morning all,
llaj - i always wait for them to ask initially. and tbh this all depends on their current situ.
for example.
morangie asked first day of mailing as he was new to internet dating. told him need to know him bit better, i did ask him for a coffee spur of moment last sunday but he had no car so he's rearranged for this sun(possible).
cocktail spent almost 1 week with daily email convo, asked for my phone number. then spent a day of non stop text then he arranged a date. rock solid, deffo meeting type one for sat.what we're doing is yet tbc
tigger asked on 3rd day of email tennis (never online same time, so were many hrs between emails), i have accepted, tried msn, but never on computer same time tbh.progressed to text.leaving the arranging of the date strictly to him for this one. he's just that type.
golddust is going on boys hols. so i think(not sure), that he might be interested and holding out till after his few weeks hols. or he may not fancy it. either way i'll leave contact and date asking to him.
pirate - i would do the asking if i weren't already rather booked up. perhaps after this wkd i might if he hasn't already.
so just trying to point out. there really isn't a stead fast method. just what suits and when you feel ready to meet them. its fine to say no and ask for more chat. and its also fine to jump in and ask yourself if you think perhaps the other person is shy or scared you will say no, so they keep bottling it.
but some men do like to be the ones "in charge" so to speak, or at least let them think they are by letting them do the initial asking and the chasing.