Where are all the fit,interesting and available men Pt.15

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jesus it's still running lol...

bless her , i bet it was really sweet

eve, works party, empty flat ONLY SHAVE ONE LEG!!!!

i just surprised mechanic with a quick call, he seemed pleased

asked if he would be allowed to kiss me when we meet tomorrow

i said no cos im not meeting you til weds

lol lou sounds like there is potential there, so where did u find the mechanic?

he found me , not on a dating site but through a site we are both members of

he like an aa man only not for the aa or the rac

he does the usual breakdowns but is also one of the people called out to attend motorway rta's

which means he is on call 24 hrs mon - fri even when his shift is done, and every other saturday too

Ooh very good lou

not sure i'll be seeing mrjack this week, said he's trying to get lots of work things tied up before xmas(he's self employed) and is away at wkend, not fair that somepeople have a life lol

i'm only meeting him for about an hour and a half, just a toe in the water so to speak

Help advice needed! Mr Yorke has turned into a bit of a nightmare. I saw him briefly yesterday and although wasn't planning to say this to him told him I wasn't comfortable entering into something with him given his home circs. He has told me that he lives with someone but they live separate lives blah blah. I asked him whether she would be happy with him seeing someone.

Since then he has sent me two long emails and two texts basically acting all hurt and wounded and saying in caps he is angry that I would draw conclusions about his personal life. I haven't replied but tbh if he makes this much of something like this what does that say about him.

What do you think - best not to reply at all or reply saying I don't know the ins and outs of his domestic life but simply not comfortable with entering into this type of thing.

FFS it should be me being hurt and wounded not him. Given he sought me out by giving me his no. etc and has been completely OTT since then!!

Hmm not sure about that one, u were only being honest with him. I dont think i'd be comfortable with that kind of relationship either, wether it is exactly as he says.

Thanks Betty - I can't think of any suitable reply for him atm so won't be responding until I can.

It rings alarm bells to me that he would behave like this - ie making a complete drama out of it all and acting all hurt and wounded.

It's completely out of all proportion. I think he didn't like it because I said something clear and simple whereas he tends to talk about things in a very fancy and abstract way.

I am also worried he might be a bit stalkerish.

I also said I wasn't judging in fact its because I've been in that situation before I have no wish to do it again! IYSWIM

SCL - run like the wind and dont look back. any reply will only encourage him to maintain contact. and to be fair, you have already had the serious chat saying your not interested so not like your developing broken finger syndrome. it's already finished. you did it in civilised manner with a truthful and honest reason. ... stalkerish i would agree.. he's sent you 2 emails? and you haven't replied to either??.. do you think he'll give up or keep trying?

My instinct is not to reply.

Unfortunately he works at my place so might bump into him from time to time.

His last text was quite nasty and was all about him being hurt and angry about me making assumptions about his personal life.

The fact is he is still in a relationship with someone and from what I could gather she still thinks she is even if he doesn't.

oh i've just realised this is guy you work with.

i'd still ignore. do you work in same department?

make sure you keep all nasty texts. save them thru out of inbox and into folders of phone. you never know. he might cause trouble at work. better to be safe than sorry.

dont reply, u did the adult thing being upfront early on if he cant take that he needs to sort out his own circumstances so that future potential women dont do the same to him!

Oh shit have deleted the two today but will keep anymore.

He doesn't work in same dept but works on same site.

Yes I would involve work if things got nasty.

I think his angry reaction means he is defensive about his situation, don't you.

yeah def think he sounds defensive about it

ignore him totally

i was just leaving the supermarket with dd1 about an hour ago and i heard someone call my name

turned round and it was the first guy i dated after i split with my h!

we had a hug and a quick catch up, bless him he's lovely, it was really good to see him

we have mutual friends in common which is how we met, i told him off because he hadnt been to see them recently

mechanic has been in touch a dozen or so times as well, says he is freezing

aww well at least ur still friendly with that guy lou, and mechanic sounds keen!

i havent seen him for ages, must be over a year, and only then for about 30 seconds, but whenever we have bumped into each other i always get a massive hug

he couldnt believe the size of dd1, asked after the other kids , talked about our mutual friends, updated me about him and his gf , that kind of thing

it was really good seeing him

mechanic just sent me a text saying he is going to call me in a bit

he better hurry up i am about to watch a film

sin - in some ways I do understand his POV, HOWEVER that' is only as XH/I's set up. but then again we don't really sleep in the same house a the same time - I think you're doing the right thing tbh - trust your gut on this one.

Lou - agree mechanic does sound keen.

have been talking to the sailor on FB chat - hmmm more pics of him there yummy! hehehe lol. anyhow said i'd drop him a text at some point. gymboy is meant to be ringing me after his running - so far nada - but that's not uncommon if they go for a long one. was thinking pics of pool tonight with him as the boy is with mum.

hope everyone's ok.

well he rung me and we had a chat (bit tense) - basically he said we had only ever met for about an hour but I then brough that up out of the blue. However he negated to mention all his declarations of feelings and constant texting etc. But basically he felt it was too much too soon on my part!

He also said that he didn't pry into my situation and that he would manage his own situationand that didn't affect me. But it could potentially couldn't it?

But he didn't want to fight with me over it. No said I what would be the point.

In fact its a real revelation to me to be on the receiving end of such intense behaviour (in the very distant past it would have been me doling it out - karma eh) and it has made me wonder if I have appeared like that to exbf when he has told me to back off. God would have hated that but actually difft circs!

I have blown him out for a meeting later in the week and will see if he can calm down a bit.

I still feel completely within my rights to voice the reservations I have. Cos we all know what's its like when we become more involved. Harder to pull away.

Have a look in your Trash folder SCL - you might find your deleted emails are still there.

He sounds creepy and weird and controlling. Run away!

Hmm so he's tried to turn it round on you!

totally agree with spice there - why exactly is he wanting to depend his position to you? surely it's up to you i you walk away form the relationship/friendship with him not him.

am I right in thinking you've just dated/met up 2/3 times if that??

sounds like he wants you to understand his POV and go along with waht he wants regardless of what you're saying - run away abusive men start that way!

scl - ditto betty... he's turned it round on you. run run run run

i've done my good samaritan deed for the year. wont expand. but i tell you something... i'm due some pretty great karma come back for this one.

helped out a neighbour in need. who i barely know. could have so easily said no, but i would have hated the tables to be turned and her my last resort and she said no.

one more full sleep then off to see my friend in london thru the night i leave tomorrow night. wooo hooo. super excited.

south - as long as your not lying to anyone there's no real harm in meeting sailor. but if you have to tell fibs then that could come back and bite you on the asse.