Hi
Looking for a bit of advice - ex has started to have dc's overnight by himself after 1 year of being separated.
I have been phoning to say goodnight or good morning to them - usualy once in a 24 hour period for 1-2 minutes because at 4 and 3 that is all they talk for.
i don't think this is intrusive or unreasonable but he does and is rude to me when I phone and often hangs up.
When they have stayed at grandparents in the past it is always been expected that i will phone briefly and if I didn't they phoned me.
Ex doesn't phone to talk the the dc's but I have never said he can't.