Where have all the fit and intersting men gone part 10 (part 10...already?!)

[Janos]

Yay, I get to start this one!

Anyways hey to Dee and mousie, the more the merrier I say

hello all!
quiet on here is the heat getting to us all?!
well had a lovely time yesterday at the wedding
and yes met parents and all his mates
stomach back to normal now jeeze had a right dicky tum yesterday
hope everyone's ok
lou are you feeling better?

Hell. Hope you're feeling better now Lou.

lcl - what do you mean by position with ex? Do you mean with dds? He sees them to take them out on jolly day trips once every 2-3 weeks. He was (in the end) main income earner & at first was willing to pay enough to keep things 'normal' at home but he's not so keen to do that now (personally I think it's because I was not so keen for him to continue to come round when he fancied for a roast & a family fun day, or holiday together & then go back to his other responsibility free life with the ow) & has drastically reduced income (there's a recession(or not playing his game!)) so will need to sort that out. The dd's seem mostly fine with it all - in fact they think things much better now. I seem to be the only one who's having a tough time of it! Do miss him so much even if he has been a complete #@##@#!
Going to walk the dog now. . . oh. . . dd2 & I witnessed a cat in it's death throws yesterday & I keep having flashes of it. We did stop to help the poor thing but there was nothing we could do & it died by the road. Was on our way to Romford - place makes me shudder at best of times - have never had a trouble free journey there & never go there by choice.

Lol! meant to say hello not hell!!

dee

afternoon all,

busy wkd here. just popped home for a change then gotta godo supermarket before dc return.

asbm - glad everything went well at the wedding. it must be rather serious then in his friends and families eyes??

were they nice?

hi rj!
hope you're having a good one
blimey ex is having them late today lol?!
yes they all seemed nice,and he's obv a much loved and respected bloke so all good in my eyes
not sure if they think it's serious or not tbh as obv i don't know what has been discussed but im told that they've noticed just how happy he is since he's been seeing me

aw bless that lovely.

ex's mum and dad came over today for ex's sons wedding on wed. so he's pretending to be the perfect dad obviously.

but get this. ds and dd aren't invited to their own brothers wedding.

aparently no children allowed. but rumour has it they made up that rule so they could have an excuse for ds and dd not to go.

what?!
but they're his siblings fgs!
now this is sad to hear
hope you're bearing up

asbm - really makes no difference to me. luckily the dc are too young to realise they haven't been invited. but when they are older it will be ex and his grown dc who can explain why they never felt fit to invite them.

it'll come back to bite them on the asse one day. karma and all that. so no point of me kicking up a fuss really. good thing is that it really shows them all up for the ignorant folk they are.

a few people have already been pretty shocked as assumed they would be going and when they heard they weren't impressed.

i am still under the weather but hoping i will pick up cos i have funeral to go to tomorrow

I always thought the no kids rule at weddings was not applicable for immediate family. What does ds & dd think about not being invited?

That's nice asbm, you must be having a positive effect.

Anyone would think I've cut and pasted picture of my face to topless one of Jordan the amount of references to my tits in messages from lusty POFers. Will have to put a pic of Nanny Mcfee on there instead!

Oh rj just read your latest post. You're right. not worth stressing over if the kids are not affected.

This post should be retitled 4 weddings & a funeral!
Hope you do feel better lou. It's never nice to have to attend a funeral. If it was someone close, I hope it's not too difficult a day for you.

oh god I didn't sleep at all last night, think I finally dropped off about 6 am. Have the period from hell now it's finally arrived.

Am up now and taking ds2 and three of his mates to the pictures. Hopefully I will drop off.

Sorry to hear you're not well Lou.

and just back from two and half hours of transformers which has given me a headache - was hoping for a sleep in the cinema but it was freezin!

eww scl those late stressed over ones always do
rj its v sad but at least one of you is an adult here
dee ohh dear lol

i'm addicted to this

morning everyone

did you all enjoy you wkd's?

lou - good luck with funeral. did you see dark horse last night?

scl - did you see samename?

itm - hows things going with marathon man? can he be classed as nm?

llaj - so...who are you still talking to from the sites?pilot??

asbm - i'm assuming now you have met his folks that actionman is now bf?

eve, nervous and dee - have you been doing any looking on any sites?

eve - did you ever hear from captain after you bumped into him?

hope i've not forgot anyone?

my fishing is rather odd. there was 3, then 2 disappeared. another few arrived on scene, then the lost ones reappeared after hectic wkds.

so last night i was mailing about 6. very bloody confusing. hoping a few fall away naturally.

morning to all you lovely ladies, glad to see the thread is still running on and on and on and on ..........

Right, I need your help ladies, please help me try to rationalise my reactions to the behavior of the ex.

Ok just for those that don't know my story, short version ... ex left me and dcs 8 months ago, said that there wasn't anyone else he just needed to find himself (the same old, same old rubbish)

In feb he moves into a new flat and starts to take the dcs on a regular basis, with my encouragement, because whatever happens between us I really don't want it to affect the dcs and we have both agreed on this.

We also agreed that if either of us met a new partner that we would discuss it with the other so that we could let the dcs know in the best possible way.

Well what actually happened was that my dcs met a "friend" from daddys work in Feb (he probably was having an emotional affair with her prior to leaving us!)

So he introduced her without consulting me and created a difficult situation for the dcs and I, of which I had to handle extremely delicately.

This pissed me off big time and it still gets me all riled up every time I think about it, cos he is just a selfish ba*d, brain in pants etc......

Ok I am in a fledgling relationship (marathon man) and have had a fabulous weekend. However as soon as the dcs mentioned that they had spent the weekend with her and her dcs, everything went flat!!!!!

I don't want to feel like this, I want to be indifferent to them and their sad lives, why is it bothering me that they were playing happy families? I am really happy in every other aspect of my life, I shouldn't care what they do but I do

Help me get my head around this guys, how can I stop this happening to me?

Any advice greatly appreciated oh wise ones.

Inthemists, just logged on and I didn't want to leave your post unanswered there.

I really do sympathise, do you know I was furious when XP moved on and set himself up in a new relationship so very quickly. What hurt me wasn't that the relationship was over (cos to be frank I was glad to be rid) but that he was so quick to be playing 'happy families' elsewhere. Married within 18 months of our split!

However now - to be honest - I feel pretty sorry for his new wife, because I know what he's like. He hasn't changed and will be doing the same to her as he did to me (bullying, destroying self esteem, making her dependent on him etc). Well of course I don't know that but it's a pretty safe bet.

Sorry, much practical advice there, is there? Lots of sympathy though. My split was nearly 4 years ago now and it was very tough to start with so I do understand.

Also I look at XP and think what the hell did I ever see in YOU?

That's a good feeling I must say.

Now I need some advice myself.

Met a nice guy on POF, chatting away, he wants a date on Friday eve. Now he's a surgeon no less and seems like a very nice bloke so far (in so much as you can tell from a 2 hour chat on MSN).

But...what the hell is a surgeon doing on POF? No bad vibes here, I'm just a little hmmmm

thanks , i am leaving in a minute for it

didnt see darkhorse no, i probably wont til at least friday

that's ok though because i need tme to think if this is worthwhile or what i want (starting to have doubts)

lou - is that you going to funeral? Hope it all goes ok and not too stressful.

Time to think always good.

janos.... we're in scotland remember. scottish guys are too tight and embarassed to go on better sites. is this the first decent professional you have come across on pof?? that i would be suprised at.

of the people i'm yacking to there is an MD, Dr, library assistant, barman, farmer/port operator, IT contractor, lawyer and an accountant.

oh... i've just realised i'.m chatting to 8, not 6.

POF up here is busy, i tried FRD and in the 3 months of my membership there was not 1 single new person joined up. i'm guessing other sites in our area will be similar.

itm - forgot to say, i have no experience in this so cant help. i'm looking forward to the day ex gets a new target to pray on and i can get some peace tbh.

so no help to you i'm afraid.