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my psycho exe called the police to stop me from 'ruining his relationships'!!

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Littleblue · 16/08/2009 22:08

I was ironing quietly at the time..i was warned to be an adult and not harass my exe partners new girlfriends into leaving him...

I mean,im obviously obsessed with him,as i left him because hes a violent nutter..never ONCE exchanged a word with his subsequent ladyfriend until after she threw the nutter out when he did the same things to her he did to me,and those before me.I gave her the opportunity to keep her and my kids in touch,as they had been told they were bloody siblings!
The one he started on a few weeks later was a friend of mine through our daughters infants school,all i said to her was to be bloody careful,she knew before she met him i had lived with domestic violence.When she started seeing him,i told her if she was in his life,she wasnt in mine,i was cool and courteous about it...end of...then she dumped him,and ive got the police on the phone!? surely they cant ring me everytime hes dumped and blame me at his behest?the worlds gone raving mad!!

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Littleblue · 16/08/2009 22:10

...my 'friend was seeing him for a couple of mnths after i told her i wasnt in her life while she was in his.....

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jamestkirk · 16/08/2009 22:32

you ever heard the phrase 'that blokes a nutter' ?

i'll be sure to call the rozzers next time ive a relationship go awry - is never my fault after all

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Littleblue · 16/08/2009 23:25

lol...hes cracked tho,hope my irony is obvious,ive been running for 2 years,on the spot it seems

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GypsyMoth · 16/08/2009 23:28

i'd ask the police what grounds they are contacting you on? and ask them if there authority extends that far,also dropping into the convo that you'd like chief constables contact details to verify that they were ok to call you up with crap like this!!

Remotew · 16/08/2009 23:34

Cannot believe the RL police would take him seriously. Ask to see their evidence.

SmallScrewCap · 16/08/2009 23:42

Um... are you SURE you've got the police on the phone there, Littleblue?

Ask for shoulder number, incident/log number, and for a number to call back on next time.

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Littleblue · 16/08/2009 23:50

you have a point..but because of him,i know the local coppers well enough,and also he has NO friends...nothing,he suckers onto passing vulnerable women til they get wise and detach him.
I am going to go to the police and discuss their place in his harrassment of me,they are supposed to protect,he can still make me feel really ropey mentally unfortunately.Ive spent the last two years putting life back together,and he still has the right to do this?its very depressing

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Littleblue · 16/08/2009 23:56

im of a mind to have a fairly strong convo with whoever is in charge locally,their domestic violence officer was in my phone til i got away from him,i was to call her day or night when he next kicked off...it feels like a chat with general staff is needed,hes done this 3 times now

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SmallScrewCap · 16/08/2009 23:58

well if you know it was definitely the police, then it would be a good idea to get in touch with them and have a chat about it all.

You might have to jump through a few hoops, but see if you can get a visit from a community officer and talk it through.

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Littleblue · 17/08/2009 00:00

good idea,first thing tomos...my solicitor is too flippin expensive,and he never takes any notice anyways..

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SmallScrewCap · 17/08/2009 00:05

Yeah, it's possible that he has been pestering your local station and they have got to the point where they want to ring up and check it out - it's probably not so much that they are taking his side, more that they want him to quieten down and leave them to get on with, you know, actual crimes

Good luck. Try and approach it as "I wonder if you can help me?" rather than a "WTF do you think you're playing at?!" if you want a quicker result!

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Littleblue · 17/08/2009 00:45

its madness isnt it...i had decided on somewhere between those 2 approaches,tbh...thanks ssc x

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Littleblue · 17/08/2009 08:39

The kids said my 'friend' was there as ever at the weekend,im really wound up that shes so brazenly ignored what me and my children endured with him..what he does is his business,but when he kicks off at me,shes at his side..and she was confused that i said we could no longer be friends in the same way.She told him stuff i asked her not to,so i told her never to speak to me again..i dont think thats unreasonable,and it most certainly isnt stalking!

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Littleblue · 17/08/2009 09:03

My teenagers,from my first marriage,hate him,wont see him..and hes followed them both down the road

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jamestkirk · 19/08/2009 22:17

hey little blue - maybe you live in a crime free area so the local plod put all the weirdo complaints in a hat(bobbys 'elmet obviously) and draw out the ones to chase up. and you keep winning - how lucky is that?...or maybe thats a bit too flippant...hope your sense of humour is holding out, cos you just know he'll get dumped soon

seriously tho. you probably should have a word with someone - not a solicitor, but one of the bods that deal with the abuse malarky, just to put them in the picture.

oldraver · 20/08/2009 21:58

I would be having a word with the police as to why they are bothering you with such trivia. It could go against you in the future if its on record that the police had to 'have a word' with you so you need to get it sorted and an apology or something from them to say they have no issue with you

Oh and how come women STILL seem to find it hard to get the police interested in harrasment but as soon as some bloke gets his knickers in a twist they're on the phone

JJsandcat · 21/08/2009 11:53

Do the cops not have real issues to attend to?? Like stopping knife crime and so forth..

Oldraver has a point: as you were a victim of DV it is sad to see that a man's word/lie is being followed up but a battered woman is seen as a hysterical so-and-so that had it coming...

Would definitely have a word with them and not be intimidated.

PS: Your ex friend must be bloody mad to go for him after seeing how he abused you. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

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