just have to wait and see what happens.

Remotew · 26/01/2010 11:50

All you can do is let him know you want to be with him.

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